Use some class/compassion

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I think this forum is the best thing I have found. I have found alot of good information and suggestions. I just wanted to ask all who post or reply to a question to please use some compassion. There is no need to be rude or negative when someone is asking a question or giving advise. Everyone is entitled to their opionion and they deserve respect. I've seen too many reply's to a thread where people are just down right rude. Just my :twocents:

Thank you:D

but can you spell supercalifragilisticexpialidocious

sure can !! ......if i "google" it !! :p

just jokin', caz i actually knew how its spelt anyway - i'm a pianist, and have been playing for nearly 19 years now (and did a degree in music too). i just couldn't resist missing an opportunity to comment on this one, haha !!

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but can you spell supercalifragilisticexpialidocious

sure does take a while to say that word. i always get a kick out of myself when i type "delte" instead of "delete." i always do that, lol.

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Specializes in Addictions, Corrections, QA/Education.
On a serious tone, yes, I thoroughly agree -- comments should be supportive, encouraging, gentle, and in a caring manner. If something needs to be rebuked or pointed out, then do it in a kind manner !!

......Remember, nurses work as a team, right? ......but a team can extend far beyond the "individual workplace", and include all other nursing staff - not matter what field of nursing he/she might be from. That's just my :twocents:

:wink2:

David

I am one that prefers to work as a team BUT some of my coworkers do otherwise. It seems like they just want to claw your eyes out when you think differently than they do. It is like some of the other nurses just want to eat you up. I am pretty sure it is like this many other places as well.

However, there are nurses that do work as a team and those are the ones that I love to work with of course!:lol2:

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Specializes in Med/Surg/Pedi/Tele.

Now this is what I'm talking about.. everyone has an opinion. Everyone who posted is telling the forums what they think in a respectful way.

I would love to be in a room with Donald Trump! Let me at him! :argue:

I am not the one who gets offended at all. I had to put this post out there because of a post that got "closed" by staff because of someone just being downright nasty.

Express your opinions, be sarcastic, but don't be mean and rude. Reminds me of the movie "mean girls" when you purposely act out to hurt another human.

:w00t:

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Mean Girls by Sugarland . .. . wish I could find a video of the band singing it. . . . . .

[YOUTUBE]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xwcBT-d0sqI[/YOUTUBE]

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Specializes in Peds/outpatient FP,derm,allergy/private duty.
Now this is what I'm talking about.. everyone has an opinion. Everyone who posted is telling the forums what they think in a respectful way.

I would love to be in a room with Donald Trump! Let me at him! :argue:

I am not the one who gets offended at all. I had to put this post out there because of a post that got "closed" by staff because of someone just being downright nasty.

Express your opinions, be sarcastic, but don't be mean and rude. Reminds me of the movie "mean girls" when you purposely act out to hurt another human.

:w00t:

I don't think I've ever seen that as someone's intention (to purposefully act out to hurt another person). People get their buttons pushed, and it can get too personal. That's what the moderators are for. For instance, it does irritate me when, say, as an example, a pre-nursing student briefly peruses some of the threads and decides that this group must never have received the compassion memo in 9 years and hundreds of thousands of posts, and he needs to give us the heads up. My "angel"side is telling me that they mean well,etc etc :innerconf my devil side wants to give a sarcastic retort.

In the end, I hope my colleagues will give me the well deserved trout-smack:trout: when I need it:up: I'd rather mix it up in discussions than have everybody always be agreeable and sweet.But then I like Simon better than Paula:D:D

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Specializes in CCU, SICU, CVSICU, Precepting & Teaching.
there are very few things that **** me off and threads like this is one of them. it blows my mind how some people get affended by a few written words on a internet forum. the op is one of the people i see everyday getting walked over. we should put the op on donald trump's show and see how she handles how nice everyone is to each other. (anyone who gets affended with what i just wrote needs to take a deep breath)

"affended"? what does that mean?

