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    Hi and thanks everybody,

    I would like to answer each post individually but my computer is going nuts so I will make this short.

    I have read and appreciated all the personal stories that you have shared with me. I am moved by how much you care.

    I am not here asking for sympathy as some here think and I have identified several bits of dvice I have gotten such as finding a hospital that will help with tuition, number of years before classes expire, and other paths to explore that might lead me to the road to some financila help.

    The only reason I let you all know that my husband would not pay is to let you know that was not an option. I also said that I would not leave him so that is not an option either.

    I appreciate all of your feelings on the subject, but do not appreciate being told that I am here for sympathy and that I have disregarded all the good advice I have gotten.

    On the contrary, I have submitted two appltions and for grants and I am looking into day care in my home.

    The only reason I brought up the religion is because I did have C.S friend who brought up the point about maybe this was not meant for me and this would be evidenced by the fact that no matter what I do, something is always in the way. It really seemed to make sense and she had quotes from Science and Health to back up that claim. I just wanted some input on the subject. I never thought anyone would take it so far as to think I was using that as an excuse to not try anymore.

    Someone asked about my choices with money...well yes, I have bounced a few checks over the years and I am not perfect and I have never changed majors. I did get a liberal arts B.A when I left nursing school becuase I had to repeat peds. and I could not do that and focus on my daughter who was just placed in special ed and the new baby.

    I'm not really sure why he won't pay. Maybe because I was in school when we met in 1995...my first semester was fall of 94...I left nursing school in 98 and graduated in 99 and he thinks that was long enough in school.
    It does not really matter though, I don't want anyone to pity me. If I wanted pity I would tell you about the rest of my life...but I won't. I have more pride than that.

    I have been listening and I have gotten some great advice...which I am following up on and some love and suppport that I did not expect...but do appreciate. It reminds me that nurses are one big family.

    So on that note; I will check in from time to time, but please do not feel obligated to answer this note. I never expected this many responses nor did I ever ask for or expect any sympathy or worse yet...pity.

    I am not looking for excuses either...just financial ionformation so I can do this without seeking a divorce or doing anything that is dishonest.

    And as far as not being a good nurse because I have baggage...I'd be willing to bet that most nurses need a red cap to help with their baggage. That is one thing that is behind the desire to heal others...the need to be healed themselves. I know this is true for many...many nurses. In one way or another, helping others is also helping themselves. But like any other professional, I would do what is right and that is to leave that sh*t at home where it belongs.

    Thanks for everything!

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    Hi and thanks everybody,

    I would like to answer each post individually but my computer is going nuts so I will make this short.

    I have read and appreciated all the personal stories that you have shared with me. I am moved by how much you care.

    I am not here asking for sympathy as some here think, and I have identified several bits of advice I have gotten such as finding a hospital that will help with tuition, number of years before classes expire, and other paths to explore that might lead me to the road to some financial help. The only reason I let you all know that my husband would not pay is to let you know that was not an option. I also said that I would not leave him so that is not an option either.

    I appreciate all of your feelings on the subject, but do not appreciate being told that I am here for sympathy and that I have disregarded all the good advice I have gotten.

    On the contrary, I have submitted two applications and for grants and I am looking into day care in my home.

    The only reason I brought up the religion is because I did have C.S friend who brought up the point about maybe this was not meant for me and this would be evidenced by the fact that no matter what I do, something is always in the way. It really seemed to make sense and she had quotes from Science and Health to back up that claim. I just wanted some input on the subject. I never thought anyone would take it so far as to think I was using that as an excuse to not try anymore.

    Someone asked about my choices with money...well yes, I have bounced a few checks over the years and I am not perfect and I have never changed majors. I did get a liberal arts B.A when I left nursing school becuase I had to repeat peds. and I could not do that and focus on my daughter who was just placed in special ed and the new baby.

