A "dating female students in your class" post

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Well, having just completed my 1st semester of the nursing program, I have found that as a single guy, you are really in (at times) a very weird catch-22 being in a female-dominated student body.

Although I definitely do not complain about the female-to-male ratio, I have learned - the hard way, really - that trying to date one (or, god forbid, even more than one) of your classmates can in many ways be a disastrous decision. Because even though you will likely interact with your female of interest every single day at school, that still doesn't change the fact that you still have to stay focused and on the ball if you want to succeed in nursing school. At one point, I thought that because we were both in the same program, at the same school, etc. it could still work - but man, that just hasn't necessarily shown itself to be the case, in my experience. You simply cannot have your head in the clouds and still do well academically. I would love to be proven wrong on this, but I'm hedging my bets carefully from here on out. It's hard sometimes, trying to find that balance - because even though I'm relatively young (29), I'm not going to pretend that I want to stay single forever - but I definitely don't want to risk losing my "edge" with my studies.

Any other guys experienced anything like this?

Female nursing student here. I am in my mid 20's, and nursing is my life. School consumes my life, and afterwards, work will. I don't go to bars or nightclubs or anything like that.

As a single gal, with no kids, I was actually hoping for some single guys in the nursing program. Oh well. Guess I am destined for single-dom forever!

Any guys find that dating a co-worker is ok after nursing school??

Don't tell me, all the ones in your class are either married, gay, or taken? :D

Specializes in ED, trauma.
Don't tell me, all the ones in your class are either married, gay, or taken? :D

PRECISELY.

And even in clinicals too. It's a rather crummy outlook on the dating game for me it would seem.

PRECISELY.

And even in clinicals too. It's a rather crummy outlook on the dating game for me it would seem.

You need to come be in my class. I am the opposite of all 3 of those... haha. But I'm not starting until January in Tampa. I see you have posted on some Orlando threads... are you at SCC? VCC? UCF?

I'm in Orlando at the moment myself. :D

Specializes in ED, trauma.

You need to come be in my class. I am the opposite of all 3 of those... haha. But I'm not starting until January in Tampa. I see you have posted on some Orlando threads... are you at SCC? VCC? UCF?

I'm in Orlando at the moment myself. :D

UCF. I hear Tampa pays better, perhaps it's time to move? Haha

UCF. I hear Tampa pays better, perhaps it's time to move? Haha

Perhaps. I don't plan on settling in Tampa after the ASN though... hoping to join the USAF after an RN-MSN (at UCF online?) if things work out.

Good luck for your plans, whatever they may be. ^_^

I was thinking about this a lot. At first I always joked about getting that kind of attention. I'm a younger guy, keep in shape, and all that.

But then I realized that in all honesty, I'll likely be taking mostly part time or online classes due to my hectic schedule. It could be a good year before I even see another face aside from exam time lol.

But I do agree about the drama issue. With wanting to go past the BSN and hopefully into CRNA-land one day, GPA is of the utmost importance. Being a single father of 2 means I'm already busy after work - study time is already at a minimum.

I'm sure I'll love the attention because working and parenting alone is tough and it means I can never get out and have a social life (I don't trust babysitters). But I'll have to make sure to cut it off at the minor ego boost. Too much of my future lies on the line :(

If it's understood that I have no time or interest in relationships, I imagine I might let something slide, but that's a slippery slope.

I joke about my situation being like a man trapped on a desert island somewhere with a dozen beautiful women and I've got a winning lottery ticket at home waiting for me. Yes the girls would be distracting and tempting, but women don't share men very well (the term "catfight" came to be for a reason), and as pretty as they were.. I'd want that lottery payout much more.

In other words - short term vs long term goals. I do love a pretty woman, but a lifestyle of relaxation and recreation is my goal. To allow myself to get sidetracked would only be a disservice to myself and an insult to my kids for the time they sacrificed with their dad so that he could go to school in the first place :(

Well said! You seem like a guy who has your priorities straight: your kids and school! Everything tends to fall into place when you aren't looking for it too. You're setting up your life right, and you will attain that well deserved life of recreation!!

I dated 1 of the 5 male nursing students in my program for the last 1.5 yrs in school, & I believe it was one of the best decisions he made while in school :lol2:. He no longer had to commute! Luckily, our relationship didn't really interfere with performance in school. We broke up b/c I moved 2,000 miles away when I graduated. We are still friends; we have made trips to visit each other, and we speak regularly.

Specializes in ED, trauma.

Perhaps. I don't plan on settling in Tampa after the ASN though... hoping to join the USAF after an RN-MSN (at UCF online?) if things work out.

Good luck for your plans, whatever they may be. ^_^

I am finishing up my BSN next year and since I am single and have no kids, I plan on following the money wherever it may take.

I dated 1 of the 5 male nursing students in my program for the last 1.5 yrs in school, & I believe it was one of the best decisions he made while in school :lol2:. He no longer had to commute! Luckily, our relationship didn't really interfere with performance in school. We broke up b/c I moved 2,000 miles away when I graduated. We are still friends; we have made trips to visit each other, and we speak regularly.

Good to know you were one of the "good" girls in class. By good of course I mean someone that didn't break up with said guy prior to graduation which in turn probably would have made it very awkward for him until graduation itself.

In the first week of nursing school there was this one girl in my class of 36 (me the only guy) that stared at me everyday. My initial thought was that she taught i was weird that a guy was in such a fileld of work. A week later we were given group projects and me and this girl ended up in the same group. The same day we were assign the project we had a group meeting to discuss how we were going to present and so on, long story short in the mids of the group meeting this girl came out of no where and said " hey do you have a girlfriend". I was shocked, I didn't respond and as I was about to, another group member brought up something about the project then 10 minutes later the meeting was adjourn and we went our separate ways, that was the most ackward moment ever. 2 days latér that same girl saw me one a way and asked me the same question and i said no then she took my number, and we started texting for like a week the attraction was obvious long story She wanted me and I didn't end up dating her because I new it wouldn't end well considering me and this girl would be in the same class for 4 years.

^ would have done the same. Idk personally if a girl approaches me like that than I wouldn't date her either.

In the first week of nursing school there was this one girl in my class of 36 (me the only guy) that stared at me everyday. My initial thought was that she taught i was weird that a guy was in such a fileld of work. A week later we were given group projects and me and this girl ended up in the same group. The same day we were assign the project we had a group meeting to discuss how we were going to present and so on, long story short in the mids of the group meeting this girl came out of no where and said " hey do you have a girlfriend". I was shocked, I didn't respond and as I was about to, another group member brought up something about the project then 10 minutes later the meeting was adjourn and we went our separate ways, that was the most ackward moment ever. 2 days latér that same girl saw me one a way and asked me the same question and i said no then she took my number, and we started texting for like a week the attraction was obvious long story She wanted me and I didn't end up dating her because I new it wouldn't end well considering me and this girl would be in the same class for 4 years.

When girls actually get some spunk and make the first move I find it soooo flattering and awesome, really wish more did it, this is not the 50s anymore. However I concur with your decision to not date her, that is if you were gonna see her for 4 years. Destined to end bad. That is something you entertain your final semester, when you can deal with potential awkwardness for 4 weeks or 4 months vs. 4 years...

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