Networked with Former Classmate, Got Per Diem Job, and Now She's Ignoring Me

[live&love&heal]

I need some advice. My former LVN classmate and I were very close in school and often studied together and hung out. From time to time, we would call each other, text each other during holidays, and have get togethers every few months with our other former classmates to keep in touch. She recently got a job as a DON at a SNF and asked if I wanted a per diem LVN job at his clinic. I took the job with the understanding that I would be working under her and in hopes that we kept our acquaintance and work relationship separate. When I was hired I gave my address, SSN, banking information, livescan, physical, background check, etc. All of my personal information. I worked 1 day being oriented to the job. It has been a month since I have been hired and I was supposed to work 2-3 days to orient me on the job.

I was going to call my her (DON/former classmate) to ask her the next time I needed to return to work but, I'm working per diem. How exactly is this done? Do I call her or they call me?

Also, she deleted me from her Facebook account.

I feel like I may have lost my connection with her as a former classmate. Also, she now knows all of my personal information. Everything feels so awkward now. I sense that she is ignoring me. What should I do? I can't even use this job as a reference since I only worked 1 day.

[dthfytr, ADN, LPN, RN, EMT-B, EMT-I]

I'm afraid you'll have to ask her what's going on knowing she may avoid you, give you an answer you don't like, or maybe she's got stuff in her life preoccupying her. I can't see any other way to resolve it other than walking away. Good luck.

[Anisettes, BSN, RN]

I think you should call and ask. Don't automatically assume she doesn't want to remain friends with you. She may have deleted you from her friends to avoid the appearance of later claims of favoritism. But I don't know the real reason and neither do you, so don't assume - call her and ask.

As a per diem, you have the right to ask if there are shifts available and you could also point out that you noticed that she'd deleted you and say that you understand she might have done so to keep things professional and above board. I'd hate to have you lose a friend because you were too scared to ask a couple of questions - or afraid of the answers. Good Luck.

[lifelearningrn, BSN, RN]

It sounds like a strange situation. If it were me, and I was going to remove someone from my facebook because I didn't want it to look like favoritism, I would have notified my friend immediately and let her know what I was doing and why.

The fact that she hasn't contacted you as a friend or a boss is suspect too. There is only one way to know for sure what is happening, and that is to call her as a friend and ask her to be frank with you.

I've made a lot of friends in classes where we have study groups and lunch and all that but when the semester ends or we end up having different classes, I've found the "friendships" tend to dissolve. Accept and move on, is my motto.

I don't think you should be left hanging though. If they have no intention of calling you back in to work you should know so you're not left wondering if you are employed by them at all or not.

Another possibility with this could be that after she hired you she had to freeze training and using per diems, and is too chicken sh*t to tell you that you can't have the job after all. Either way, I don't believe she's treated you well as a friend, or a boss.

[MaryEMT]

This seems very strange to me, although I have no experience. The fact she has all your information and you haven't been contacted for work is slightly concerning. You did work one day so maybe just a lack of work? I wouldn't overly worry about facebook, maybe she deleted her profile? Your best bet is just to call her and see what is up. Good luck and keep us posted.

[Batman25]

I'd definitely call and ask if there were shifts open. I'd also ask her about FB. It could be because she wants to avoid the appearance of favortism which I can understand. That doesn't mean you still couldn't be friendly outside of work but she might be uncomfortable with that as some don't like mixing business with pleasure. There is nothing wrong with giving her a ring and asking her in a nice and polite way where things stand. It's a fair question.

[canchaser, BSN, RN]

Probably management requires her to not be friends with u on fb. This protects her as well as u. If u posted something on fb about a bad day at work or something about pt x and their behavior that day, it could be considered hippa and she seen it she would have to act on it. My coworker moved up to management when she did the higher ups told her to delete all of us from her account.. Just talk to her plus u need to find out the available shifts.