my kid wants a sibling, I want to start nursing school

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I'm really torn about getting pregnant. I don't have the time pressure to do it now, I am going to be 28. But my

family, (son & husban, and extended family) think it's good for him to have a sister/brother and this is the cut

off age for a good relationship. I'm not so sure because I am starting my prerequisites now and am applying in

the Fall for Spring start but hey I'm in So Cal so that could take a while! My husband says he will support me and

help with babysitting, but nursing school is serious business and I don't want to screw it up. It would be nice to

add to the family but these are hard times. Sometimes I don't think it's responsible to think well if I get excepted

and I have a four month old, I'd have to put the baby in day care to go to school. And from the forum I've learned

the hours of school vary and can be early or late or all over the board! What is it like, can it be done with two

small children and or babies???

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Such a life changing decision either way. I think if you really want to have another baby you would be for sure of the answer. Nursing school is very time consuming but since you have a supporting husband it should help ease the stresses of school. Although being a mother can be stressful as it is.

Ultimately only you know what's the best decision for you and your family. I've heard of some mothers who make it through nursing school raising young children and some that just had to take a break. It really depends on the person. But just keep in mind that it can be done. U shouldn't feel guilty about having to leave your child at a day care for a few hours your ultimately working to have a stable career to support your child.

I hope everything works out for you.

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We are planning on having our 2nd child during nursing school. There are threads here that support the idea. Do a little search.

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I'm really torn about getting pregnant. I don't have the time pressure to do it now, I am going to be 28. But my

family, (son & husban, and extended family) think it's good for him to have a sister/brother and this is the cut

off age for a good relationship.

You stated yourself that you do not have the time to do it now. Then don't. It sounds like you are not very sure about this, you need to do this only if you want to. Also, IMO, having another kid so that the first child can have a brother or sister is never and excuse or a good reason to have another. Nursing school IS hard, there are a few women in my class that have children, I don't know how they to it. I am waiting until I am done with school, I can not imagine doing this with kids. Its one thing to start nursing school after you have a kid or two or to accidentally get pregnant in nursing school, but planning it...just not for me.

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Your husband is probably going to have to do quite a bit more than simply help with babysitting. I hope he cooks, cleans, and can bathe and put the kids to bed, and can take charge when the kids are sick on your clinical days.

just sayin'....

Personally, I wouldn't advise PLANNING a pregnancy during nursing school. I saw a couple of moms do it, and they were even more stressed than the rest of us, and ready to choke the life out of their supposedly "supportive" husbands. they may have meant well before nursing school started, but those men had no idea what they were getting themselves in to, and the amount of help they offered was no where near sufficient.

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I really think it depends on each individual situation. We had 2 girls that got pregnant in school. One had the baby on a Saturday and was back in school on Tuesday and one took a semester off and picked back up in the one behind us. As far as a "cut off for a good relationship" I don't believe in that. My kids are 6 years apart and they get along better than my sister and I did at 2 years apart. Of course, I feel lucky in that way. lol My kids are older (9 and 15) and very independent, but I still depend on my husband for a lot.. taking the little one to girl scouts, fixing dinner sometimes, etc. Ultimately, you have to decide what's best for you and don't let anyone pressure you into making a decision based on what THEY want. :heartbeat

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It's do-able, but really, from what you're saying, it sounds like your husband and child want a baby more than you do.

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I think you have to do what's right for you, not just your family, because it's ultimately you carrying the baby, and you going to nursing school. I always wanted another sibling when I was a kid and now as an adult looking back I didn't know what that meant, what kind of a responsibility I was asking of my mom, and I'm glad my mom always said "no." Going to nursing school doesn't mean you'll never have another. It means that right now you're putting your efforts into your dream of going to nursing school as a priority. Happy mom=happy family and if you want to wait to have a kid in order to go to nursing school I think you should. Ultimately only you know what is right for you but it seems by your post that you'd rather wait and if that's your instinct than I think it's a right one.

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Your husband says he'll help with babysitting? Huh? You don't babysit your own kids.

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Why make things harder? Just hold off on the baby. Easy solution.

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Hmmmm. Still a difficult choice. Well I mean babysitting because I'm the full time

mom... Even though I work from 9-3 I do all the cleaning, cooking & caretaking.

In return for doing "everything" I don't offer to pay anything to help out, so I can pay for school, books and save for the future tuition. It can be done I know

but we'll see what happens. I know I want more children for sure, just not now!

The only reason I was thinking now so they have a 5 year gap instead of 7 or

8 years when I am done with school. I make play dates as often as I can and

thankfully we have met some good solid friends but my son always wants a

brother or sister. If I knew what the school schedule is like and the work load of

homework I think that would help me make my decision. Sometimes i see it like

this. I would rather be a great mom to one, then half of my energy for two!

A baby and 5 year old is a huge gap, now add on school and two day shift as

CNA. Sometimes it does not seem like a reality!!!

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I don't know how supportive your husband is, but if you work 9-3 and do ALL of the cooking, cleaning, and caretaking now, how well will he adjust to taking over some of that when you are in school with a new baby?

All schools seem to have different schedules, but this is what the majority of students have this semester at my school.

Monday and Tuesday, clinicals from 6:30am to 2:20pm

Tuesday and Wednesday, classes from 9-2 and 9-3

Then you add in all the studying and reading time at home...

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