Okay, guess I need to be more specific here!
I'm a community nurse, so I'm very familiar with CCAC. And, I know nursing homes will organize tours for you, and show you the facility. But, that's all window dressing, IMHO. Doesn't tell you a thing about how the home REALLY works. What I'm hoping for is inside info, the inside scoop from people who either work in LTC, or have a relative living in a home in one of the above areas.
I didn't know about the 6 mo. wait if your refuse a home...that IS new!
Hope they can find him someplace decent, then transfer him to one that's close to home when a bed becomes available. And I don't think it's going to be a joint placement after all. My 90 yr. old mom is a real trooper. In spite of being nearly blind from macular degeneration, she's walking to church, walking to her hairdresser, and tripping up and down those 4 flights of stairs in their split-level home like a teenager! It amazes me what she CAN see sometimes. When I took her to the hospital to visit, she skirted a puddle on the sidewalk without me having to steer her around it.
Still, we worry about her.... To be alone after 58 years of marriage has got to be extremely hard.