Am I Nurse Material? - page 4

I made my decision to go into nursing. It took a 4 day stay to Childrens Hospital last year with my 5 week old daughter. What I saw there in what seemed like a year changed my life. I have never... Read More

  1. by   TrixieKat
    I starting nursing school when I was 35 years old. My daughter was 9 years old. I worked 10pm to 7am in a grocery store. When I told my mom, who left me, my brother and dad when I was 16, that I was going to nursing school, she told me I was wasting my time and wouldn't make it. She had tried to get into nursing school when she was about 35 and didn't make it. Not only did I graduate, but I received honors. I have been a nurse for 10 years now. Don't listen to anyone else. Do what you feel you should do. My dad has a very large family and 75% of the women are nurses. All my life I was told by them, you should be a nurse. My reply, "I'm never going to be a nurse, that doesn't interest me." But look what happened!! I'm a nurse and I love it. Good luck
  2. by   Hopefull nurse
    Its so hurtful when people around you, meant to help you, actually seem to want you to fail. In highschool my 11th grade math teacher told us that we shouldn't bother going to college b/c we would never make it. Well I went to college and once there,I came upon a certain Accounting teacher. I was having trouble understanding a section in the class. When I went to him (he was also the accounting dept head), he told me the material was easy and I shouldn't be having problems with it. He finished off by saying that I should take time off from college, that maybe it wasn't for me. All b/c I didn't understand 3 pages in my acct text. I was really hurt and got really depressed. I ended up getting an F and felt terrible. I doubted myself as a college student. I later retook the class with an incredible teacher who made sure we got it! I have been the type of person to get discouraged and take comments to heart. But with this Nursing dream I feel different. I know I will encounter issues but I have grown up and matured since my acct class incident. I am determined to do good b/c I don't have any room for error. I am always telling my younger cousins to do well in school, same advise I will eventually give my kids. I want to be a role model for them and inspire them to be successful at what they want to do. Thankfully, I have the opportunity to concentrate on school and not work. My fiance is being very supportive and is with me all the way. Of course, he is concerned of the stress, but he knows I want this more than anything.
    Thank you all for taking the time to respond. It feels great to know that others have been in my choice and have succeeded. It gives me hope and the will to continue.
    I have been looking for signs. The day I got my nursing information packet I had some Chinese. Later that evening after I finished reading the packet, I opened a fortune cookie. It read, "NEVER GIVE UP"
  3. by   TrixieKat
    When I was in nursing school, one of the teachers would never answer questions, she would say "Look it up", and if you still had questions and asked her to explain it, she wouldn't. I just took it to mean that she didn't know the answer. Even now, there are nurses who are in 'teaching' positions, such as risk managers, nurse educators, etc., and when asked they are asked a question and say, "You're a nurse, you should already know that," I take it that they don't know the answer. My position is Care Plan Coordinator and I also have to educate CNAs on documentation. I always take time to explain, even when they don't ask, CNAs and nurses, both. Thank goodness there's the internet, where you can find almost anything. Helped me out in nursing school and is still helping me out today. Nursing education never stops, you are always learning, even those who have been nurses for 20, 30, 40 years.
  4. by   nursemarion
    People love to point out the negative. All my life I have heard this from people. College is too expensive, why would you ever want to do that, yada yada yada. It is your life. Who cares what anyone thinks? Do what you feel you want to do. Everything is a risk, but you can either take a risk or sit around regretting not doing it for the rest of your life.
    Last edit by nursemarion on Jun 24, '09
  5. by   gradRN2007
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    i made my decision to go into nursing. it took a 4 day stay to childrens hospital last year with my 5 week old daughter.

    what i saw there in what seemed like a year changed my life. i have never been so pasionate about anything, not even when i was majoring in business at uno.

    i will begin taking my biology pre-requisites at delgado this fall. i am so excited and ready to start.

