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Thank you for the encouragement and for being open to give advice, I really appreciate it.
And thanks again for sharing, it was perfect timing as I browsed allnurses after a depressing shift.
I will definitely be more direct in my replies to her if she does it again. I am glad to hear other nurses stood up for you when she did that, at least everyone sees her poor behavior, that's something I wish would be more common behavior. Staying positive is the hardest part for sure, I also feel that "cry inside" feeling as a sensitive person, but you're right the only choice is to keep working hard and push forward positively or those type of people get the best of us! (Easier said than done sometimes haha). I will keep arriving early and doing my best and try to keep my focus on the patients.
That is what I was worried about as well. As a new staff it can be a little scary to report, of course there's that fear of some sort of backlash. If it happens again and me addressing her more directly does not change her behavior, I will talk to whoever I need to. Especially if it keeps happening at the bedside report because then it's not just my feelings, it's the effect on patient care. Thanks for the advice!
Thank you all SO much for taking the time to reply and give advice/input. I think we all have established I need to learn from it and move on. I am not sure if I would have to start a new thread or if I can even ask this kind of question, but I would really like to know what my fellow nurses would do in this situation
Okay, so I like to open my medications at the bedside. I like to open them one by one and tell them what it is. I was giving medications to one of my patients.(it was my first time taking care of this patient) The last medication I told him, he said verbatim "I didn't know I was taking that medication". I was shocked. I told him I'm not going to give him a medication he didn't feel comfortable taking. My preceptor told him the Prozac was for his stroke to help the healing process. I thought it was great she educated him, and I learned from that. BUT, I told her I was upset he didn't know what medications he was getting. It wasn't an attack on her. She said he has a brain injury so he probably didn't remember. Well, now that I typed that out it doesn't sound so bad. What would you all have done in that situation?
why do you presume they are 'practical nurses'? I worked at a job where i ran circles around the almighty RNs and most sure cop an ego problem about that extra year of college. Are you sure you aren't projecting yourself of some self anointed genius because in the long run, having the money to afford one extra year does not translate to being a brain surgeon vs a janitor. Give me a well seasoned C student LPN with common sense over some of these supposedly impressive RNs that were book smart but were substandard, even dangerous floor nurses. That extra year of school that in many cases your sugar daddy or that wealthy father or mother could buy by no means should place you on some pedestal where you or your ego feels threatened by some 'glorified nurse's aid', as many of you call LPNs.
Definitely do not refer to nurses eating their young. It is an overworked, over-exaggerated phrase and (to most nurses) a reason to discount the person using it.
I just watched it. The patient seemed very in control and manipulative. I do wonder, what are the doctors supposed to do in situations like these? Just serve up whatever the patient requests on a silver platter? Aside from grabbing the patient's arm, I don't see that the doctor was anything other than blunt.
Thank you for your response. I feel bad I mentioned in my above post I thought someone would need more than three years expierience to train. I didn't mean it in a manner she doesn't know what she's doing. I could have elaborated on what is actually going on and maybe in my mind is was becoming beyond stressful. I think as a preceptor she should let me know when something changes with a patient and also to help when a patient's bed alarm goes off. A prime example of what I perceived as being team players-I was in the med room looking at which meds were due next. My preceptor was sitting at the nurses station with the nurses aide "who will run circles around me" (her words) A patient's bed alarm went off and I didn't see her or the aide(-not the one she pushed) run, so I ran. The keys to the med room were left on the med cart in the med room. Yup, it's my fault for leaving the keys in there and I take responsibility for that. But, I would have appreciated some type of thank you for caring about the patient vs. "you left the keys in the med room". (The aides always have an extra set) I do things all day long and I love it, but during report she will give say she did everything. Basically it looks like I did nothing all day. She withholds information about patient's that are important for me to know. I'm not sure if she does this intentionally, but it's getting old. I hope this doesn't come across as childish, as when she's giving off report and claiming she did everything all day, I just let it go. I always make sure if I'm not doing anything I ask anyone if they need help. Another prime example is since we are both taking care of the same patients together, if she does something for a patient I told her I don't want to take credit for someone else's work so she should document it. She will do something, not document it and it makes me look like it wasn't done. She will say "well this is late". It's so bizarre to me and maybe it's not even possible someone could be that manipulative.
I'm sure it sounds petty, but I was sooo excited to go to work and work with patients and I still am. I noticed this was getting the best of me.
So, yes you are very correct and I do need to re-focus. Your feedback was exactly what I needed to hear. I'm sure I am the most frustrating person to train as I am new and I ask a ton of questions. I am a what if type of person. I finally give insulin with confidence. I give it, then check on the patient to make sure they are okay. I look back to a week and half ago thinking I was being ridiculous worrying about insulin.
Didn't read the entire story, but stopped at the start to say thank you for getting that bed alarm. In my the nursing home I work in I can be in the room with a patient and momentarily stop everything I'm doing to get a bed alarm, because my nurses refuse to get up and make sure the patient don't fall
I have seen more nurses lose their jobs over schedule conflicts than anything else. You want to go to church, the other wants to be with her family, that one has small children. The list goes on and on. Scheduling is not easy. You cannot make everyone happy. I am an experienced NP and I can tell you no one ever made concessions for me because i had small children, had no babysitter, kids had an event at school or church, and on and on and on. The ones who whine and beg and demand annoy everyone, whether they will tell you so or not. If they give in and give you extra days, your manager and coworkers will be annoyed. Little things become big things and before long, you are ostracized and run off. I would strongly encourage you to take the schedule you are given and not complain. You knew what nursing was when you get into it.
I watched the video 2x and I have come to the same conclusion: the patient is being ridiculous . For a person who can't inhale, he can certainly talk really well. I know that when I have been to the point where I am unable to breathe easily (I have asthma) I can get maybe 2 words out before I am out of breath. No way was he unable to "inhale" if he can talk that well. The whole thing just has me shaking my head.
The doc maybe should have been a bit less direct but you can see (hear) the frustration she has at that point. Sadly, she'll be the bad guy to a lot of people.
If she is literally pushing the aide, that is more than bullying. That is battery.
What helps avoid tickets is:
being young and beautiful/handsome
not being threatening
being a nurse, EMT, firefighter, other first responder.
If you do get a ticket, call the officer who gave it to you
the next day, thank him for helping you realize you were speeding,
and very politely mention that you're a nurse. "Say, if you're ever over at West Valley Hospital, I'm a nurse in the ER. Stop by and say "hello". "We love us some cops over there and we have the best coffee in town". Or something akin to that.
This approach worked for a Sheriff's Deputy when he was ticketed by a Statie. The Statie agreed to not show up in court, so the case was tossed.
Life is unfair. Sometimes we have to use the advantages we
happen to have.
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