    I'm not really sure why he won't pay. Maybe because I was in school when we met in 1995...my first semester was fall of 94...I left nursing school in 98 and graduated in 99 and he thinks that was long enough in school.
    It does not really matter though, I don't want anyone to pity me. If I wanted pity I would tell you about the rest of my life...but I won't. I have more pride than that.

    I have been listening and I have gotten some great advice...which I am following up on and some love and suppport that I did not expect...but do appreciate. It reminds me that nurses are one big family.

    So on that note; I will check in from time to time, but please do not feel obligated to answer this note. I never expected this many responses nor did I ever ask for or expect any sympathy or worse yet...pity.

    I am not looking for excuses either...just financial information so I can do this without seeking a divorce or doing anything that is dishonest.

    And as far as not being a good nurse because I have baggage...I'd be willing to bet that most nurses need a "red cap" to help with their baggage. That is one thing that is behind the desire to heal others for some...the need to be healed themselves. I know this is true for many...many nurses. In one way or another, helping others is also helping themselves. But like any other professional, I would do what is right and that is to leave that sh*t at home where it belongs.

    Thanks for everything!

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    No,

    I had not heard of that...C.S nursing that is. I'm sure I'd have to convert though and I would not do that. Thanks for the tidbit though!.

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    hi and thanks,

    yes...3 classes and that is 1 1/2 semesters.
    tuition is $550.00/credit hour.
    i owe around $3,200 to the school.
    i can't go anywhere else without transcripts from sxu.
    you've got guts...i see that but leaving is not an option.
    i don't want anyone to stick up for me, i found out that wouldn't happen long before i met him but what i do need is to find some loophole or some way to get the assistance i need. i have already gotten tons of confidence from all of you here!

    thanks!

    Quote from moondancer
    lorel, i just read this whole thread and i have some questions for you...
    1st, i really think you need to read and re-read the posts by faeriewand and nancy and lilpeanut. that is all good and true info there.

    ok, you say you are only 3 classes from graduating w/a bsn??? is this for real, i mean that's what, 9 credits? you complete these 3 classes,you have no clinicals or your sr yr internship...all of that is done, just 3 classes? what does your college charge per credit hour? have you figured out what it would cost to take 3 classes, 1 per semester...i mean that's 3 semesters and your graduating!

    have you actually gone in and sat down w/a college advisor? you seem confused as to when your credits are going to expire. you need to know exactly what you need to graduate. you need to initiate a plan of action, say starting jan 2006.

    if you really are that close to graduating w/a bsn, i think it would be ludicrous for you to pursue an lpn program...it won't be any easier or less time consuming.

    what these last people are saying is true...if i had come as far as being 3 classes shy of graduating....i would[i] literally[/i] be asking strangers in church for money, having bakesales, topless dancing if need be to get that money together,even if it's 1 class at a time!
    i know you have kids, little ones, too, but girl, i have been in your shoes! i, at the age of 19 was married to the biggest jerk on the face of the earth. he no more wanted me continuing w/college than he wanted to jump off a bridge. no, his plan was "keep her barefoot and pregnant in the kitchen, serving me, so i can go out running around doing what i want..." you know that type of bs! well, that lasted a couple of yrs, 4 to be exact and i gave him the boot...after he destroyed my self esteem, constantly told me how worthless i was, that i would never finish school, i was nothing w/out him....blah, blah, blah....yeah whatever...you shoulda seen the look on his face the day he got served w/divorce papers!
    basically honey, you gotta grow a pair! really! you are letting this man walk all over you! he is supposed to be your partner, not your master!
    and what is mr highnmighty gonna do when you graduate and start working...you'll be making somewhere between $20-30/hr...i'm sure he'll have a use for that now won't he????
    make a plan...start generating some income, soley for your tuition, borrow the money, use his name and your house, hell half of it's yours, even if your 4yo goes to part time pre-school. and hubby can pay the tuition for him! you need to really come down on hubby an dlet him know that you can and you will leave his sorry a** if he does not become an active participant in your life, immediately. you know what, i did it...i had 2 young children, 2 and 3 yo. i delayed my dream of finishing college while raising them those 1st few yrs, but then i went back part time,then full time. it was the long way around but i did it!
    i'm sorry if this is offensive to you, but lorel, no one is gonna stick up for you, but you! you may love your husband and if he loves you,that is wonderful , once you put your foot down, he will see that he does not want to lose you and he will value your happiness.

