Would you marry a Doctor? - page 6

Im new to this site and have been looking around. I was pretty shocked to read so many nurses saying they would never with a capital N, marry a DR? Are you kidding me? I would love nothing more to... Read More

  1. by   DoGoodThenGo
    Advice given ages ago by a wise older woman:
    "You'll never know where he is, or how much money he has".
    Applies to men in quite a few professions/careers. Just a bit of advice, do with it what you wish.
  2. by   eCCU

    All that Nursing sch education to waste on looking for a Doc? Just look for a corporate exec or internet millionare! LOL
  3. by   JRN72
    Yes, if he was the right person, I'd forgive him for being a doc, lol. My only "requirement" regarding employment is that there IS employment, lol! Having been married to someone who decided, the minute we were married, that he no longer really needed to have a job, this is important to me. However, I'm not *looking for* a doc, I'm just looking for someone who has a brain, makes me feel comfortable, safe, valued, etc. Who knows what package that may come in, regarding career choice.
    Regarding money and marriage, if I ever hear another man say, "All we neeeeed is looooove", I will be sure to run far, far away. I earn my money and support myself, and I expect a man to be able to do the same, and it's hard to be in "love" when someone is running you into the poorhouse.
    Regarding emotion, if I ever hear another man say, "But i neeeeed yoouuuu", I will also run far far away. I want to be with someone because I want to be, not because I *need* to be (emotionally and financially), and I want someone who is with me because they want to be, not because they *need* to be (emotionally and financially).
    I see enough people married to docs who are happy, some who are not, some who have ended it (including docs who were married to other docs). The same as I see in every other profession.

    Which reminds me, though, of a girl I was in nursing school with. We were hanging in L&D, and some male resident came through...her response when he left- "Cute, no ring..." as well as some other assessements. I just though, you gotta be kidding me...I would never ever look for one specifically, I know that.
    Last edit by JRN72 on Dec 31, '10 : Reason: forgetfulness
  4. by   shoegalRN
    I am dating one now. We do NOT work at the same hospital.

    I was not looking for him. He found me. We met online out of all places.

    It's different. We don't get to spend alot of time together because of our hectic work schedules. But when we do, our cell phones are turned off and it's all about each other.

    Don't know how far this will go, but it's good for right now.
  5. by   nursel56
    I see so much stereotyping going on! Maybe I am biased because most of the doctors I worked with were interns/residents and hadn't had enough time to develop into obnoxious *-*****s at that point? I felt I could tell right then whether or not that individual was someone I would want to take care of me and my family at some point in time. There were a good share of spoiled skirt-chasers related to the Family That Gave the Big Bucks For the New -----whatever . . . but some were sweet and humble and easy to talk to as well.

    Medicine isn't the only profession that requires long work hours, either. I can think of many all up and down the economic scale who fit into that category. Many times a young person who wants to succeed in whatever profession they are in will take on a second job or take classes that are time consuming.

    As for the "rich" part of it. N-O. You are paid well as a doctor for sure, but the truly "rich" have usually done that by becoming a subspecialist doing a common surgery by the bucketload per day in their own office "surgical center" they invest well, they start a chain of urgent care centers or some other entrepreneurial venture. Before that can even happen their student loan debts are usually $100,000+ In the coming years doctor=rich will be becoming less and less true.
  6. by   regularRN
    I can think of a zillion professions that involve long hours and time away from home, regardless... for both males and females.
    Let's turn this around, if the OP was a male, what would we have to say about him dating/marrying a female MD?
  7. by   Katie5
    Quote from Blackheartednurse
    Wow-I have a feeling you are a doctor chaser.
    And you inferred this from her post?
  8. by   Katie5
    In this industry, the only turds I have met are females- does it mean that I don't have a high opinion of females?No.

