My beautiful self..

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sorry about the title,

i just wanted to catch your attention

i have a problem I hope you could direct me to a solution

this is very serious for me

please don't take my words offensively for I'm gonna say it as direct as I coulld

In the general population, I can be considered physically very beautiful.

I appreciate the way I am made, the way I look in the mirror

I work very hard above and beyond for my patients,

I feel good that I can honestly say that I always give the best care as much as I can

My problem is I have difficulty dealing with the young male doctors and there's a lot, because they stare at me, or throw me looks nothing offensive. But I get so conscious, I have never been comfortable with attention. I am a very quiet person too, I speak English but not as articulate as I write it. I guess how do I make myself and them comfortable so that it's a congenial but professional environment. I cant even smile at them, they are quiet too like intimidated or afraid to talk to me and stuff. Ive been observing these behaviors to see if I am imagining it, but I dont think I am.

Do you think it's me? I really want to communicate the care I provide better so I can slep at night.

thank you so much. I dont want to purposely make myself unkept..

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Specializes in Intermediate care.

I think you are thinking way to much into this. generally young, male doctors are residents. Residents CAN be intimidating. However; if they are YOUNG males, they are probably 1st or 2nd year. In my experience, they are intimated by all nurses not just young cute ones.. Why? Because a nurse WILL challenge a doctor if they don't agree with something. I've challenged them...i'm not afraid to. They know we as nurses have experience they do not have. I don't think this has to deal anything with your looks because people in the medical field know we have 1 job, and 1 job only...that is to take care of the patients. Not to look for hook ups.

Hospitals in real life are not like greys anatomy. trust me, they are not interested. There are some VERY VERY good looking residents that i work with, and just because they are "good looking" does not mean i act any different around them.

I think its in your head ;-)

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Specializes in Med Surg - Renal.

Just be professional.

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Specializes in ER.

You could start wearing a simple gold band/wedding ring. I still wear mine even though my husband died 4 years ago. It at least gives you a good excuse if anyone comes on to you. It will deter many from even trying, and as long as you don't give any "come on" looks or invitations, you should be able to care for your patients and ignore anything else. Most of it has to do with your attitude. Dress modestly, keep your hair and make up simple and do all you can to portray a professional image, and others will get the picture.

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Specializes in Medsurg, Homecare, Infusion, Psych/Detox.

Just be polite, assertive and speak intelligently at all times. Also do not answer personal questions. You are only one of many beautiful persons that they will come into contact with during the course of the day.

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Specializes in NICU.

You sound like you don't have confidence in your ability to speak English. Do something about that! Find a group to practice conversational English (check your library system). Elicit a friend to correct your accent when it's distracting. Heck, watch Gray's Anatomy and copy how they say things - both conversational and professional English. Record yourself & play it back.

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I agree with the above posters, you are probably just a bit insecure...maybe the language barrier? The library system is an excellent source that you may want to consider. Also, you dont need to feel 'uncomfortable' because you are beautiful. Lots of people may take notice of you because of your looks; consider it a compliment and graciously smile. T

hen move on...you are probably giving it more thought than you really need to. Best of luck to you :)
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Specializes in Emergency & Trauma/Adult ICU.

Remember, it's work ... not a social gathering. Try being the night resident on call for 36 ICU patients and see how much time you have to shoot the breeze.

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Specializes in acute dialysis, Telemetry, subacute.

I think you are reading too much reading into it. I work at a big teaching hospital where I see so many handsome young residents. I am also slim, tall and beautiful nurse but never felt anybody is trying to hook up with me. People may admire my beauty but my hospital is too busy to play grace anatomy. I doubt that the residents are trying to hook up with you. Most residents are too busy to be looking for a hook up. Be professional and stop reading meaning into other people's reaction and you would be able to do your work without problems.

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Specializes in Trauma, ER, ICU, CCU, PACU, GI, Cardiology, OR.

first of all, i must say never apologize for what you wrote if you thought it through then so be it, it was a very persuasive title to say the least. having said that, i sense that your situation is making you feel more uncomfortable than the other medical staff involved, let me explain, when i got into nursing the first look i got was wow! muscleman!!! then after opening my mouth the staff realized that i was more than just muscles. besides that, there are times that we are our worse enemy we over think to much what the public might say or think of us. therefore, you need to accept the physical gift that was given to you and use it along with the acquire nursing knowledge you have achieved, and trust me they will be looking at you with admiration. needless to say, not only for your beauty but also for your assertiveness, in getting your point across professionally to any medical staff. in addition, take for instance "sofia vergara" i know she's not in the medical field, however, she has used her beauty an thick accent to her advantage, to further her career and for that she's admired. wishing you the very best always... aloha~

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Specializes in Intermediate care.

agreed. Exactly what i said. Read waaaay to much into this. Residents don't want a hook up, they aren't thinking about this at work. Majority of them are married or engaged.

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agreed. Exactly what i said. Read waaaay to much into this. Residents don't want a hook up, they aren't thinking about this at work. Majority of them are married or engaged.

When the heck has that ever mattered?

Are people really on here trying to say a man isn't looking at a beautiful woman?

I know most are professional and some try really hard to be, but I can't believe there isn't at least one who does his fair share of flirting...

Married or not.

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