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    hi and thanks,

    my first daughter was 6 when we married and i did not marry him for money. he holds me at night when my dreams wake me, and he was terriffic in the delivery room both times. we go camping and watch movies and we share many common intersests. we are not hungry and although i wish we had more money, we have a house and transportation and clothes. he puts up with my family and that is not easy and he knows my past and still loves me anyway so i don't think i made a mistake.

    financial aid told me with a b.a i can't get another loan.

    i might need therapy, but i also need to figure this problem out. i have taken 6 1/2 years off. i am ready to go back.

    Quote from subee
    nancy k. and lil peanut, you have given laurel some wise words. laurel, i worry about you because you have put the obstacles between you and your goal. first, you made bad choice in marrying the man you did. then you made your situation even more desperate by having three children . so there is a big discrepancy between what you are saying and what you are doing.
    and what does having a b.a. degree have anything to do with getting a loan?
    there's something fishy going on in chicago if you haven't been paid by someone to finish up three courses! you sound so desperately unhappy and confused that therapy might be more important for you now than finishing school. you've had some great advice from this board but i think you need more than loving advice. therapy will help you make a realistic plan for the future and give you the esteem to stick with it. anyone who has lived in a car, under a bridge, married a jerk and had three children with him has a lot of emotional baggage (probably more like trauma). and, of course, it may be easier to concentrate on these three courses than on your own serious problems.
    please find a therapist with whom you "click" and take a year off from your "dream" and try to figure out why laurel is making such terrible choices and get your head in a better place.

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    hi and thanks,

    i have no team right now and no financial aid because i have a ba...the school already told me that. like this quote says...

    few people are successful unless a lot of other people want them to be
    charles brower

    and thanks to all of you i am getting that.

    thanks for your concern and support.

    Quote from magellin1
    i had so many obstacles when i applied for admission to the local college. i had to wait a year, missed the deadline by 3 days for that year. my kids were one and four. my husband was making little above minimum wage. i had dropped out of college 10 years prior. i was blessed with family and friends who babysat for me and a husband who supported my decision. i couldn't have done it without them. other issues came up during my schooling-hospitalization for my son, many nights up with him. i just knew that i wanted to be a nurse. again, my saving grace was the support i had, my graduation was a team effort. i have been a nurse for seven years and couldn't imagine doing anything else. my college offered some scholarships, and there are loans etc. have you sat down with a college advisor. if not, i would recommend it. there was even tuition assistance for daycare at the program i attended.

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    what about the transcripts...aren't they the determining factor?

    Quote from traumahawk99
    become a paramedic, then you can test thru excelsior .

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    hi and thanks,

    your words are so true and you are right about the cna salary. so on the flip-side of that if i went back to work to pay for tuition and was working and going to school, the childcare and my student loan payments would eat my whole check and much of my study time would be taken by that job.

    is this wrong?

    Quote from lpntorn
    people say think of your children first, do what is best for them by staying out of school right now and just be there for them.
    well, i am a mother of three children (ages 4, 6 and 8) who went to school because i thought that one of the most important ways i could show i cared for them was to see they were provided for, and that wasn't going to happen on a cna salary or working at the convenience store. i know cna's with small children and i feel so bad for them, because as hard as they work they still can't make it. they consistently have car trouble or some other thing they need but are having to do without because $9.00/hr doesn't feed, clothe and shelter a family of four or five.
    i'm not talking about making sure your children are provided with gameboys and a new bicycle every year.
    while i regret i was put in a position to have to go to school and then work and i missed time with my children, i would feel even worse now if i hadn't gone to school and gotten a decent job. life is easier now in a lot of ways simply by having a decent check coming in.
    people tell you money doesn't matter but it makes all the difference. most spousal fights and divorces occur over money or lack of money, and people are living up to the eyeballs with debt.

    a big part of showing your children you care is making sure you can provide for them.

