My mom just passed away....

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Specializes in hospice, ortho,clinical review.

I can't even believe I am posting this...I was here earlier this afternoon...then while studying for my ocology rotation...I got the dreaded call....she passed suddenly she was age 83. :sniff:

At least she's with my dad now, who passed in 2003 and was part of a catalyst to my calling...but

As much as I think I can trudge on with the 5 weeks left for this term...I don't know...maybe I'm kidding myself! :(

I have 3 sociology papers due on Monday and back to back exams the next 2 Fridays...not to mention the toughest semester clinical (b/c of the instructor) for oncology for the next 2 weeks....I have no idea how I'm going to actually pull this off....My mom always said that I was the strongest person she knew for all I've had to endure in my life....abusive ex husband...raising a son on my own for 12 years...then about 1 1/2 after my dad died...I met the most wonderful man...and just "knew" and married him....I'm really happy now...things are moving...but now this....I always thought that she'd see me graduate this June....she was active...she bowled 2 leagues for crying out loud....in fact the local paper just did a story about her b/c she was there for so long...she was so proud...it was so cute.

Dammit...I just wasn't ready....I know she's "home" now....but still....

Anybody been through this during school and made it through...I can't quit...I'd lose the whole time until next spring and I can't afford that time off...I know she'd want me to continue...

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Specializes in Tele Step Down, Oncology, ICU, Med/Surg.

Sorry for your loss. It sounds like you've had a rough go at life in the past and it's probably made you very strong. You must know it will get easier with time.

I lost my 60 year-old mom in 2002--one of the hardest things I've ever experienced and I am a breast cancer survivor. Your mom is your foundation. This lead me to my nursing journey as an older student with three kids.

Then lost dad in 2005 while going thru pre-reqs. Hard, but I knew what to do and what to expect after what I went through with mom so it made it more manageable.

Emersion therapy is the best thing--it helped me to have something like school to get lost into so I could porifice out my grief and pain in manageable bits.

No way around the grief though--it sucks not having parents when all my friends are just losing their grandparents. Grief takes some time and energy to process. But it also lights a fire under you like nothing else.

Still. Really sucks not having parents to back me with the kids so I can focus on nursing school.

Many blessings on your journey.

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Specializes in Ortho, Neuro, Detox, Tele.

Many hugs and support to you on your loss...stick through it and know she'll be with you in spirit...and dedicate yourself to being the best nurse you can be...in her memory.

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Specializes in Tele,CCU,ER.

I'm sorry! :( Hugs to you. I wish you the best and keep going with NS! I know she wants this for you and will be proud of you. You will be a great nurse. Like you said, you can't quit. Just take a day and let it all out...if you need to. Best wishes...

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Specializes in critical care: trauma/oncology/burns.

Kittyhawk:

Understand a bit of what you are going through.

Both my Mum and Pops were hospitalized at the same time, in two different hospitals, in two different boroughs (lived in NYC at that time)

They died two years apart.

Every now and again I wish they were both alive and I wonder if they would have finally been proud of me.

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

athena

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Oh, I am so sorry for your loss! My Dad died while I was in graduate school, and I remember how tough that was.

:icon_hug: Many hugs to you.

I hope your school will cut you a little slack and that you find some way to keep going for the remainder of the semester. Staying busy with school may be good for you right now, but please plan some time during your quarter/semester break where you don't have to be anywhere or do anything.

Again, I am so sorry.

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Specializes in Acute Care Psych, DNP Student.

I am so sorry for your loss. You need to take care of yourself right now.

I have to think if your instructors knew your mother just passed away - they would give you extensions on those assignments. I would take the weekend and just be. Just be with those you love and take this in.

Then, within a few days, you are going to get back on your horse, and it's going to be difficult, but you'll do it. You said yourself that your mother would have wanted you to continue in nursing school.

But please do tell your instructors. Students get extensions for FAR less than the death of a parent.

Again, I'm so sorry for your loss. Take care of yourself.

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I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. *hugs*

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Specializes in cardiac/critical care/ informatics.

(((((HUGS))))) I know words can't express your feelings.

My mom died in june, I am not in school but it is hard no matter what phase of life your in just take it moment to moment day to day.

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I am so sorry, kitty.

Trudge on. Make completing this term your memorial to your mom.

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Specializes in Utilization Management.

I'm so sorry to hear of the loss of your mother. :icon_hug:

Please don't quit school, but ask for extensions on your assignments as Multi suggests.

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I am so sorry for you! I can't imagine how hard this is. Maybe you can put your focus into your studies. Your mom wanted you to finish school, and you said she was behind you, so use all of yourself to do this for your mom. You know she is still with you, and you will see her again. Take care of yourself, and I will pray for you and your family.

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