I'm sooo confused and burned out

Michaelxy · Apr 9, 2010

You somewhat contradict yourself and leave me a bit confused. On the one hand you say you are under appreciated overworked, and you hate your job, all the while you say that you can't imagine doing anything else. I dunno, as this confuses me but as the Syfy channel says "Imagine greater". I can't imagine spending the time and money in a field that I hate, sounds absurd to put it bluntly.

Perhaps you might consider putting this time, money and effort into something that inspires you whether it be law, culinary or electronics.

You really should decide if nursing is for you... :)

2bnurseTV · Apr 13, 2010

Being a cna is different than being a nurse, so I think I get what you mean. I am a mom with 3 kids, 2,6 and 8. It is hard. I think you should consider moving in with your mom so you can quit your job or at least cut back. It will all pay off in the long run.

Sorry about the remark above, it really stinks when you are looking for help and someone attacks you ??? I dont know what that is all about.

madwife2002, BSN, RN · Apr 13, 2010

It is normal to feel overwelmed you have so much going on in your life at the moment. I suggest the best thing would be to move back home where you would have support and move on.

beingthankful · Apr 13, 2010

First of all :yeah: you have done soo much with your life already between your service, work life and your son. You sound like you're feeling overwhelmed and slightly disappointed with yourself. DON'T BE!!!! I completely understand how you feel.

First, I'd recommend a vacation. Seriously. If you can afford to take 2 days off to "re-assess" your situation I think it would help wonders. Then, take your time! I get that you feel like you just want to be done, but there is NO RUSH. You're 26 & there are ppl who are just going to the nursing profession who are twice your age.

Take your time, remove your stressors first so that you can truly concentrate on your goals. Suck it up & move home with mom if you have to. Even if just for a little while to save and unravel a bit. Then when you're ready, you can take a fresh start and be focused on your goals.

Good luck to you!

Saysfaa · Apr 14, 2010

Can you map it out? Maybe that would take some of the uncertainty out and let you have some peace and ability to focus on what you need to do now. If you are like me, you start with one scenario and jump to another before you think through the first. I end up with lots of threads in my hands but they are all tangled so much I can't tell which leads where. I have to force myself to systematically sort them out.

It sounds like money and time are the two biggies. Start with money: write out a budget (drudgery for us nonmathy types, but a worth doing anyway) and find out how much you would need to work if you lived on your own and how much if you moved in with your mom. You might need three or four or six or eight versions depending on which school or whether you take the rn or bsn route and how much choice you have to take fewer classes or more classes at a time.

Then breath a little, sleep on them, play with the idea of what your life would be like with one, then another. Be as realistic as you can about how much time and energy you will have. Rather than plan to be fully stretched, leave some space for the unexpected, that way when something comes up (and something will come up) you can handle it without derailing your entire plan.

Make a point to let go of what you woulda, coulda, shoulda done. That is sunk cost, water under the bridge.... Start with where you are and what your choices are from this point.

Wanting to be done in four years is a good thing but giving it up as a goal might be the easiest way to let enough pressure off to let you be solidly successful all the way through.

nenupharvn · Apr 14, 2010

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