How do you deal with personal attacks at work? - page 2

I have read previous articles on this topic, but I am dealing with abusive co workers now, who act so childish and idiotic, I have no words for it. I am an RN working in LTC. Are they jealous I... Read More

  1. by   Serhilda
    Quote from Truth_be-told
    why do you presume they are 'practical nurses'? I worked at a job where i ran circles around the almighty RNs and most sure cop an ego problem about that extra year of college. Are you sure you aren't projecting yourself of some self anointed genius because in the long run, having the money to afford one extra year does not translate to being a brain surgeon vs a janitor. Give me a well seasoned C student LPN with common sense over some of these supposedly impressive RNs that were book smart but were substandard, even dangerous floor nurses. That extra year of school that in many cases your sugar daddy or that wealthy father or mother could buy by no means should place you on some pedestal where you or your ego feels threatened by some 'glorified nurse's aid', as many of you call LPNs.
    I can't imagine where the stereotype comes from that LPNs lack professionalism then cope with their inferiority complex with personal attacks.

    Truly a mystery.
  2. by   smartnurse1982
    Quote from Truth_be-told
    why do you presume they are 'practical nurses'? I worked at a job where i ran circles around the almighty RNs and most sure cop an ego problem about that extra year of college. Are you sure you aren't projecting yourself of some self anointed genius because in the long run, having the money to afford one extra year does not translate to being a brain surgeon vs a janitor. Give me a well seasoned C student LPN with common sense over some of these supposedly impressive RNs that were book smart but were substandard, even dangerous floor nurses. That extra year of school that in many cases your sugar daddy or that wealthy father or mother could buy by no means should place you on some pedestal where you or your ego feels threatened by some 'glorified nurse's aid', as many of you call LPNs.


    Are you serious?

    Reeks of resentment on your part.

    I hope you realize plenty of Rn;s were Lpn's first.

    And btw,Rn's can be Adn's or Bsn. Bsn nurses have an extra 3 years of schooling,not one.

    But for perspective,I was an Lon before becoming an Rn. Do some Rn's resent Lpn's? Yes,and i remember a few incidences were Rn's sucked their teeth because I was not able to perform an initial assessment,which i am assuming was extra work for them.

    But since I've been on both sides,I could say that Lpn resentment of Rn's is far more prevalent than Rn resentment of Lpn's IMO.
  3. by   macawake
    Quote from Truth_be-told
    That extra year of school that in many cases your sugar daddy or...
    Quote from smartnurse1982
    Are you serious?

    Tip of the day; read old threads

    "Allow LPNs to challenge the Board of Nursing to obtain RN licensure" viral post

    Quote from Truth_be-told
    No doubt the RNs who had the money from parents or wealthy spouses to afford to go through 2 years of school instead of 1 year are hostile to this idea and their egos will be assailed at the notion. Others will make up stories about how they donated blood to pay their way through RN school, or starved or lived off of cheese sandwiches for 2 years or ate lint off the carpet to get through RN school, but even when true, they are the exception, not the rule.
    Quote from Truth_be-told
    Never think for a second that 1 extra year of being a psychotic bookworms translates into you being more intelligent than a good LPN.

    Truth_be-told, you never did get back to me about how you got that Master's degree... Lint sandwiches or sugar mommy/daddy...
  4. by   Kooky Korky
    Quote from NewRN'16
    Thank you for your replies. I previously worked in acute care but went to rehab/LTC for convenience/closer to home. Huge mistake I made I won't describe in details what is happening, but you can just imagine. I come home and cry.. I've already suffered of anxiety, this is physically getting me ill. Yes, they do gang up.

    What am I to do except changing jobs?
    One thing you can do - next time someone is mean to you, call her on it. I assume it's a female, although there are plenty of dirty dog male nurses.

    Just say to the person "You must be one of the wrold's most miserable persons. You are so filled with anger and jealousy that it's bubbling out of your pores. You are mean and rude and nasty and I guess that comes from being terribly hurt and disappointed in life. I am not the cause of your pain, Lulu, but I forgive you for being so cruel to me, and will pray for you. I would like to help you if there's a way I can. Let me know." It might help break the ice and you'll become friends for life.
  5. by   Kooky Korky
    Quote from Truth_be-told
    why do you presume they are 'practical nurses'? I worked at a job where i ran circles around the almighty RNs and most sure cop an ego problem about that extra year of college. Are you sure you aren't projecting yourself of some self anointed genius because in the long run, having the money to afford one extra year does not translate to being a brain surgeon vs a janitor. Give me a well seasoned C student LPN with common sense over some of these supposedly impressive RNs that were book smart but were substandard, even dangerous floor nurses. That extra year of school that in many cases your sugar daddy or that wealthy father or mother could buy by no means should place you on some pedestal where you or your ego feels threatened by some 'glorified nurse's aid', as many of you call LPNs.
    Girl, you are so jealous you can't see straight. Carry your behind back to school and get your RN if it means that much to you. Stop crying that no one helped you get that extra year (or 2 ) of school and just go get it.

    I had no sugar Mama or Daddy or wealthy parents. I worked hard for what I have. If family can't help you, make some friends and help each other. Other nurses here have done military service, which is no joke. They work and go to school and raise kids, all at once.

    I am not on a pedestal. I don't think any RN here is. We have all cleaned pee, poo, blood, saliva, sweat, pus, mucus, and vomit. Be that as it may, just deal with your own life.

    You won't, though, because you don't want to face up to the reality that you have or had chances to become an RN but passed them up. So you've settled for bitterness and now you're used to that and you're too scared or too lazy to change anything.

    Much easier to hate and be jealous of others and blame their good luck (which many here probably never actually had) than try to fix your own life.

