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hello friends, I am interested in the nursing field as well. I currently work at a dialysis unit as a tech, and I have been there for a little over a year. I have literally forced myself to begin working towards this dream by applying to a college, I have called and visited with the director of the nursing program, and I am filling out paperwork for financial aid. I am a single parent and I know that I am going to have to take all this in stride because I cannot afford to take off work completely at this time. Therefore, I will be taken prerequsites to get the process started. Here's my problem I have always been a compassionate, tender hearted person, its just the way I was raised. I have a bond with many of the patients at the clinic because we communicate so well. I have very little confidence in myself, I always have. I hate it. I have anxiety for which I recently began med for so I hope it helps. One of my charge nurses brought me into a conversation one day in front of patients along with other staff and began to bring me down, stating that she felt that nursing school wasnt for me b/c I am too nice, too much of a softy, and that nursing school would chew me up and spit me out. OMG, this made me feel so bad, I had to walk out of the room because i could feel the tears starting to build up. I have problems with self esteem and confidence as it is, I had a rough childhood growing up. i don't need that crap. I'm sick and tired of apologizing to people for being a softy as she named me. any advice would be helpful

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Specializes in Home Health.

Don't let other people bring you down! You can do it;)! But, with that said, you do need to work on your confidence. Patients will be able to tell when person it not confident about their work. I'm sure you're great at what you do and I'm sure you would be an awesome nurse, but you have to believe in yourself. YOU CAN DO IT.

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Specializes in Med-Surg/Ortho.

That charge nurse was out of line. But dont let that discourage you..I'm a senior in nursing school right now (I like to come on this forum just to see what you guys talk about lol) and yes nursing school is tough. But its not true that you cant be a sweet, kindhearted, compassionate person and survive nursing school. In fact that would make you a better nurse. All you have to do to be successful in nursing school is study, apply yourself, stay focused and have faith in yourself. There will be times when you are tired, nervous, frustrated and much more as a nursing student..but once you get that degree it will all be worth it. I have a couple months left and im so excited. So good luck!

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Specializes in SNF/Acute.

first of all, the only way you will feel "degraded" is if you let them!

if your heart is set on nursing, and you have the strength, discipline, and motivation (your child) then it is not impossible.

nursing school is very challenging though,you will learn an enormous amount of information, sometimes too much! lol. anyhow, if you are worried about your self esteem maybe you can see someone about it, or read some self help books? i wouldn't let your self esteem, get in the way of what you'd like to pursue in life.

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hello friends, I am interested in the nursing field as well. I currently work at a dialysis unit as a tech, and I have been there for a little over a year. I have literally forced myself to begin working towards this dream by applying to a college, I have called and visited with the director of the nursing program, and I am filling out paperwork for financial aid. I am a single parent and I know that I am going to have to take all this in stride because I cannot afford to take off work completely at this time. Therefore, I will be taken prerequsites to get the process started. Here's my problem I have always been a compassionate, tender hearted person, its just the way I was raised. I have a bond with many of the patients at the clinic because we communicate so well. I have very little confidence in myself, I always have. I hate it. I have anxiety for which I recently began med for so I hope it helps. One of my charge nurses brought me into a conversation one day in front of patients along with other staff and began to bring me down, stating that she felt that nursing school wasnt for me b/c I am too nice, too much of a softy, and that nursing school would chew me up and spit me out. OMG, this made me feel so bad, I had to walk out of the room because i could feel the tears starting to build up. I have problems with self esteem and confidence as it is, I had a rough childhood growing up. i don't need that crap. I'm sick and tired of apologizing to people for being a softy as she named me. any advice would be helpful

If nursing school is what you want to do then you can do it. But keep in mind when you go through nursing school and clinicals you will meet more people like the charge nurse so you will need to develop a thicker skin about comments. Some of people may be out to demean but others may mean no harm it's just their instruction style - their way of encouraging people to toughen up. You don't need to reply verbally to these kinds of things, just hold your head up in a way that says "yes I can" or "just watch me" and go about your business. People will get the message.

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You should use this, negativity to help you toward your goal. Take the negative comments and say to yourself "They are wrong."And then work to prove them wrong! Continue to work toward your goal. Please don't give up.:redpinkhe

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Hang in there! I think being a "softy" will make you a kind, compassionate, and skilled nurse. Don't let anyone make you feel like that is a bad quality to have. Be brave...just grit your teeth and plunge in, even if you're terrified. I promise that you can make it if you try. Good luck to you, you will be a great nurse someday!

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Specializes in SNU/SNF/MedSurg, SPCU Ortho/Neuro/Spine.

just be confident on you self, believe on what you think it is right!

DONT EVER LET something like that hurt you... analyze the criticism, and if nothing good comes from it just let it go!

you are gonna be great! forget about others and focus on your self! love your self a little!

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God created you as that tender being so that you will have compassion for your patients,,, please tell her to kick rocks... do not apologize for who you are, you were created by God as a designer's original and walk in that... If nursing is in your heart don't let anyone stop your destiny....Do your pre-requisites and apply to nursing school. I believe that your kindness and tender heart will be pivotal in your approach as a nurse... Keep your head up!!

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as the others have already stated, do not let anyone's negativity ever bring you down! It is YOUR life and you can do everthing you want in life!!! That nurse was way out of line you are a good employee and thats all that should matter in her eyes who is she to tell you what she thinks you are tough enough to be? prove them wrong and achieve your goals and dreams!!!! Good luck to you!:nuke:

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Thanks everyone for the advice. I will do my very best to use it. It makes it hard bc the other charge nurse who works at the facility backs her up. She wasnt even there to see how the other nurse treated me so who does she think she is to give her two cents? Guess what she told me today, I'm too much of a softy. What a crock?

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What a crock is right!! Ignore them let your haters be your motivators!!!

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