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    hi and thanks!,

    just one question...they would want my transcripts too right?

    Quote from michelleicu
    i'd go with what passing thru said stay home with the kids if you can they are little still. wait till they go to school.then go to a vocational school and you can be a lvn in 1 year.

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    hi and thanks,

    i read your post and i found myself wanting to say the same things i just said so i will spare you the headache of reading it again. i see i have made you angry too so i will only say i know my marriage needs work, but in the meantimne i need to go back to school and i need to find a way to get there without him and without leaving him.

    i really do appreciate the time you took to respond to this issue. thanks!

    Quote from nancyk
    i know what you mean with your advice to laurel. i am a really nice and flexible person. however, people have misunderstood that for me being a doormat, only to get their foot bit off when they go to wipe their feet on me.

    i agree, everyone will respect you more if you pursue your goals and are goal driven....even if they complain the whole time. kids learn what they see from what you do. kids don't know what is best, that is why they have parents to make adult decisions and guide them. if you tell them...i was gonna be a nurse but i needed to stay home and take care of you....guess what...no respect! but if you show them you can struggle, you can study and take care of them it will make them stronger, respect you more, and be more self sufficient if anything happens to you someday.
    i have a friend that came over the other night, sat in the same chair she did last year, said the same things about her abusive husband, and has done not one thing towards a resolution or solution to her problem. then go talk to the wall....i have no pitty you have to be real, do what you believe in and hope to god it all falls into place for you someday. if it doesn't...you know you gave it your all. if you do nothing then you are a "do nothing" ...nothing to be poud of.
    why in gods name people lay down and let others, sometimes men, treat them poorly...i just don't know. we are all equal...no one is god that walks the earth as far as i know. the controlling abusive scenario......i lived through it...but i had a plan and i followed through.
    sure i don't have anyone right now to eat dinner with, to go to bed with but i am busy, i am getting somewhere, i just graduated for the second time from college...on my own. i think women make unusual strides when they are single.
    men feel threatened by a women's success sometimes. but if you do what you know is right...they will treat you better and respect you. that is if you still want to hang on to the jerk while you are working at something.

    i want to reach my goal and then i will pick someone i think will be a good mate for me, not the other way around...sit and wait to be chosen by some goon who tells me what goals i can accomplish today and which ones he thinks i should not pursue. i thought slavery was abolished.

    laurel....maybe she needs a kick in the butt, maybe she needs motherly advice, maybe she needs to stick her neck out and do what she needs to do to get what she wants...maybe she doesn't want anything at all and just wants to be a "i could have" i should have" person.

    you need action to get results....words just don't cut it. religion should not need to enter in on it. that is something else....another topic, it is used to take your attention away from the real issue, it is manipulative. the facts are the facts.
    hey, i am not relilgious but spiritual. i believe i made it because i had "faith" in what i did not see....that was me getting pinned as an rn. that is putting your faith to the test!
    thanks for yur comments...they were excellent.
    nancy k

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    hi,

    my oldest daughters nincname was lilpeanut.

    i don't want to be a christian scientist, but i had been really confused after all the help i had recieved as a result of reading science and health. i was beginning to think that a religion that could help me that much must have some valid points, but when it comes down to it i take my kids to the doctor when they are sick and i would not expect them to be healed because as c.s teaches, disease is the result of a lie and once the lie is identified and eliminated, so would be the illness. i know god can and does heal people, but it is not because he reveals any given illness to be a lie but because he chooses to work a miracle.