    I am asking God to open your eyes and help you see how you should proceed from here. At the very least, start counting your blessings every day and every night. You aren't homeless, you have an income, you have sufficient food and clean water, you have clothes on your ack and shoes on your feet, there are no bombers overhead, there is likely at least 1 person who loves you, and you have more than that to be grateful for, I bet.

    Just an aside - I used to work with an LPN who was a total ball of anger, or so we all thought. She was an excellent nurse, by the way, and her patients loved her, but mean as mean can be to coworkers.

    I noticed that she always wore a jacket that had race cars on it. So one day I bought a little race car - a kid size model of a car on her jacket. I gave it to her, said something like "I see you like cars. I saw this in the store and thought you might enjoy it". She nearly kissed me. From that point on, the point at which I took a slight personal interest in her, she couldn't say enough good about me. I guess I was the only one, in a long, long time, who did that. It cost me only a couple of dollars but it made her feel like a million bucks.

    So, OP, maybe you can find a way to break through some of the meanness by finding some way to relate to the meannies on a personal level.

    Of course, some people would love to hear that you have trouble in your end of paradise. They are suffering and they want to know that other people, those THEY have placed on pedestals, have trouble, too.
  6. by   CanadianAbroad
    Perhaps self reflect here a bit and make sure you are not adding to the toxic environment. Here you are pointing out the PNs are the issue and it is stupidity. That doesn't sound very nice at all, and it might show that your own attitude could be contributing here. My suggestion, reapproach them and ask them to hash it out in a professional manner. Ask what the issue is and how this can be resolved. Be assertive, but not dominating or looking down at them because they are PNs. You might find that if you change your own attitude a bit, the situation might improve.
  7. by   Kooky Korky
    Quote from Truth_be-told
    why do you presume they are 'practical nurses'? I worked at a job where i ran circles around the almighty RNs and most sure cop an ego problem about that extra year of college. Are you sure you aren't projecting yourself of some self anointed genius because in the long run, having the money to afford one extra year does not translate to being a brain surgeon vs a janitor. Give me a well seasoned C student LPN with common sense over some of these supposedly impressive RNs that were book smart but were substandard, even dangerous floor nurses. That extra year of school that in many cases your sugar daddy or that wealthy father or mother could buy by no means should place you on some pedestal where you or your ego feels threatened by some 'glorified nurse's aid', as many of you call LPNs.
    OP is not presuming. She can likely be trusted to know the titles of her coworkers.

    TBT, you have some real anger and jealousy issues.

    If you hate Nursing so much, why not just go back to Education or Resp Therapy? I guess you can't. you likely have not been able to hold a job for a while because of your horrible attitude.

    I hope you get the counseling you so desperately need.

    Purposely making your neighbors angry? Wow, that is so wrong. I hope I don't read about you in Serial Killers/Mass Killers Monthly. Please get help.

    Sorry I assumed you were female earlier. I know now, after reading all of your posts, that you are a male.

    Best wishes in all areas of your life.
  8. by   DannyBoy8
    How did I deal with it?

    I went back for my MSN-NP.

    Left 'em in the dust.
  9. by   DrNalepa
    I think the first thing that should be done is talk with the supervisor(s). If that does not work contact the President or CEO of the company and explain to them what is going on, why they cannot keep good RN's and if the action continues it may just hit the news. People in high places do not want their names smeared, but I do believe if you take no action against bullying of LPN's or other RN's nothing will be done. If your supervisor is not aware of the situation nothing can change. If that doesn't help, then seek employment elsewhere. I have not read one positive thing about rehab/LTC, but it doesn't sound like a good work environment seeing comments made.
  10. by   Kooky Korky
    P.S. I understand why you feel as you do about some managers, some owners, even some RN's. But voicing these opinions has been your undoing.

    Best wishes to you, as you try to get a handle on your anger and frustration and seek a new direction in life so you will be happier.
  11. by   kbrn2002
    Quote from Truth_be-told
    why do you presume they are 'practical nurses'? I worked at a job where i ran circles around the almighty RNs and most sure cop an ego problem about that extra year of college. Are you sure you aren't projecting yourself of some self anointed genius because in the long run, having the money to afford one extra year does not translate to being a brain surgeon vs a janitor. Give me a well seasoned C student LPN with common sense over some of these supposedly impressive RNs that were book smart but were substandard, even dangerous floor nurses. That extra year of school that in many cases your sugar daddy or that wealthy father or mother could buy by no means should place you on some pedestal where you or your ego feels threatened by some 'glorified nurse's aid', as many of you call LPNs.
    I work in a SNF that employs both RN's and LPN's, mostly the former. I don't believe a single LPN has ever been disrespected because of their degree and not a single LPN has ever openly condemned an RN because of their education. In LTC there are few differences in the scope of practice between LPN's and RN's, at least where I work. There are a few nurses whose judgement I trust more than others and yes, some of those are LPN's.

    The only one with an ego problem seems to be you.
  12. by   Paws2people
    Quote from Sour Lemon
    Well, this is a BIG change from your "I'm a new grad nurse" thread.
    Reality set in. Honeymoon phase is over :-)
  13. by   Qing
    Okay, I get the feeling that you are in an environment that really doesn't support team work or working together for the greater good. There are those people who hold things against you just because you are different (whether justified or not). Jealousy is a big problem, where people don't realize that just because you have a title or appear like everything is good... it could be far from it. How you present yourself could make a difference too, as they may not see you as how you think you present yourself.
    The way you are describing things, I think it is better you get another position somewhere else, its not worth your health and mind to suffer like this. You are miserable and it is better you are happy. Not every place is like this, but its not worth it for you to stay there and be miserable. If people could be more mature and work together for the greater good, there wouldn't be so many problems.

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