I quit nursing school...now what???

  1. Hi, I've never posted before, so here's my intro.

    After years of taking prereques, I starting the ASN program this fall. I was doing good in the academic portion of it, but the clinicals were giving me anxiety attacks, and I was getting sick from not sleeping. After a lot of thinking, I dropped out after 3 weeks. I don't regret it because I know I had to do it for my health. But now I don't know what to do with my life!

    My anxiety stems from losing my nine year old son 8 years ago. I never had anxiety until he was diagnosed with a cancerous brain tumor. We had a daughter after he died who is 4 years old. She will start kindergarten next fall. I can write a letter to my advisor and possibly start again next fall. I know how short life is and I want to enjoy my daughter while she's still young but I don't want to be stressed out.

    We met some really great nurses during my son's 2 years of treatments. I want to be that kind nurse for somebody else. I'm a very caring, nurturing person. I want to give back, plus have a good, stable career.

    I'm looking for advice from you guys. I could get a business degree but that sounds really boring to me. I know the answers are inside me and I've prayed and prayed, but I'm not getting any feedback from myself!

    Northern Indiana
    p.s. I forgot to mention my doctor started me on Lexapro and so far so good.
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  3. by   tlhubbard
    Maybe since you recognize your nurturing/caring qualities, you should consider ANOTHER medical degree. Maybe you would be an excellent radiology tech, or phlebot. That way you can take excellent care of someone, but not have the difficulty of nursing clinicals right now. You can worry about that later, if it is still what you want.

    Don't let your compassion go to waste. We need caring people in all areas of medicine. Good luck to you. (enjoy your little girl, I have 2--they're the best)
  4. by   Jerico
    Having four children I understand how traumatic the loss of your son must be. My heart goes out to you. Loss of a child is probably worse than death itself. Even 8 years out there is no mental way to "accept" such sorrow.

    I think you have a good plan to just wait another year. Write the letter. They will understand and if they don't they are just morons.

    I think hanging with the 4 year old is good. Nursing school is stressful enough. Take the time.

    Many people go into nursing because they have had a good experience with the health care team. There are less stressful places to be in healthcare other than nursing, trust me.

    Business IS boring - also have been there, done that.

    Teaching is another GREAT caring field, too. Psychology - they need good grief counselors, too.

    Take the time to think it over. There are many ways to care and nurture.
  5. by   GoldenFire5
    I'm coming out of the business world to go into nursing. The two are very different, but they can both be rewarding.

    I think the advice about exploring other avenues in the medical field is good. I found a book called Pathfinder helpful... it helps you discover what kind of career your talents and personality are suited for.

    Good luck to you!
  6. by   Jessy_RN
    I am so terribly sorry for your loss. Hope you can get things sorted out soon. Good luck
  7. by   SmilingBluEyes
    I am so sorry for your loss all those years ago......I hope you find what works for you.


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  8. by   TheCommuter
    Welcome to this site and good luck to you!

    I feel so terribly for the loss of your child.
  9. by   following_faith
    I am sorry about your loss. You popped a question in my mind for a thread that I am going to ask-maybe something in there will help.
  10. by   tencat
    I can't begin to imagine how horrible it is to lose a child. :icon_hug: If you were experiencing such severe anxiety then maybe it was your heart telling you that this work is not an exact fit for you. How about counselling/psychology? You have a wealth of experience to help others deal with their grief. Maybe this would be a better fit?
  11. by   Thunderwolf
    I too am sorry for your loss. This was definitely rough enough on you. I second others opinions to not discount other medically related fields. You may consider later going back for your RN or LPN. Go with what is in your heart.

  12. by   nurse4theplanet
    My deepest sympathies to you for suffering the loss of a child.

    First, I commend you on your courage and motivation to conquer nursing. I am also glad that you are under the care of a physician for you anxiety. I too suffer from anxiety, have been on Lexapro, and it worked great.

    Don't feel bad because you got freaked out the first time around. Nursing school is very stressful even for the average student who has not been through such trauma. If you truly want to be a nurse, please please try again. You could bring soooooo much to the feild with your personal experience. Perhaps, use the death of your son to motivate you to finish nursing school so that you might be there for families and children that are going through similar situations.

    But if you feel that the emotional rollercoaster has been too trying on you. Find something else. It doesn't have to be business. You can use your science pre-req's to complete a science degree and work in a lab, pharmacy, etc. Perhaps your humanties can be applied towards social work. Best thing to do is to talk to an advisor or a couselor at your school and review all your options.

    In the meantime, have you sought counseling for you and your family for your loss?

    Best of Luck to you!
  13. by   angelmom1997
    Thank you all for your wonderful words of support.

    I listed my nursing books on Ebay yesterday which was depressing. The reality sunk in that I have to give up on this dream (at least for now).

    I have been researching other medical fields to go into.
    I will keep you posted.

  14. by   GooeyRN
    I am so sorry for your loss. My opionion is to hang out with your 4 y/o. She will be growing up fast and not wanting to hang out w/ mommy as much once she starts school and makes friends. Nursing schools will always be there. Your little girl wont. If you had such extreme anxiety, maybe your mind is trying to tell you that nursing isn't for you. Did you have anxiety problems before nursing school? You can always try nursing school again after you are on meds for a while if it is still your dream. I think the other posters who suggested exploring other medical professions have a great idea. Just something to think about.