    other than not paying for my tuition, we are ok...no...that's a lie we are not ok. we fight often, mainly about the kids and money, but as i said to someone elese, i am catholic and divorce is not an option. i am pushing my girls to get an education so they can be independant and teaching my son compassion so he will be kind and gentle with his wife if marriage is his choice.


    the only yeah buts are that everywhere i turn for help, i am turned down and i can't help that; so if you are angry with me just line up because for one reason or another his whole family is mad at me too.

    i know nursing is what i want and the reverse psychology is insulting if that is what you are trying to do. i may be in a difficlut situation, but i am not ignorant. my role as a wife does not reflect the role i would take as a nurse.

    i am not a doormat. i married him for better or worse and now i am trying to find other ways to help myself as he has chosen not to pay for this debt. the situation is unfair and i wish it were different, but i can't force him to pay and i don't want to cause any more conflict than is already there so i am here looking for advice on how to get where i need to go and on the side i asked if anyone had an opinion on the spiritual advice i recieved from a friend.

    what is it you want me to change?

    Quote from lilpeanut
    i think you need to sit down and decide what you really want from life laurel, and what you want to teach your children.

    if you are serious about christian scientist, then pursuing nursing is asinine. they do not believe in medical interventions. that is a huge conflict. you need to settle that in your heart and mind before you continue.

    secondly, do you want your daughters to be treated like this? your sons to treat their wives like your husband treats you?

    all i'm hearing so far is a bunch of "yeah buts," along with a huge dose of codependance.

    perhaps nursing isn't for you. i know i want a nurse who is going to advocate for my care, and you can't even advocate for your own.

    present your husband with an itemized bill for the past however many years, including housekeeping, childcare and whatever else you do. if he wants to be that big of a jerk about money, charge him for sex.

    you are a doormat and don't seem inclined to change it and that drives me up a wall.

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    i wish i could live near you too.

    Quote from nancyk
    faeriewand, you are awesome.
    i guess some of that moxy comes with age or with getting fed up with people going against your desire to reach your goals. i married my best friend a few years ago. we made promises to back each other in our passions, his was race cars and he had one. well that was fine until i said i wanted to go to nursing school. he said i couldn't, i am not a spring chicken and i really did not want to get a divorce but i went to nursing school. he yelled and screamed and swore. he ended up being a class a jerk. he screamed 1" from my face and told me i did not know how crazy he could get....i put the fear of god in him and told him he did not know how crazy i could get! and then i acted a little crazy to back up my statement. and i went to school, the second year he made me move out...i did, i wanted to anyhow but let him think he was "kicking" me out....that way he moved me back home.
    i had a wing and a prayer to live on financially. i have had a lot of friends come out of the woodwork to help. i helped a girl over 40 yrs. ago in high school, she sent me 500.00 to pay for boards and my permit and just for the heck of it. my cousin sent me some money to help me bridge the money gap. my dad who never ever helped me financially without making me cry....bought me a new car for my birthday in feb. mine was okay but might not have made it. i graduated with a lot of hard work, a few tears, a lot of worrying, a little bit of sleep, and a lot of moxy and i got behind on some bills but i am still standing. i just got my first job and i am going through orientation. i am signing my divorce papers and happily. he can kiss my a--. i loved him, but i don't need bs at this point in my life. i really think he wanted me to support his race car habit. i could have if he would have supported me first. i think i saw the true reason he asked me to marry him when i decided to go to school....live and learn! i only want people around me that make a positive difference in my life, by example, encouragement, etc. i don't need someone ruining my desires, my dreams, my goals. those are not bad things.
    maybe it takes age....i am not sure. all i know if i was 20 yrs. old...oh boy would i do things differently!!! i am not young but i still keep myself pointed in the direction i am going in. a step forwad, sometimes one backward. i did not lose and am not losing focus. i want to be a good nurse...a babystep at a time.

    people will help when they see your honest effort. then you can pay the world back by being the best nurse or whatever, you can be.
    i think you gave laurel excellent advice. we need to have her living in our neighborhood so we could help her through.
    nancy k