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Specializes in CCU, SICU, CVSICU, Precepting & Teaching.
i don't think i've ever seen that as someone's intention (to purposefully act out to hurt another person). people get their buttons pushed, and it can get too personal. that's what the moderators are for. for instance, it does irritate me when, say, as an example, a pre-nursing student briefly peruses some of the threads and decides that this group must never have received the compassion memo in 9 years and hundreds of thousands of posts, and he needs to give us the heads up. my "angel"side is telling me that they mean well,etc etc :innerconf my devil side wants to give a sarcastic retort.

in the end, i hope my colleagues will give me the well deserved trout-smack:trout: when i need it:up: i'd rather mix it up in discussions than have everybody always be agreeable and sweet.but then i like simon better than paula:d:d

i suspect as people mature, they'll both play more nicely with others and develop a thicker skin. but nothing irritates me as much as the self-righteous wannabes who want to tell those of us who've been in the field for years how we ought to think and feel when the patients can't see us!

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Specializes in LTC, Med/Surg, Peds, ICU, Tele.

My only request is that people make their fonts big enough to read, avoid using brightly colored fonts, and use paragraphs.

As far as moderating, it's hard for forums to strike a perfect balance to please all people. If they come down on rough and ready posters too hard, they are accused of suppressing free speech. If they allow a more free-wheeling philosophy to reign, the more thin-skinned people can't handle it.

There's always the 'ignore' feature if you can't stand a certain poster. Also, avoiding threads that bug you. If you post a thread asking for advise, don't be surprised if you get some that rubs you the wrong way.

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Specializes in Med/Surg.
Whatever...it just takes more effort to be rude than it does to be nice. I'm not offended (correct spelling btw), just bewildered by the harshness of it all. No need in it really. I guess a troll is a troll is a troll. :grn: Meh....

I'll beg to differ.......if I read a post that rubs me the wrong way, makes me roll my eyes, etc, it's a HECK of a lot harder to be nice, rather than say what I'm "really" thinking.

I think the atmosphere here is TAME in comparison to just about ANY internet forum. I've said it before on other forums; life isn't all sunshine and rainbows; a large group in ANY setting isn't always going to get a long....if I had to sit here and read nothing but everybody blowing smoke all day long, I'd go nuts. Keep it REAL.

I also don't like it in general when people tell other people how to conduct themselves....we're all adults, and can decide how to respond on our own. Anything far enough out of line, mods will step in. Otherwise, live and let live.

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Specializes in M/S, Travel Nursing, Pulmonary.
I used to participate in forums for insurance agents back when I was an agent, full-time. It was a good way to get industry information. Those insurance agent forums were downright frightful.

For the OP: Each forum has its own culture. Allnurses has been able to maintain a hospitable culture for so many years, while undergoing massive growth, and I find that amazing.

This forum has over 200k (?) anonymous members who generally get along and even thrive with enriching dialogue. People tend to act differently when they are anonymous. Food for thought - perhaps focusing on a few sharp posts isn't seeing the forest for the trees.

Much like the passive aggressive drivers. They are so bold cause they think they will never see you again. But, once in awhile, it ends up with you both going to to the same place and they are like.............going out of their way to avoid you all of a sudden..........the middle finger is well hidden face to face.

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but,but, but pink is my signature color!!!

seriously though, i come here to chill out with people who can sort of understand what i'm going through. admittedly, i'm only half way through my rn classes, i don't know much imo. i have one year left. i get tired and frustrated with some of the patients. not often, but once in a while. i know one day i may become a little more jaded in my thinking. i don't think i will totally lose what my family and friends have called my natural caretaking instinct that i've portrayed ever since i was a child.

i try not to take things personally in clinical. if i did, i don't think i'd make it through. i've learned that some of the reactions my patients have had, is because they're fearful. hospitalization is hard on a patient and their family. i just do my best, and try to care for my patients the way i would want my family to be treated.

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