Quote from rkitty198
I would step away after I encourage others to contact the compliance hotline/or ethics hotline.
Okay. Sometimes, I guess even if it's the better course to take, there are things you just can't walk away from. I've been there, too.
It's hard when the "bully" does it in a covert way. Such as one of our doctors. It's not what he says, but how he says it. His tone, how he stands and looks at you.
rkitty, That's not bullying. It may feel that way, but it's not bullying. Doctors act that way. It's part of the medical profession. Being able to deal with that IS part of being a nurse. You see, if you call that bullying, no one will take you seriously. And then how will you ever be an effective advocate?
I called a rapid response on one of his patients and he asked me if I thought that the patient should be transferred, then he transferred them, stating "this nurse doesn't think she can take care of my patient properly." Which was true, on our floor, but not in the way he said it. Then I told him that I just got back from bereavement leave from the death of my dad and his tone was not needed. He said "well if you are feeling too sensitive maybe you came back too soon."
That's not bullying, rkelly. It just feels like it is. If you were suing him, let's say, a lawyer would tell you that you had no business whatsoever saying that to him. It had nothing to do with the job or the patient, and was only a form of manipulation. I know that sounds cold, but you can't bring your problems from home to work--and them use them in the course of your work. You could have said, "That's right, Doctor: I can't care for your patient with what we have available on this floor." And that's it. Every nurse in earshot would be on your side--they all know he's a dick. They already know it.
And don't get me wrong. I feel you. I feel your anger. I know where you're coming from. But you have to understand that everywhere in every country and state, doctors pretty much act the same way. A nurse must learn how to deal with that or they simply will not be an effective nurse. And if you're a good nurse and you burn out or get pushed out because of how doctors treat you, then what about all the patients you could have helped? You see, part of being a patient advocate is hanging on that cross called "The Medical Working Environment."
Good luck to you my friend.