Nurse Mobbing/bullying

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:balloons: I am new to the forum and would like to get feedback from others who have experienced mobbing/bullying/harassment in the healthcare field. Please share so others might learn more about this issue that needs further exploration.

Specializes in Nursing assistant.

There is a lot of strange behavoir in the work place going on, I even had fellow workers "undo" work I had done, messed up rooms and the like. You just scratch your head, and clean it up.

It is clear when you did all you could to help her, and then she turned on you at the start, this is probably a pattern for her. This is how some people function in the workplace. It is "mean girls" on the playground, but it isn't funny in the adult world. Apparently she sees you as a target ( are you concientious and helpful? cannon fodder) and putting someone in the work place in a bad light is the way she finds significance. Past employers are probably afraid of her. Where as some one like you, they know you are too good to do any harm, so they do not hesitate to rake you over the coals.

When I worked last week, we had a re-admission come in via transport ambulance. The am. guys brought the res. into her room and helped me get her into bed, we covered her with the bed sheet and the bed cover. I then went to an aide and asked her to get her a warmer blanket to cover her with and put her bagged items away. I signed the paperwork for the amb. men and then set out to get her admission underway by someone who knew what to do (I've never done an admission.) After a few more incidents that day by the bullies, I went to my DON and she confronted me about that re-admit res. She said she found her in her room without any covers on her what-so-ever, and her stuff all over the floor. I was flabbergasted and tried to argue my point with her that I had NOT left the res. cold and uncovered, but she didn't believe me. I think the one bully went in there and took her blankets off of her. ???? I can't figure it out, that is the only conclusion I can come to because when I left the room she was covered by a sheet and the bed cover too. The DON said there were no covers at all in the room. Everything had been removed. I really feel sabotaged and how do I protect myself against attacks like that????????? I can't be everywhere constantly. I'm worried about my licensure coming under attack. Who knows what these two are capable of? :angryfire

When I worked last week, we had a re-admission come in via transport ambulance. The am. guys brought the res. into her room and helped me get her into bed, we covered her with the bed sheet and the bed cover. I then went to an aide and asked her to get her a warmer blanket to cover her with and put her bagged items away. I signed the paperwork for the amb. men and then set out to get her admission underway by someone who knew what to do (I've never done an admission.) After a few more incidents that day by the bullies, I went to my DON and she confronted me about that re-admit res. She said she found her in her room without any covers on her what-so-ever, and her stuff all over the floor. I was flabbergasted and tried to argue my point with her that I had NOT left the res. cold and uncovered, but she didn't believe me. I think the one bully went in there and took her blankets off of her. ???? I can't figure it out, that is the only conclusion I can come to because when I left the room she was covered by a sheet and the bed cover too. The DON said there were no covers at all in the room. Everything had been removed. I really feel sabotaged and how do I protect myself against attacks like that????????? I can't be everywhere constantly. I'm worried about my licensure coming under attack. Who knows what these two are capable of? :angryfire

I think you are being deliberately undermined by these two. I got caught in a similar triangle at my former job. I can see the undermining and backstabbing going on that I endured for over 2 years. Start keeping a daily diary of all interactions with your supervisor and these 2 w***ch*S (witnesses if possible). After 2 weeks do the following.

I would make an appointment with the HR manager. Inform them of the kinds of behaviors that the 3 are using towards you. Give a copy (not the original) to the manager. Put management on notice that you believe this is the basis of a hostile work environment. Let them know that you are considering seeking advice from outside agencies. (While you are doing this start job hunting. Unfortunately, the data on bullying shows that the victims are forced out about 70% of the time.)

I would also consult with an employment attorney.

Best of luck but I think you should do everything possible to get away from this situation.

Specializes in Nursing assistant.
i don't know if the form means anything or any more but i see alot favortism here. and you tell me that its not in your work place.

Arblunt, could you explain a little more what you mean?

You need to document and document and document. You present some kind of "threat" to these narcissistic, jealous, insecure individuals. Remember: Only the best are bullied!

Be blessed!