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    hi and wow!,

    yeah, i have heard..."oh really? who's going to pay for it?" too. i don't think i have the guts to claim the single parent thing and i know if i embarassed him publicly like that it would destroy out marriage. i know this may sound stupid to some, but i am still catholic and as such divorce is out of the question so i would not want to make my situation any worse. i appreciate you taking the time to tell me that though.

    oh, i almost forgot...the cs friend is the only friend i had and she was such a kind person and so easy to talk to. she had been helping me deal with some issues that have been unresolved for a long time. something happened though and we are out of touch. i think she has her own issues to deal with and she needs her space. i had been on a couple other discussion boards trying to deal with my issue, then i found christian science. i felt like a huge weight was lifted from my shoulders and i could go on to try to follow my dream. i was only reflecting on my own inner-confilct that went along with her ways of spiritual healing; that maybe god did not intend for me to be a nurse, but rather to heal in other ways like a c.s practitioner or something. however, that would mean becomming a christian scientist and i don't know if i could do that. that is not my religion...as i said i am still catholic and my love for mary is keeping me there, as they don't pray to her and i could never give her up. i just threw that in to get others feedback from the religious aspect. i am trying to understand why all these things are always in the way.

    i did get some other ideas from your post though about how to get some financial help, and for that and everything you said...i thank you very much. i wish i had a friend like you. your terriffic!.


    thanks!

    Quote from faeriewand
    laurel, i feel for you because i had a similar situation. my husband is a class a jerk. the house is in his name only and he controls all the money. as a housewife i have no income. i suffered from depression and that went on for years and my self esteem plumeted. (actually a common occurance in housewives) i had a bill to pay off too that my husband said was mine and he wouln't touch it even tho it was under $3,000 and he had just refinanced the house and took out $50,000. my oldest son is now 18 and just starting college and my husband won't pay for that either, but when he was 4 years old and i wanted to go back to school i had to say i was a single parent to get him into the college child care center for free because my husband wouldn't pay for it. i had to go around the obstacles set for me even if it meant doing something like that. i had to find a way. my husband never had my back as another poster said about her wonderful husband. whenever i wanted to do something with my life my husband would look at me and say, "oh really? who's going to pay for it?" i was treated as a maid and a child. and then something happened....

    i turned 40! and the power came on me! :chuckle i told my husband off whenever he acted like a total jerk. when he said something like who is going to pay for it. i yelled and came on like a banshee! :chuckle he is a parent too and he knows i don't have any money so quit talking to me like that! i shouldn't have to feel like a single parent when i'm not. :angryfire when i confronted him he shut up. i still have to do that occasionally like last month when i got fed up when he said he did all the work around the house. (he's a loafer who orders the children to do housework) we still have many issues to resolve but most things have changed for the better. and just to clarify, i don't attack him directly. i use "i" messages even if i am screaming them. lol!

    ok so maybe the power hasn't come on you yet but that doesn't mean your completely stuck. you are too close to stop in your tracks. i too had to sit home with all of my children to raise them, my yongest is 10 now, so i understand what you are going thru, but i still found out ways to get back in school. the more you get out of the house the more connections you will make with the outside world and with that comes new ideas that will change you and how you will deal with your situation. i'm sure that doesn't set well with your husband so understand that where he is coming from he doesn't want to see his wife get any power or control. it's fun for him to be master and commander. that's why he doesn't help you go back to school. he knows you are unable to pay back such a huge debt. plain and simple-- if you fail he wins. just understand that.

