Quote from Jedrnurse
I wonder if the lack of insight/hypocrisy on the part of this co-worker is that, or if they've got sociopathic tendencies. (Manipulating the "team" mantra when it benefits them and only them, and seeing nothing wrong with leaving you hanging. Oh, and reporting you for not being at their beck and call...)
Sometimes I lose faith in people.
Manipulation is key here. I work with a nurse (call her Miss True, because nothing she says is true) who TELLS ME what I will do to help her, especially when I am charge nurse. "I'm gonna need you to do this ultrasound IV." "My patient needs a boxed lunch, I kind of don't got time to get her one so I'm gonna need you to." "You're going to go in there with me to talk to this family about code status." There was a time I was watching another nurse's patients while she was on lunch and I went to assess a patient who was crying out in pain. The nurse heard the cries from the break room and came in to see what was going on. Then, in walks Miss True, coming to save the day as always and push my incompetent self aside. When the patient was crying and speaking intelligibly, Miss True looked me square in the face said, "She told you to go away" in a rude, flat tone.
I do my best to be respectful to all, and make it a point to ask each person how they are doing and if they need help on any of my shifts, especially when I am charge. As rude as that nurse is, I still ask if she's doing okay and offer help (and follow through, of course) when things get hairy. Like someone else said, don't get down and roll in the mud with them, but don't let them walk all over you, either. Take note when they are unfair, condescending, and rude; when the final straw has been reached, you will have an arsenal to help plead your case. I have yet to go to my manager because I haven't felt so totally violated by her petty behaviors, but I can imagine there will come a day. Work relations are such a drag sometimes.