    unfortunately, my excitement is short lived. do it. my mom is telling me that nursing is not for me. she says that its hard work. she doesn't believe i will succeed at getting accepted to charity. she also mentioned i was not nursing material. and because i have 2 daughters, she believes i won't be able to

    i never thought i would hear this from my mom. i am so hurt by her words and lack of faith for me. how do you guys know for sure you have what it takes to be a nurse? i am starting to believe maybe she is right.



    in what seemed like a year changed my life...4 days actually
    when i was majoring in business at uno.
    begin taking my biology pre-requisites at delgado this fall.
    my excitement is short lived.
    my mom is telling me that nursing is not for me. she says that its hard work. she doesn't believe i will succeed at getting accepted to charity. she also mentioned i was not nursing material. and because i have 2 daughters, she believes i won't be able to do it
    i am so hurt by her words and lack of faith for me.

    here is scrooge....4 days changed your life, those 4 days felt like a year...nursing school is long and hard, having a sick baby for 4 days is nothing like nursing school. you were majoring in business, why did you stop? good for you for starting your pre-med classes, who is supporting you in your career change..you?your mom?hubby/ if its you..more power to you. you should still be excited no matter what if its the change you want. if mom is saying its hard work maybe she knows what has happened in the past or she feels she will be expected to take care of her 2 grandchildren..??

    if nursing is something you really want you will do fine..with or without support but having support is so much easier on you and your family...find out why mom feels the way she does..hopefully you are still working while taking your prerequistes so you can tell if you like biology, chemistry, community service, phlebotomy, puke and poop, old people and everyone inbetween..good luck to you and if nursing is what you really want go for it, you will do fine...i had to take the other side though...can't imagine taking all the prerequistes and finding out you didn't like science after all...once you are excepted to a nursing program there is no better feeling...and nursing is the best job in the world...good luck
  6. by   McD511LPN
    I think you are making a true heart felt attempt to follow a new stance in this ever changing world of nursing. Remember what you learn in school, you will also show your kids that it doesn't matter how young or old you are you will always be learning something new. Nursing is a very diverse profession. There are many opportunities in this field that expand far beyond the Hosp. job and the 7am-3pm, 3pm-11pm or the 11pm-7am tours.There are so many avenues you can indulge in... It's endless. and I congradulate you in making a descission that's right for you in your heart. Don't let anyone tell you that you shouldn't do this or that or be this or that... I know it's our nature and your mom knows you best but, your not that little girl anymore and now that you have 2 children obviously you will do what's best for them in all aspects of their life. GoodLuck and hold on tight because you are in for a Wild but most rewarding ride of your life!
  7. by   goodgrief
    when someone tells me I can't do something, it makes me want to do it even more....I guess that's the ambition in me.....you can do whatever you desire!
  8. by   Hopefull nurse
    gradRN2007,

    I don't know if you have any children so you may not understand. Its very difficult to see your 5 week old child in a hospital bed with IVs in her tiny little arms. Yes, it was only 4 days BUT it SEEMED like a year. 4 days of testing and nurses coming in and put of the room can make any mother scared to death. The only thing I wanted was to take my little girl home. Of course, 4 days IS nothing like nursing school, and I don't believe I ever said it was. My daugther was not sick for only 4 days. She did not leave the hospital cured. She will be on medication for approximately the next 7 years and will need yearly kidney check ups for the rest of her life. My decision to be a nurse was not because I spent 4 days in the hospital, it was b/c of the tremendous job I saw those nurses do. The care they gave my daughter I could never repay. Yes, it is their job, but THEY did it with true feeling. They were genuine. Not all nurses are like that.
    And YES I did graduate from the university of new Orleans with a Business degree. I took science classes and I did well, so I'm not a stranger to science.
    Also, I am greatful to not have to work while I attend school. With regards to my kids, I have a good support system and a wonderful hubby who is with me all the way. My parents won't have to worry about taking care of my daughters b/c they are moving out of the country once their retirement home is built.
    I am aware that nursing involves seeing all sorts of things. When you mention puke and poop, do remember that I have children. Puke and poop are on the menu almost every day. To me, a true nurse isn't worried about puke, blood, or poop. Its obvious it comes with the territory. The important part is healing the patient or having the compassion necessary to prepare him/her in the final stages. Young or old, a patients well being should always be top priority.
    I can't wait to start.
  9. by   NurseSourcer
    i certainly would seek out advice from people in the field, similar as you did on this board. learn as much as you can & since you seem pretty grounded, i believe, you can determine for yourself the good, the bad & the ugly. if you're still driven to do it, by all means do it (nike, remember?!). even though we have a close bound w/our family, no one knows you as well as yourself! if you believe this is it for you, it probably is! just make yourself happy & everyone around you will be happy for you, i am sure. do you read on nursinglink as well? recently they posted a day in the life of a nurse article, which might be of interest to you: http://www.nursinglink.com/careers/a..._20090623_life

