Use some class/compassion - page 4

I think this forum is the best thing I have found. I have found alot of good information and suggestions. I just wanted to ask all who post or reply to a question to please use some compassion. ... Read More

  1. by   nkara
    Now this is what I'm talking about.. everyone has an opinion. Everyone who posted is telling the forums what they think in a respectful way.

    I would love to be in a room with Donald Trump! Let me at him!

    I am not the one who gets offended at all. I had to put this post out there because of a post that got "closed" by staff because of someone just being downright nasty.

    Express your opinions, be sarcastic, but don't be mean and rude. Reminds me of the movie "mean girls" when you purposely act out to hurt another human.

  2. by   Spidey's mom
    Mean Girls by Sugarland . .. . wish I could find a video of the band singing it. . . . . .

    [YOUTUBE]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xwcBT-d0sqI[/YOUTUBE]
  3. by   nursel56
    Quote from nkara
    Now this is what I'm talking about.. everyone has an opinion. Everyone who posted is telling the forums what they think in a respectful way.

    I would love to be in a room with Donald Trump! Let me at him!

    I am not the one who gets offended at all. I had to put this post out there because of a post that got "closed" by staff because of someone just being downright nasty.

    Express your opinions, be sarcastic, but don't be mean and rude. Reminds me of the movie "mean girls" when you purposely act out to hurt another human.
    I don't think I've ever seen that as someone's intention (to purposefully act out to hurt another person). People get their buttons pushed, and it can get too personal. That's what the moderators are for. For instance, it does irritate me when, say, as an example, a pre-nursing student briefly peruses some of the threads and decides that this group must never have received the compassion memo in 9 years and hundreds of thousands of posts, and he needs to give us the heads up. My "angel"side is telling me that they mean well,etc etc :innerconf my devil side wants to give a sarcastic retort.

    In the end, I hope my colleagues will give me the well deserved trout-smack:trout: when I need it I'd rather mix it up in discussions than have everybody always be agreeable and sweet.But then I like Simon better than Paula
  4. by   Ruby Vee
    Quote from whoknows56
    there are very few things that **** me off and threads like this is one of them. it blows my mind how some people get affended by a few written words on a internet forum. the op is one of the people i see everyday getting walked over. we should put the op on donald trump's show and see how she handles how nice everyone is to each other. (anyone who gets affended with what i just wrote needs to take a deep breath)
    "affended"? what does that mean?
  5. by   Ruby Vee
    Quote from nursel56
    i don't think i've ever seen that as someone's intention (to purposefully act out to hurt another person). people get their buttons pushed, and it can get too personal. that's what the moderators are for. for instance, it does irritate me when, say, as an example, a pre-nursing student briefly peruses some of the threads and decides that this group must never have received the compassion memo in 9 years and hundreds of thousands of posts, and he needs to give us the heads up. my "angel"side is telling me that they mean well,etc etc :innerconf my devil side wants to give a sarcastic retort.

    in the end, i hope my colleagues will give me the well deserved trout-smack:trout: when i need it i'd rather mix it up in discussions than have everybody always be agreeable and sweet.but then i like simon better than paula:d:d
    i suspect as people mature, they'll both play more nicely with others and develop a thicker skin. but nothing irritates me as much as the self-righteous wannabes who want to tell those of us who've been in the field for years how we ought to think and feel when the patients can't see us!

  6. by   FireStarterRN
    My only request is that people make their fonts big enough to read, avoid using brightly colored fonts, and use paragraphs.

    As far as moderating, it's hard for forums to strike a perfect balance to please all people. If they come down on rough and ready posters too hard, they are accused of suppressing free speech. If they allow a more free-wheeling philosophy to reign, the more thin-skinned people can't handle it.

    There's always the 'ignore' feature if you can't stand a certain poster. Also, avoiding threads that bug you. If you post a thread asking for advise, don't be surprised if you get some that rubs you the wrong way.
  7. by   cherrybreeze
    Quote from tishirajan
    Whatever...it just takes more effort to be rude than it does to be nice. I'm not offended (correct spelling btw), just bewildered by the harshness of it all. No need in it really. I guess a troll is a troll is a troll. :grn: Meh....
    I'll beg to differ.......if I read a post that rubs me the wrong way, makes me roll my eyes, etc, it's a HECK of a lot harder to be nice, rather than say what I'm "really" thinking.

