hello! i am brand new to this website. my name is alisha, i am 23 years old. i'm living in texas. my husband is in the air froce and is currently deployed to iraq. i am from minnesota, was raised there, and all my family and my husband's family is there in mn, as well. we got stationed here in san antonio texas, due to my husband being in the military. i am on allnurses.com right now because i am wanting to go back to school to get my rn.
i have been in nursing school twice, for my lpn. i got in nursing school for the first time when i was 19 years old. my boyfriend of over a year had just got killed in a car accident- he was 23 yrs. old. i also was a single mom, i had my son when i was 17 years old. when i think back now i know i wasn't even close to being emotionally ready for nursing school, nor was i mature enough. i dropped out almost right away, i told myself i wasn't ready to go to school...and at this time i was probably correct.
a year and a half later i moved a couple of hours away from my hometown to go to school again. i was dating a new guy by now, this guy is now my husband. i got in the lpn program and i got all the prereq's all done. i was just starting my actual nursing classes and right away i begun to feel overwhelmed and i was having a lot of doubt in myself. i was doing alright though; until i fully gave up- then my attitude was affecting everything and i started to not do as well in school, mainley on the tests. i would get such bad anxiety with taking tests.
then all is a month's notice i found out i was pregnant with my second baby and i also found out my boyfriend was leaving for tech school, for the air force.
i panicked and i dropped out of nursing school a second time and got married to my boyfriend and moved with him in the usaf.
i often look back and regret not staying and toughing it out then, but i didnt have anyone willing to come help me out with the kids, everyone- all my family was saying "stay in college", but no one was going to go out of their way to help me out with my son, or my newborn daughter; they all had their own lives to live.
for a year or so i thought and nearly convienced myself that nursing must not be for me, i've dropped out twice from school- god must be trying to tell me i am not meant to do this. i considered social work, massage therapy, counseling. i knew, and i've always known that i want to do something where i am around people and helping people. again my mind has went back to nursing. i have worked in the health field for so long, since i was 17 years old- so 6 years now, i have worked as a cna in 3 nursing homes, i have worked as a mental health tech in a group home, and currently i work part time as a patient care assistant at a hospital on a medical surgical floor. my main thing is i have such little confidence in myself, i am very afraid of failing again, of disappointing myself again. but a lot of the nurses i've worked with have made me think "if they can do it, i can do it". everyone i've worked with, and many many patients and residents i've worked with tell me i'll make an excellent nurse. my nurse manager i have at my current job has told me i'd be an excellent nurse, that i hold myself so well and that people look up to me. patients have told me that i have a great bedside manner and that i am so caring and so smiley; i've often heard "you're my favorite nurse here" (though i am not a nurse, they associate all of us as nurses).
i just worry about being book smart enough, to get through nursing school. i mean i am married and have 2 kids- a 6 year old son and a 19 month old daughter. i never did real well in high school, which is a huge concern to me; i basically didn't try but i didn't do well- i got b's, c'c and d's, and often failed classes.
i am a whole lot more mature now and i actually "care" now, which i never did in high school, unfortunatly. i am really bad at math; tha's another big concern to me. and i get really bad test anxiety; is another main concern.
but i am very street smart, a people person, caring, happy go lucky, cheerful, and i love to help people!
i guess my question is, what do you all think i would need to do to succeed and get my nursing degree?
i really want to get my bsn one day, and i was thinking about also (like my husband) joining the usaf; though with my bsn, i'd be able to join the air force as an officer.
i need to gain better concentration skills and study skills, testing skills and gain self confidence in myself. all my life i have felt like i wasn't smart; even when i was very young older family relatives would tell me that it was good thing i was tall and pretty, so i could model, cuz i wasn't very bright. instead of working harder and proving them wrong, i decided they were right and that i might as well not try because i wasn't smart anyhow. then when i got pregnant and had my son at 17, everyone figured they were right about me, i wasn't going anywhere in life.
more than anything else i want to get my degree and not just any degree, i want to get my nursing degree, where i can make a difference in people's lives and help people; that is what makes me happiest, that is what makes me feel most fulfilled. after all i've been through and all my acedemic challenges, do you think i could make it and succeed and become a rn, as i dream to be??? thanks for any input!