    cheers, julie
    Last edit by sirI on Jun 25, '09
  10. by   goodgrief
    actually, I have a 2 year old and 1 year old twins, so 3 children plus my wife, who is a stay at home mom, I worked part time while going to nursing school, and just graduated 2 months ago and now work in an ICU. My 1st born child had a coarctation of the aorta, had a surgery to repair it when he was 1 week old and was in the hospital for a month and 1/2, my twins were premature and had to be in the ICU for feeding issues for a month....I don't understand YOUR situation entirely, but I KNOW what it's like to go to school with a family and having to work, and when hardships occur, it's very difficult.....just don't make excuses, do what you want and you'll be happier for having done so....when trials come up, it'll be difficult to get through them, but stick with it, it only gets easier.


    Quote from RN hopefull
    gradRN2007,

    I don't know if you have any children so you may not understand. Its very difficult to see your 5 week old child in a hospital bed with IVs in her tiny little arms. Yes, it was only 4 days BUT it SEEMED like a year. 4 days of testing and nurses coming in and put of the room can make any mother scared to death. The only thing I wanted was to take my little girl home. Of course, 4 days IS nothing like nursing school, and I don't believe I ever said it was. My daugther was not sick for only 4 days. She did not leave the hospital cured. She will be on medication for approximately the next 7 years and will need yearly kidney check ups for the rest of her life. My decision to be a nurse was not because I spent 4 days in the hospital, it was b/c of the tremendous job I saw those nurses do. The care they gave my daughter I could never repay. Yes, it is their job, but THEY did it with true feeling. They were genuine. Not all nurses are like that.
    And YES I did graduate from the university of new Orleans with a Business degree. I took science classes and I did well, so I'm not a stranger to science.
    Also, I am greatful to not have to work while I attend school. With regards to my kids, I have a good support system and a wonderful hubby who is with me all the way. My parents won't have to worry about taking care of my daughters b/c they are moving out of the country once their retirement home is built.
    I am aware that nursing involves seeing all sorts of things. When you mention puke and poop, do remember that I have children. Puke and poop are on the menu almost every day. To me, a true nurse isn't worried about puke, blood, or poop. Its obvious it comes with the territory. The important part is healing the patient or having the compassion necessary to prepare him/her in the final stages. Young or old, a patients well being should always be top priority.
    I can't wait to start.
  11. by   SamyRN
    RE: "my kids were not emotionally scarred by having their mom busy"; to the contrary! My kids benefited greatly from witnessing my drive, ambition, and hard work to achieve my goals. I felt guilty and so sad about taking so much time from my girls, but in the long run, I feel the whole experience was positive for them.
  12. by   Hopefull nurse
    I congratulate you "goodgrief" for your determination. Hope your babies are all doing well. You are just another example to inspire me to continue in this path to nursing. You overcame the obstacles and succeeded! I am so thankful for the positive feedback I have received here. Keep them coming
  13. by   texashyles
    I suggest going to work in a busy hospital as a nurse's aid. You will get a feel for what goes on behind the scenes, the drama, and the pay-off. Other people's opinions are from their own experience. Before you spend a lot of money..try it, several things are sure to surprise you.

    Also, if you decide you don't like it, you just saved yourself a lot of time and energy to put forth somewhere else.

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