Dating for Men in Nursing/Nursing School

[Raymond CA]

Hi everyone, I'm delighted to read all of these real and heartfelt posts on this male forum!

Let me introduce myself. I am a former chemical engineer/software consultant who will start in a top 12-month Accelerated BSN program next January. Changing from a male-dominated field to a female-dominated field has been enlightening and enjoyable, and I wonder what kind of experiences the rest of you guys have had.

In changing from the male world of engineering and business to the touchy-feely world of nursing, I've sometimes missed the more analytical, let's-get-the-job-done attitude we had in our startup companies. But since I plan to enter critical care, I know I will find the right balance of analysis and empathy in my future job! :)

My question: how has your dating/social life been, for those single men out there?

The nursing school I will be attending will have a ratio of 10 women to every man. In preparing for nursing school, I also worked as both a medical assistant and a nursing assistant, and I have gotten used to being one of the few men in my classes and activities.

Has dating been easier for you, now that you are a minority in a field of women? Have you learned and grown from your more frequent contact with women? What pros and cons have you seen as a man dating in nursing school or nursing?

In several of my classes, many of the women already have husbands or boyfriends. The female majority and women in general do not bother or intimidate me in the least, and I welcome the experience. I've always been curious about how women think and have had long, great experiences with many female friends. I truly enjoy dealing with women. :)

Let's hear your dating/relating stories!

[nicenurse911121]

OH YEAH??!!

Ditto That!

Its not the issue of dating a nurse, but of the workplace issues that may arise if breakup occurs. Date a nurse who I don't work with? OH YEAH!

I don't know really how to survive nursing school without breaking up. I think its important to fully convey to your s.o. the fact that you will be completely unavailable 91% of the time. That way if its not solid, you can break up right away and save yourself the strain during school. If they really support you and are committed, they'll be willing to accept this and will understand.

And yes, med school is like this too, i've heard. You either go in to med school with a solid s.o. or you stay single and focus on work. Either way there's no time for relationships.

[WolfpackRed]

In a 12 month AccelBSN program you won't have time to date.Best of luck in your program.

[kllyhlls]

I'd have to say that my dating life has never been worse, but honestly, I don't notice that much. I honestly don't have time to date. I can't say that I mind being such a "minority" in class though. :-)

K

[dragonflyRN]

In my class, 2005, we had 5 males. 3 were married, never disrespected their wives, that I know of. The other two....were young and immature, into nursing for the wrong reasons.

[Logan]

Hi,

I wouldn't recimmend dating during NSG school. Unless you already have a SO, don't bother! School is hard enough without the added trouble of maintaining a relationship.

All relationships require time, money, effort and patience for their upkeep. Otherwise, it's just not fair to both parties involved.

My SO and I came close to calling it quits during my BSN. But somehow we managed - I'm a lucky guy, she decided to hang onto me :)

Thanks,

Matthew

[nathan777]

I have found that many female nurses in this area seem to be married, men aren't dumb they know what earning potential the women have and the personalities that should make up a nurse and we like them. I try not to date at work but network with some of the women and try to find if they have any friends. Good Luck

[dfarr]

Personally, I think my mom is more excited about me going to nursing school than I am. She's hoping to get a daughter-in-law out of it all. I already have several good female friends, so I don't really think I'll feel out of place being around women all the time. I think the guy:girl ratio at my program is going to be about 1:8, but we'll find out next Tuesday when I actually start.

[Dabuggy]

I also could not find the time to date. I did have some study partners and a snow mobile female friend but that was it. I was one of the students who had to read, re-read, do study guides to just make it by. I thought pharm would never end, reading 15 chapters for that week alone.

The guy who did date and did the bars every week failed out.

Dabuggy

[EDSNA85]

One of my favorite sayings is:

"Never get your honey where you make your money!"

Just wanted a chance to use that line.

I second that i have been burned in school bc of that But it was a fun ride. 50 women 3 guys in my program let em tell u it has been an interestin 4 years but if i had to do it all over again i would have dated an education major ...

[Nursing STUD-ent]

I am in my second year of nursing school, and out of 75 students, I am one of 3 males. Last semester there were a couple more males, but they didnt make the cut. I will say that every male had a group of females that hovered over him. It was a lot of fun, but I had no inclination to date one of the ladies, for fear of the negative reputation that might arise should the relationship go south.

However, the new year has started, and I am starting a new policy with classmates. There are just far too many of them hitting on me constantly for me to ignore them any longer, and now I have started dating one. My only concern was that I didnt date a girl that I had lab and clinical with. I dont know where it will go from here, but I am willing to take the chance that when it ends, it will end ok, and not result in 73 women hating me.

[MountainRnEMT]

I do not date my classmates...that would be crapping where I eat. I like the above line better. I am in a 27 to 3 ratio in my class and the other classes are about the same at NAU. Our recent accelerated program has 12 guys in it...***? We just played kickball after Med/ Surg today and they kicked our asses. I would date other people in other classes and/ or nurses I work with, but I am too busy. I also have the additional problem of being much older than a lot of my classmates...'nuff said

[Medsport, LPN]

I'm dating lady that is in my class, but we dated for awile back in high school. She does act different in class. Sometimes she helps me out and other times she ignores me or acts like she does'nt want to be bothered. I can kind of understand as she is under alot of stress. She has a job and 3 kids to take care of, I just have a job. She did say she did'nt want to be in actual clinicals with me though...She is really smart and loves clinicals so far. I'm just barely above average and I hate clinicals (well the first day was'nt too bad, but I don't know yet).