    It simply means,that they outweigh the male species in "turdism". This is not being PC but twist that- truthfulness matters more.
  9. by   fleurafor
    OP here, I have to say, reading some of these replies has given me a laugh at just how catty and presuming some of you are! Easy killers, #1 Alot of you look like fools presuming that I went to Nursing school specifically to marry a Dr. Um, where in the world do you see that written in my post? I would never put myself through the he** and debt of Nursing school in the sheer hopes that I 'might' marry a Dr! Are you kidding me!? I do happen, however, to be in Nursing school and with some luck and God, am likely to become a Nurse, SO in that case, I will be exposed to lots of Drs. and I would love it if I ended up marrying one! So what!, what is the big deal ladies!? I do fully admit that one of the attributes/requirements of any man I date is that he has the potential to be an excellent provider, however, that doesnt make one a 'gold-digger' at all. Im quite capable of financially supporting myself and I happen to believe that all women should be able to, I just happen to not want to. I much rather focus my time and attention on my children. Thats just me. I have no interest in being a career woman other than financial. To each his own. So to the presumtious posters with the gold-digger, 'she went to school to marry a Dr' comments, youre the ones who sound naive-not everything is so black and white.
  10. by   CuriousMe
    Quote from fleurafor
    OP here, I have to say, reading some of these replies has given me a laugh at just how catty and presuming some of you are! Easy killers, #1 Alot of you look like fools presuming that I went to Nursing school specifically to marry a Dr. Um, where in the world do you see that written in my post? I would never put myself through the he** and debt of Nursing school in the sheer hopes that I 'might' marry a Dr! Are you kidding me!? I do happen, however, to be in Nursing school and with some luck and God, am likely to become a Nurse, SO in that case, I will be exposed to lots of Drs. and I would love it if I ended up marrying one! So what!, what is the big deal ladies!? I do fully admit that one of the attributes/requirements of any man I date is that he has the potential to be an excellent provider, however, that doesnt make one a 'gold-digger' at all. Im quite capable of financially supporting myself and I happen to believe that all women should be able to, I just happen to not want to. I much rather focus my time and attention on my children. Thats just me. I have no interest in being a career woman other than financial. To each his own. So to the presumtious posters with the gold-digger, 'she went to school to marry a Dr' comments, youre the ones who sound naive-not everything is so black and white.

    Why on earth would anyone think that a person who stated, "Im quite capable of financially supporting myself and I happen to believe that all women should be able to, I just happen to not want to." would be a gold digger?

    Just because they've flat out stated that their goal is to find someone to support them, because in spite of being able to support themselves....they just don't want to.

    Yeah, nothing there would imply a gold digger.... :smackingf:
  11. by   canesdukegirl
    Quote from fleurafor
    . Im quite capable of financially supporting myself and I happen to believe that all women should be able to, I just happen to not want to.
    Dude. Seriously?
  12. by   fleurafor
    Here's a little reality for all you haters: You are naive as he** if you think that the ONLY reason and thing that is important in choosing a mate is LOVE. Its not the end all be all. People get married for all kinds of reasons and the ones like me who choose based on requirements in addition to love have successful, happy marriages too and I would even go as far as saying, even have BETTER chances of staying married bc I hate to tell you, Love 10 years later, is not the same love as when you first got married. Youre in a dream world if you think it is. So for the ones who found other things in their mate attractive, they stand a better chance of staying together when the 'love' starts to fade. Now Im sure theyll be some poster who says ' i love my husband more or as much today as when we married.etc..-youre the exception, not the norm. There isnt a 60% divorce rate bc youre the norm. In any event, If a woman who prefers her husband take care of the finances so she can focus on the kids and the home is a gold-digger than wow, more than half of American woman are gold-diggers!, seeing as that many are stay at home Moms and the ones who arent are the saints who posted here. LOL
  13. by   sheila0313
    People wouldn't have to worry about divorce if they only put God first.
    If you put God first in your life, pray, fast and just be obedient to the word of God,
    God will show you your husband. Of course things won't be perfect in the marriage, that's because the devil is always at work.
    For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you a hope and a future. (Jeremiah 29:11) Your marriage will be so much more greater knowing you're with the one God has selected for you.
    The holy spirit told me to give you that scripture and the youtube videos you need to watch.
    Blessings to you!

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UzffqSPr7Zo
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