    if i were your next door neighbor i would come over and take you to the nearest college for a session with a counselor and tell him/her everything and see how they could help. then i would make a big sign that says something like hi my name is laurel, i'm smart and want to be a nurse, i've only got three more classes to go but no money.......(something like that) and with you and your two youngest children we would stand out on a busy street to see if you could get a businessman to front you a loan (or hospital administrator) that takes some moxy. (some of you may remember seeing this as a segment on television. hey it worked didn't it? ) make up some index cards that state your name, phone number, your dream, and your situation and pass them out to everyone you know. pass them out at church. keep telling your story because the more networking you do the more likely you are to have a positive outcome. they might even be able to pass your card on to someone who can help you. and while your attending church with your husband, open up to people and tell them what he is like, then watch their reactions. (people will want to know why you have no money to finish your rn so tell them) it will give you more strength as to how wrong the whole situation is. self empowerment is what you need.

    keep reading echo heron and don't give up. remember she had a little boy too who was too young for school but she still did it.

    lastly, drop your so-called friend. as a cs her agenda is anti-medicine. that is why she is trying to get you to give up your dream. she is too negative and is just trying to dissuade you from what you know deep down inside is your path. (again this goes back to getting out and meeting more people. different people will give you different viewpoints to weigh in your decison) your here for a reason. you know you want to be a nurse. and you are so close so don't give up!

    keep posting. we are all rooting for you!
    fw

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    hi and thanks,

    that is why i left nursing school in 1998 and got a b.a in 99. i took 2 easy classes and got my degree because at the time i had a 1 year old and a 8 1/2 yr old who was just put into special ed becuase she would not do her work. she is almost 16 now and the baby...now 8 gets almost straight a's and my 4 year old will be in pre-k soon. my oldest babysits and that is a big help especially if i need to study. so you see, i have already done what you have and i am ready to go back...but i can't get there no matter what i do. i am still trying, and i owe that to the encouragement i have gotten here, but none of the options are panning out. i need to win the lottery...or inherit big...or some other miracle. i know how hard nursing school is, i only have 3 classes left. i need to repeat peds. then community and rehab then i'm done.
    i don't mind waiting...especially if i know there is hope.

    thanks for your support!

    Quote from lmerrow
    i can relate to what you are feeling and thinking when it comes to fulfilling something that you want, however, after reading all the replies and reading your concerns i would have to agree that nursing school is very demanding and will literally drain you with having the small children that you have. the emphasis on having to study for long hours and trying to be a wife and a mother at the same time can really pull you over and beyond your limitations. if your partner is not willing to help you in every aspect of house chores and caring for the children you will be over whelmed. i have been in school for nursing for two years, and my youngest just graduated this year, before his graduation i had to make a choice of letting one semester go, granted on was on an even keel of getting my work done and so forth but, the pressures can rreally get to you. now that he has graduated i am all about me and can focus more on my studies and getting this done. you cannot and i cannot emphasize this more than this cannot have any kinds of interference when it comes to this schooling cause if you do then you can easily lose focus on what the real point in your schooling is all about and fall back in you learning. i just turned 40 years of age this year, i do not regret in waiting this long, because i know that everyone i cared for was taken care of before i became selfish and did something for me, it is called sacrifice and sometimes as parents when we really do not want to we end up having to do this. i think god if no one else will god will definitely understand if you hold off till the kids are older. best of luck. lm

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    hi and thanks,

    i'm willing to do anything within reason, but it doesn't mean much if i can't get back in classes.

    thanks for your support!


    Quote from smc9
    hello laurel,

    i'm so sorry to hear about your situation. there is an answer, it just depends on what you're willing to do.

    being 36 is not too old. i am 45 and i am about to start nursing school in 2 weeks. i'm not saying you should wait until you're my age to start again because that might mean repeating some of your classes, but it is something to think about. if you waited until your children were older (mine are in their 20s now and it's so much easier) it might be easier for you.

    i know you have a lot to figure out and no one can help you but you, but i just wanted to say that it's never too late to fulfill your dreams. so if now, there are too many obstacles to get past, perhaps it's not the right time. but then again, if it's your passion to become an rn then nothing will stop you.

    good luck! i wish you happiness and hope that your husband finds it in his heart to give you all the support you need.

    suzie


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