Oct 9, '05
i wanted to welcome you to allnurses.com. i think you are just like any other person who is really questioning their ability to do this. you just have to decide if it is truly want you want and go for it. sounds like you have a real affinity for the human soul. and, you can get tutoring for the math.
i believe you can overcome any obstacle. go for it.
Oct 9, '05
Hi, Alisha and welcome to allnurse
Sounds like you need a good old-fashioned shot of self-confidence! Sweetie, look at the *good* things you've accomplished...you're a wonderful wife, a great mother, and a kind compassionate CNA!!
Take things slow and easy so you don't get overwhelmed (being a wife and mom are stressful enough in their own rights)....study hard, and KNOW THAT YOU CAN DO IT!!
Oct 9, '05
It sounds like you really want to do this and my personal philosophy is that if you want anything bad enough, you can do it. If you really want to be a nurse then you'll study your butt off and get help with your weaknesses. I'm in LPN school for the second go round. I quit the first time because I was going through too much stuff with my fiance at that time. I found out he was cheating on me and I was really devasted. Like you I'm glad I didn't finish because I wasn't mature enough. I have a 16 month old child now and he is my motivation for everything I do now. I'm in my second month of a 1 year program now and I will not fail or quit. By god I'm going to get through this and be a great nurse. If you need to talk I'm all ears ( when i get a chance, school is time consuming). This website is really great for advice too. Good luck with everything.
Oct 10, '05
Hey there. USAF vet and wife here.
My personal motto has become "if your life leads you to it, you can do it".
I, also worried about being "smart" enough for nursing school. I worried if I could "hack it". In trying, I learned not only could I hack it, but I could excel. Course by course, semester by semester, I built the self-confidence to know I could do this and I have not looked back since.
I have no regrets, having graduated nearly 8 years ago and working in my dream job of being an OB/GYN RN. If you want to do this, you can!
And gaining a commission in the USAF as nurse would secure you a bright future. There are MANY educational opportunites in the USAF and you can have your master's degree paid for and all the training you need to be competent and master your speciality, to boot.
I say, get to a university and talk to a guidance counselor soon. Discuss your desire to pursue a nursing education and get working on the pre-requisite courses you need to be admitted to nursing school. Unsure where you will go?
Here is a site that lists nursing schools by location and type:
Best of luck. If you have further questions about nursing in general, or school, be sure to post them on the General Nursing or Student Nursing Forums. That way, people will see and reply to them. Glad to have you on board!
Oct 10, '05
Good luck to you in all that you do. We get wiser and older. You sound very self-aware about what your strengths and weaknesses are, and I'm sure you'll go very far in life. Best wishes!
Jan 2, '06
Thank you so much for the advice. I appreciate it!
Jan 3, '06
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Jan 3, '06
Hi, thanks! I have been SOOO busy running around with my kids, etc, etc...my husband is in Iraq right now & we don't have family here...so it's me with the 2 kids...it can get pretty overwhelming; as I'm sure you can imagine. My son is 6 and my daughter is soon 2 (will be 2 in March). My computer time is limited. I'm glad to be back though...***smiles***
I have been pondering starting Nursing school (again) this Fall. I can't make up my mind if I should start this Fall (2006), or if I should wait until my daughter starts school (so I don't have to miss out on anything with her). I can see pluses and minuses to both...
Anyways, thanks again for all the information on the site, I appreciate it!
Jan 3, '06
Start school when it is best for you to begin. You have quite a load on your hands. I wish you the best. Hopefully soon, your man in Arms will be your man in your arms, supporting you along the way as you complete your dream....making it a little easier. Hugs out to you!
Jan 3, '06
Best of luck to you in whatever you decide! I was also not that much of an academic star early on in school, but the farther away I get from people who originally wrote me off as a "music person" and not the "doctor/lawyer type", the better I seem to do in the nursing program. Don't get dragged down by what other people say when you know in your heart that it's wrong!
Jan 3, '06
Remember, you don't have to carry a full load of classes. While your daughter is young, you might just take one or two classes a semester and spend the majority of your time with her. Every class, heck, every ASSIGNMENT completed is another step in the right direction. You're going to do great.