Disrespectful coworkers - page 2
I work with some people who don't respect me, or don't like me, or I'm not even sure. They are all less educated than I am but treat me like I'm an idiot. I always try as hard as I can, I work hard,... Read More
Oct 13, '12Occupation: RN Specialty: 4 year(s) of experience in Electrophysiology, Cath Lab, MS, Travel ; From: US ; Joined: Jan '12; Posts: 12; Likes: 11Wow, forget my first post that gave advice of trying to get to know them, it's clear from your other posts that you have already given that a good shot. It's one thing to have a bad work environment with unpleasant coworkers, but it's a whole different ballgame when your license is compromised because you are put in a Charge nurse position with people neglecting to do their job. That is very unfair to you and I agree with everything the above poster said. Get upper mgmt on your side. If for some reason you can't or upper mgmt won't address your concerns, & you feel as though your license is on the line, maybe as a last resort look into a transfer to another area or look for another job? I may sound like a broken record w/ this...but: At the end of the day, you have one license & worked your butt off to get it, so you must do what you have to do to protect it. My heart goes out to you & I hope you are able to get the support you deserve!
Oct 13, '12Occupation: RN Specialty: 5 year(s) of experience in Oncology ; From: US ; Joined: Apr '12; Posts: 597; Likes: 1,293I've spoken with management and there will be a period of time I will be removed from the unit and in another unit. I think this will make the workers understand that they need to respect me because they should come to appreciate all of the extra work I do when it's pushed back on them to handle instead of me. I will be working a different assignment for a period of time before returning.
Oct 13, '12Occupation: Studying like a madwoman until exit exams and NCLEX are done. From: US ; Joined: Jun '09; Posts: 1,071; Likes: 883Quote from JZ_RNI'll tell you right now, they've won. By removing you they won't care about the work (who did it before you) and no one will lift a finger. By leaving for a bit, they won. Hate to say it. As charge why weren't you writing up the breaks and such? As boss you SHOULDN'T be hanging out with them (at least that's the NCO in me saying that). Being left out sucks, but are there other charge nurses you can talk to on other floors?I've spoken with management and there will be a period of time I will be removed from the unit and in another unit. I think this will make the workers understand that they need to respect me because they should come to appreciate all of the extra work I do when it's pushed back on them to handle instead of me. I will be working a different assignment for a period of time before returning.
Oct 13, '12From: US ; Joined: Nov '08; Posts: 5,272; Likes: 14,078Quote from SparrowhawkNo fault if you don't have the authority as charge to take action to change the behavior, there's no nurse mentor to help, (as they have no DON) and the manager is not a nurse. It's like hanging out someone to dry with no chance to have recourse.They're being mean to her and ya'll are basically saying its' her fault.
They get away with it because they are allowed to. And there is absolutely nothing that anyone can do about it. Stinks out loud......
Oct 14, '12Occupation: RN Specialty: 5 year(s) of experience in Oncology ; From: US ; Joined: Apr '12; Posts: 597; Likes: 1,293I am not in a disciplinary role. I am not worried about winning. And if they don't do their jobs now, they will be responsible for patients deaths from coumadin problems, babies born pre-term, and cancer deaths. They're going to have to do some real work now. I am taking a much easier and more pleasant assignment for part of the week and then returning for part of the week. the manager, who has disciplinary action pending and is the person responsible for discipline, is having a formal meeting with the workers and discussing their new assignments. They're also being broken up so that this "clique" of coworkers moves to separate work areas. I don't want to hang out with them, but to be ignored when I speak to them and treated like the unpopular 2nd grader at lunch isn't going to work for me. They are getting what they need to do their jobs properly and act like grown ups now. I am glad I talked with management.
Oct 18, '12Occupation: RN Specialty: 4 year(s) of experience in Electrophysiology, Cath Lab, MS, Travel ; From: US ; Joined: Jan '12; Posts: 12; Likes: 11That's fantastic news! I'm glad those changes are being made to your work environment & hope that it all works out positively.
Oct 19, '12Joined: Dec '11; Posts: 1,195; Likes: 3,456Resign. There is no point in staying in that environment.
May 13, '13Joined: May '13; Posts: 127; Likes: 245I agree with this response. If you are a manager. Go home of Friday after work, write down the expections and job description of each employee. When you come in on Monday, walk by and said a polite Hello Ladies and Gentlemen if men are involved. Whether they speak it not important. You have done your part to initate a greeting. Set up a meeting with each employee, do not bring up the past, let them know what is expected, listen for feedback and respond accordingly to what their job description states. Make a list of supplies, go around the department and find those supplies. Make yourself stay busy and smile, sing as you go. Keep in mind it is a job, not your life. Do a good job if that is your nature, but also learn to say no. Take some professional growth classes and always keep your eye looking out for new opportunities. This life is too short to be miserable on a job.
May 19, '13Joined: May '13; Posts: 1Unfortunately, the nursing profession is very much like middle school. I've been in it for almost 10 yrs, and I just haven't figured out exactly why we are so compassionate and tolerant of our patients, yet (occasionally) so mean to each other. Believe me, I understand. I completely understand why you alluded to your education, because in many circles that should be something that earns you some respect, or at least a seat at the table of (attempted) mutual understanding.
A few of the lessons I have learned:
1) smile a lot, don't talk about others even if others gossip to you
2) do not reveal information about your private life (well things that could be controversial like your husband was an abuser or your son is failing kindergarten or your political and/or religious beliefs UNLESS they are shared by most on your unit)
3) as you can see, emphasizing your intellect, knowledge, or experience in other areas is not well received by many (some will relate to you more but that's another subject)
4) try to communicate using brief, simple statements that are NOT defensive or critical or intellectually condescending
5) when you make a small error, DONOT attract attention to yourself by being either overly peninent (" I can't believe I did that, OMG, what am I doing?", or overly defensive "everybody does that.... it was really --------'s fault"). Just smile and MOVE ON.
6) Staff people love nurses who cook and/or bake once and a while for the whole unit. Yes, it's a lot of work, and yes, you are very busy with everything else in your life, but if you are genuinely happy and maternal when you bring stuff in.... that can go a long way in the damage control dept.
7) Accept that nursing, like every other experience in life, is simply not fair. Some people, who are the same everything as you (smart, generous, well humored, clinically proficient etc) will be more well liked and respected, and some will be less so. Why? Who knows.