Deb

When I worked last week, we had a re-admission come in via transport ambulance. The am. guys brought the res. into her room and helped me get her into bed, we covered her with the bed sheet and the bed cover. I then went to an aide and asked her to get her a warmer blanket to cover her with and put her bagged items away. I signed the paperwork for the amb. men and then set out to get her admission underway by someone who knew what to do (I've never done an admission.) After a few more incidents that day by the bullies, I went to my DON and she confronted me about that re-admit res. She said she found her in her room without any covers on her what-so-ever, and her stuff all over the floor. I was flabbergasted and tried to argue my point with her that I had NOT left the res. cold and uncovered, but she didn't believe me. I think the one bully went in there and took her blankets off of her. ???? I can't figure it out, that is the only conclusion I can come to because when I left the room she was covered by a sheet and the bed cover too. The DON said there were no covers at all in the room. Everything had been removed. I really feel sabotaged and how do I protect myself against attacks like that????????? I can't be everywhere constantly. I'm worried about my licensure coming under attack. Who knows what these two are capable of? :angryfire

Well, you do have some witnesses that you did cover the resident.

The ambulance guys and the aide.

Ask for their assistance. That will show that you did what you were supposed to do.

You're going to have to fight this head on, toe to toe.

I was bullied once by two people on my job. They told some lies on me, and my DON believed it, and when I tried to tell my side of the story she wouldn't even listen to me at all.

I had no witnesses, no one to back me up. So I just had to shut up and take it. But if you have some witnesses. I would go get them to validate my side of the story.

Specializes in Nursing assistant.
abridged quote

Only the best are bullied!

Be blessed!

Deb

I will take that as a compliment!:specs:

Specializes in ICU.

Just read all the posts of this thread and being a male nursing student I am curious about something. All the complaints I've read are in regards to the female nurses. I've read a few about male doctors but has anyone experienced this with male nurses as the source of these problems? I know males make up the minority of the profession so maybe it's harder to come across.

Just read all the posts of this thread and being a male nursing student I am curious about something. All the complaints I've read are in regards to the female nurses. I've read a few about male doctors but has anyone experienced this with male nurses as the source of these problems? I know males make up the minority of the profession so maybe it's harder to come across.

I'm not sure exactly what you're asking, but I'll answer what I think is the answer.

In reference to my last post, where I stated I was bullied by 2 people on my job....one of those persons was male. He was not a nurse, but was in a position that would be equal to a Certified Nurse's Aide.

Specializes in Nursing assistant.

Interesting but, frankly, all my personal bullies have been girls. This, of course, is purely anecdotal.

Specializes in Corrections, neurology, dialysis.

This is an excellent book about violence between women.

http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1560253517/sr=8-2/qid=1148867691/ref=pd_bbs_2/002-1138440-4524836?%5Fencoding=UTF8

I don't know what it is about women not being able to get along the way men do. I grew up with 5 brothers and as a result I usually say what's on my mind and don't second guess everything someone says. For example: If you say to a man "Are you going out for lunch?" he will think you are truly curious about his plans for lunch. If you ask a woman if she's going out for lunch her thoughts my run along the lines of "Why does she want to know that? Does she want to go to lunch with me? Is she going to ask me to pick something up for me? Is she going to talk about me while I'm gone? Is she trying to go to lunch first so I have so I have to cover for her?..........and so on.

I once had a therapist tell me my interpersonal relationships were difficult because I don't understand "girl games." Since I grew up with brothers I never learned that delicate dance of friendship and language that girls learn to get along with other girls. I try to use this to my advantage and let other women figure out that I mean what I say. I don't couch meanness in friendly language and I won't stab them in the back. Once they get to know me they come to find out they can trust me, and usually any hostility that gets directed at me goes away. I can' say it's foolproof. I've been run out of places where it didn't. Still, I believe in the power of human nature and I try to set a good example. I try to lead by being a good, decent person that others can trust, and hope that others will follow my example. If they don't, I just go someplace else.

BTW, what's a sticky?

Sounds like a good book, I'llcheck it out.

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