    I think the atmosphere here is TAME in comparison to just about ANY internet forum. I've said it before on other forums; life isn't all sunshine and rainbows; a large group in ANY setting isn't always going to get a long....if I had to sit here and read nothing but everybody blowing smoke all day long, I'd go nuts. Keep it REAL.

    I also don't like it in general when people tell other people how to conduct themselves....we're all adults, and can decide how to respond on our own. Anything far enough out of line, mods will step in. Otherwise, live and let live.
  8. by   eriksoln
    Quote from multicollinearity
    I used to participate in forums for insurance agents back when I was an agent, full-time. It was a good way to get industry information. Those insurance agent forums were downright frightful.

    For the OP: Each forum has its own culture. Allnurses has been able to maintain a hospitable culture for so many years, while undergoing massive growth, and I find that amazing.

    This forum has over 200k (?) anonymous members who generally get along and even thrive with enriching dialogue. People tend to act differently when they are anonymous. Food for thought - perhaps focusing on a few sharp posts isn't seeing the forest for the trees.
    Much like the passive aggressive drivers. They are so bold cause they think they will never see you again. But, once in awhile, it ends up with you both going to to the same place and they are like.............going out of their way to avoid you all of a sudden..........the middle finger is well hidden face to face.
  9. by   cursedandblessed
    but,but, but pink is my signature color!!!

    seriously though, i come here to chill out with people who can sort of understand what i'm going through. admittedly, i'm only half way through my rn classes, i don't know much imo. i have one year left. i get tired and frustrated with some of the patients. not often, but once in a while. i know one day i may become a little more jaded in my thinking. i don't think i will totally lose what my family and friends have called my natural caretaking instinct that i've portrayed ever since i was a child.

    i try not to take things personally in clinical. if i did, i don't think i'd make it through. i've learned that some of the reactions my patients have had, is because they're fearful. hospitalization is hard on a patient and their family. i just do my best, and try to care for my patients the way i would want my family to be treated.
  10. by   nursel56
    Quote from eriksoln
    Much like the passive aggressive drivers. They are so bold cause they think they will never see you again. But, once in awhile, it ends up with you both going to to the same place and they are like.............going out of their way to avoid you all of a sudden..........the middle finger is well hidden face to face.
    So true! So awkward when that happens:uhoh21:

    I have no problem using my real name, but I think it might make it easier to identify exactly the places and things I post about sometimes. Don't want that.
  11. by   tishirajan
    I have no problem in keeping it real, so to speak. I do have a problem when people nitpick about things such as spelling when they don't use correct spelling themselves. If you're going to go on a tangent about someone's spelling use a spellchecker for crying out loud.

    I just think that if you have something to say about something you may not agree with you can say it in a constructive way as not to make yourself look like a complete jerk. Who cares if you have a smarta$$ comeback? To me, I respect people's opinions that can clarify themselves in a manner that doesn't resort to flaming or putting down other people. That's not difficult to do.
  12. by   pagandeva2000
    Quote from tishirajan
    I have no problem in keeping it real, so to speak. I do have a problem when people nitpick about things such as spelling when they don't use correct spelling themselves. If you're going to go on a tangent about someone's spelling use a spellchecker for crying out loud.

    I just think that if you have something to say about something you may not agree with you can say it in a constructive way as not to make yourself look like a complete jerk. Who cares if you have a smarta$$ comeback? To me, I respect people's opinions that can clarify themselves in a manner that doesn't resort to flaming or putting down other people. That's not difficult to do.
    I agree with your statement. This is an informal forum...heck, we really don't know who we are communicating with, to be honest... Anyhow, because this is informal, I excuse much more than I would in my professional life. We are sharing, venting, expressing views and such. The last thing we need is to make this into a grammar contest or a spelling bee. If I can get the jist of what a person is saying, that is enough for me.
  13. by   AlabamaBelle
    FWIW - I like Simon better than Paula, too. He makes sense.

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