Hi, I hope to get some advice. I have never posted on here before, only visit the site daily for information. I am a 22 year old who is on a two year waiting list to get into nursing school in BC, Canada. I just found out 2 days ago that I am pregnant-approx.1-2 weeks along. I will be going to the doctor today to get a check-up but I have no idea what I am going to do! My education is very important to me but I don't think I could go through an abortion. I eventually want to specialize in L&D and having an abortion would be going against what I believe in. I have been in a long term 3 year relationship with my boyfriend and we both work full-time. Neither have ever gone through anything like this before. If anyone has had an abortion or unexpected pregnancy while going through school, any advice would be appreciated. Thank you so much. I need all the advice I can get right now.
May 16, '04
My vote is this - keep the baby. Boyfriends/husbands may come and go. Nursing school is two years off. The baby will be fifteen months old by then.
You can go then or put it off a few more years until it goes to school, or go to school part time beforehand and get in your pre-reqs.
When I started nursing school, I had a 3 yr old, a 4 yr old and gave birth at the end of my first semester. I had to go back and make up some clinical days at the end, but I still managed to sneak through and graduate with my class. If I can do it with two preschoolers and a breast-fed newborn, (and a worthless drunk for a husband), you can do it with a toddler!!! AND I was only 23 at the time.
If you have an abortion and then work L&D, I am afraid it will bring up bad memories and not be able to enjoy your work there. Just my opinion.
I will hope and pray you make the right choice for you and that you will be able to do the thing that will make you happiest in the long run.
edited for spelling. oops!
Last edit by KaroSnowQueen on May 16, '04
May 22, '04
...I have a grown child that I adopted when she was 5 days old....She has always known that she is adopted and we are very close...I am proud to be her mother and if she were right here she would tell you that she is glad that I am her mother. She grew up in 4 H and she learned to ride horses...Today she is a prfessional horse trainer. She has been raised she is able to do anything that she can put her mind to...Now If education is important to you maybe you would think of puttig the child up for adoption if abortion is not something that you elieve in...Churches can help place children...I did a private adoption thru a physician and I feel blessed by God...I made a pact with God If I could adopt this child I would name the child after Him and raise her accordingly. I always thought and still do think of the biological mother on holidays and birthdays. After all if she had not made that decision to give her child up I would not be the Mother I am today...God Bless you.
Last edit by mimi190 on May 22, '04