Anybody here ever found a GF or a future wife as a "murse" at work?

[PlentyOfMurses]

I know this is the male "student" section, and this is not a Match.com or PlentyofFish forum.

But I would like to ask my fellow "Murses" a question.

For me, I just recently finished/graduated from my nursing program, and looking at the next step in life - getting a girlfriend and finding a future wife.

While I was studying in nursing school, I did not care much for dating. It's been almost SIX years since I was in a last relationship.

Actually, the truth is, there were some decent-looking or okay-looking female students in my nursing class cohort. It's just that I was more on the quiet/introverted side. I also had no luck, as I have found out through the 'grape vines' that either the girl already has a BF, or is already married to a guy. Shucks!

So do you guys know of any murses who found a girlfriend while working in a hospital, LT care facility, and eventually got married to that person?

I have just started my work as a nurse aid in a hospital about a month ago. So far, a lot of the younger female employees in my department are already married, or already have a BF. =(

I have already tried the bar scenes, joining a church, hanging out at other college campuses, and still have not been successful in finding a significant other.

[PacoUSA, BSN, RN]

I would never EVER be in a relationship with another nurse, much less one I work with also. Don't get me wrong, I love nursing. Just love the idea of being with someone who does something different than I do. Makes for better conversations and life overall.

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[ILoveHealthCare]

I met my boyfriend at work. He was a rn and I was a medical assistant. We didn't work together all the time. I was not looking for a relationship at the time and we just clicked. We now have different jobs and don't work together. I recently became a nurse. We have been dating for over 2 years now. We kept our relationship strictly professional at work. Hardly anyone knew we were dating. As long as you can keep it professional I don't see a problem with it as long as you can remain professional even if you break up.

[Fruit Sucker]

Please don't go around looking for dates in the workplace. Everyone hates that guy. The women hate that guy, the other guys hate that guy. If that's not enough to deter you, think about this: if you're dating someone at work, your relationship will be considered everyone's business. Personally, I would not want that.

Try online dating. Try speed dating. If you aren't meeting enough women, go out more often. If you're not meeting enough women who want to talk to you, reconsider your approach. And keep in mind (I'm just being honest here) that when women aren't interested, they will often tell you they have a boyfriend even if they don't. It just seems like you're hearing that a lot.

Reach out to male friends who have been successful in dating. Figure out what you're doing wrong. Don't bother asking female friends, as they will just feel bad and tell you you're a great guy who's doing everything right. If it's your appearance, work on that. Maybe update your haircut or clothing. Joining a gym may not be a bad idea, plus it may give you more confidence.

Also, ask yourself if you're trying to date women who are suitable matches for you, or if you're "playing outside your league". I had a friend who insisted for years he didn't want to date any women who were chubby, though he was a chubby guy who didn't look like a model. He adjusted his expectations and eventually found a nice woman who, yes, is chubby and not perfect but has been a great girlfriend for him. Just saying don't look for someone perfect, and think about what you have to offer and how you can improve that. Good luck.

[Fruit Sucker]

Also, learn to dance. Women appreciate a guy who likes dancing and is good at it. Plus, it will give you more opportunities to meet women. Try a salsa class. Everyone loves salsa.

[mrbuilt4this]

I'm all for letting things happen naturally. Me personally as a male nurse I wouldn't date someone I work with, but If you have a certain energy that can't be ignored go for it.

[OwlieO.O]

Don't call me a 'murse.' Not cool.

[StudentOfHealing]

I'm gonna skip every comment....

Using murse... so so SO annoying. I would never like to be called a murse. It's a pet peeve of mine. It sounds so unprofessional and belittling.

[tinkerbell419]

Aww this post is so sweet. And you seem like such a lovely guy but im in the UK. How old are you? I agree. Avoid the bars and nightclubs at all costs. I never met a guy from there, just people drunk or trying to get a one night stand. She will come to you like a guardian angel and I hope God finds ypu a lovely wife!

The workplace isnt a good idea, well depends if she works on a different unit or department but not in the same department. Try socialising with pepple at work.

[tinkerbell419]

Also calling yourself murse. Please dont take offense but do you feel sensitive about being male and a nurse. Nurse is now a general title. Please if you will call yourself a male nurse not murse. You are one of us. Your sex is irrelevant. Stay posotive and enjoy life. Maybe find a group or club for young professionals.

[guest769224]

I found my boyfriend at work. ?

I think it's great having a partner in the same line of work, it's easy to relate and understand a stressful day.

[cd365c]

I enjoy calling myself a murse. I don't know why people have a negative connotation of it!

[SmilingBluEyes]

Don't eat where ya poop. that is to say, don't date coworkers. It rarely works out and is awkward for EVERYONE.