A patient made me cry today - page 7

my skin is really thick. i've seen alot of things between being a nurse and a paramedic. i've seen abuse, neglect and death before. today, i got a patient from the emergency room with a massive... Read More

  1. by   shamari
    I went on a job interview recently an the interviewer asked me "what kind of nurse would I like working with" and I answered " the kind of nurse who loves nursing as much as I do" and needless to say you are that type of nurse. Bought tears to my eyes to read this story. You are a wonderful nurse. Wish we had more like you. God bless You!!!!
  2. by   LEN-RN
    You made ME cry today....in a good way.

    You were his angel. My heart goes out to him.
  3. by   Busia
    Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. I'm in tears right now. Thank you for showing this man compassion and for making sure that the last hands he feels on this earth are kind ones. You are a wonderful person.
  4. by   FranEMTnurse
    Quote from flightnurse2b
    i don't know the whole story, all i know is what case management told me about his past and where he came from.... the man was dying and i did what i was supposed to do--allowed him to die in peace and tried to make sure he wasn't alone or scared anymore while he was under my care. i did protect him.

    i called the abuse hotline and social services. they came and did their own photos and report.
    but as far as calling the cops, yes it looked like absolute abuse and neglect to me, but it is not for me to point the finger.... that is why i called the abuse hotline...they do their own investigation, it is not up to me... my hands are tied beyond that point. i'm just a staff nurse.

    his troponin was 17, and he had an st elevation present in 4 leads... he died of a heart attack, honestly (but i'm sure being emaciated, neglected, beaten didn't help the situation. dont remember what his lytes were but they were probably off the charts)...and i'm not quite sure how he held on for the entire 12 hours i had him, but he did, and then he went to hospice, was comfortable, and died in peace...and at our local hospice, they have special nurses and cna's who sit with the patients that have no one with them, and stay with them until the pass.

    a forensic investigation is totally out of my realm, but i do appreciate the knowledge.
    sweetheart, and you are just as much a professional as all others mentioned. :icon_hug::redpinkhe

    czarabain, i'm sure that was a type o in your message, because you did post a kind message.
  5. by   oncnursemsn
    Who said "Only man has the capacity to show so much mercy and grace, and show so much brutality"? I'm killing this quote- but it's true. Flightnurse- you were there when he was in such desperate condition. You did all that you could to make his last hours peaceful. Whoever the brutal beast(s) who got him in that condition are despicable. I agree with the poster to pray for them but it's hard. My heart goes out to those who suffer at the hands of their abusers- animals, children and vulnerable elderly folk.
    Thank you for reminding me why I'm still a nurse after 26 years...
  6. by   sissiesmama
    Thank you so much for the kindness you showed him during your short time with him. Whether it is in this lifetime, or later, you will be richly rewarded for your kindness. Bless you, Allison!

    Anne, RNC
  7. by   CanuckStudent
    Truly horrible. I am so glad this poor man got some comfort and dignity in his last hours. But I have to ask myself, do nurses really make a difference, or do we just prolong suffering? MDs can prescribe meds to help the patient pass quicker or 'easier', but nurses just poke and prod until they do. Sometimes I wonder if a dying person even WANTS a stranger holding their hand in their last moments. I would feel violated and awkward as that patient. We are brainwashed with so called 'nursing theory' into thinking that we help, but do we really in such cases? Or is this what we tell ourselves to cope at the end of the day after unspeakable horrors such as this? Is this a nursing success story, or the horror of reality? Some food for thought...
  8. by   flightnurse2b
    Quote from CanuckStudent
    Truly horrible. I am so glad this poor man got some comfort and dignity in his last hours. But I have to ask myself, do nurses really make a difference, or do we just prolong suffering? MDs can prescribe meds to help the patient pass quicker or 'easier', but nurses just poke and prod until they do. Sometimes I wonder if a dying person even WANTS a stranger holding their hand in their last moments. I would feel violated and awkward as that patient. We are brainwashed with so called 'nursing theory' into thinking that we help, but do we really in such cases? Or is this what we tell ourselves to cope at the end of the day after unspeakable horrors such as this? Is this a nursing success story, or the horror of reality? Some food for thought...
    i shudder at the thought of ever dying alone.
    i would be glad to have a stranger hold my hand.
  9. by   mncna08
    wow, you are an amazing person....thats all i can say...
  10. by   mncna08
    Quote from canuckstudent
    truly horrible. i am so glad this poor man got some comfort and dignity in his last hours. but i have to ask myself, do nurses really make a difference, or do we just prolong suffering? mds can prescribe meds to help the patient pass quicker or 'easier', but nurses just poke and prod until they do. sometimes i wonder if a dying person even wants a stranger holding their hand in their last moments. i would feel violated and awkward as that patient. we are brainwashed with so called 'nursing theory' into thinking that we help, but do we really in such cases? or is this what we tell ourselves to cope at the end of the day after unspeakable horrors such as this? is this a nursing success story, or the horror of reality? some food for thought...


    we are meant to love, and be loved. that person needed to know that someone cared about him. you dont have to be a nurse to make a difference in someones life, its human nature to reach out and comfort someone in time of need. i believe that people come into our life for a reason, she was there to care because he needed her. i would by all means want someone with me when im dying, i wouldnt care if it were a stranger. life is crazy and so much more than what we think.just my thoughts
  11. by   Kolohe99
    Quote from CanuckStudent
    ...Sometimes I wonder if a dying person even WANTS a stranger holding their hand in their last moments. I would feel violated and awkward as that patient. ...
    Many years ago I was flying on a DC10 that had a catastrophic failure of an engine just after takeoff. When the engine failed the plane shuddered and we immediately began to turn back to the airport. Even after the pilot explained what had happened, that everything was OK, and that we were returning for an emergency landing most people appeared to be apprehensive. (This was only a few years after an engine had fallen off a DC10 and all aboard were killed.)

    The lady beside me was very fearful, and I tried to assure her that everything was going to be OK. But as we got closer to landing, her fear began to border on hysteria, so without asking, I simply reached over and took her hand as I continued to reassure her. She grasped it tightly during the successful emergency landing.

    That lady was convinced she was going to die; and I KNOW that she appreciated a stranger holding her hand because she thanked me afterward. I think that when you stare death in the face, you might appreciate a stranger's hand despite your beliefs now. I'm also sure, that in that hopefully far off day, there will be a nurse like Allison there for you. :heartbeat
  12. by   319Port
    Your a wonderful nurse and at least he found a little kindness before he passed away.
  13. by   gabby0226
    God Bless You for being his savior in his time of need

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