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It's only the 2nd week and school is KILLING me. I have A&P 11-2 and then I have to go back at nights from 6-8:30 for algebra. I have a 6 and 7 year old that fight non-stop, so I get no peace until they're in bed. By then, I'm having to cram everything in at once. My kids go to a school that is out of our zone, so I'm having to drive extra miles.

I've never had a migrane in my life, yet I'm getting them daily now. To the point that I literally get sick on my stomach. I've cried and cried because of the stress.

Has anyone else gone through this? My mom said she thinks I should drop the A&P until a less stressful time. Plus, with gas prices going up the driving back and forth is killing us. My school is a 40 minute drive.

I feel liks such a failure and like I'm giving up too easily. :crying2: I try to tell myself that I still have time to do this (I'm 28). I'm just afraid that if I give up now, that I'll never follow through with it.

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tridil2000 has 33 years experience as a MSN, RN.

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It's only the 2nd week and school is KILLING me. I have A&P 11-2 and then I have to go back at nights from 6-8:30 for algebra. I have a 6 and 7 year old that fight non-stop, so I get no peace until they're in bed. By then, I'm having to cram everything in at once. My kids go to a school that is out of our zone, so I'm having to drive extra miles.

I've never had a migrane in my life, yet I'm getting them daily now. To the point that I literally get sick on my stomach. I've cried and cried because of the stress.

Has anyone else gone through this? My mom said she thinks I should drop the A&P until a less stressful time. Plus, with gas prices going up the driving back and forth is killing us. My school is a 40 minute drive.

I feel liks such a failure and like I'm giving up too easily. :crying2: I try to tell myself that I still have time to do this (I'm 28). I'm just afraid that if I give up now, that I'll never follow through with it.

you're not giving up. you're making adjustments. give up a & p or math for now. keep the books, and in your spare time read them.

rome was not built in a day.

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Easily??? :uhoh21: Not a chance. You need to do what will save you. Often, I took one class a semester while doing my prereqs. It saved my sanity AND allowed me to get better grades by being able to focus. I was a single mom, driving my daughter 45 minutes to school, working full time and going to school myself. It can be done. Just don't let yourself fall into that "supermom" pitfall.

Time and scenario management skills are regarded highly in nursing. Use this as more training. On top of motherhood this will just turn you from pro to "super pro"!:p

Good luck to you. It'll be okay.

alyssa

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:icon_hug: You can do EET! We're all pulling for ya!

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I feel your pain!! I was there once.....and you too will get through it!:rolleyes:

I had a kid too and bills to pay...it is so hard! I almost had a nervous breakdown everyday! But i did it and you can too!

You need to find some good support....I couldnt have done without, use ppl at school or friends. Try to catch a break when you can, take deep breaths when you feel like you cant do it. I was crying one day to an instructor of mine saying the same thing "I cant do this its too much ill never make it" and her words, although not profound in any way stuck with me. She was like "you know what, you are very smart and determined and its sad to say but stupider people then you have made it through so I have no doubt you will to"

Weird that a saying like that would help in any way but it did. It is VERY overwhelming, especially the first few months, but I can promise you this, it does get easier in that you will learn as time goes on how to cope and what works best for you in terms of studying, etc. Sometimes you have to cut corners. I never did allllllll the reading, just what was important, etc. You will learn what the look for in tests and what you will need to focus on.

I do feel for you! Sending you loads of hugs and encouragement!!!!!!!!!

YOU CAN DO IT!! DONT GIVE UP!!!

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you're not giving up. you're making adjustments. give up a & p or math for now. keep the books, and in your spare time read them.

rome was not built in a day.

I'm just so dissapointed in myself. I'm sitting here crying as I type this. I'm a WRECK!!!

I'm doing awesome in math. I felt like a kid last night after my first test that I made a 96 on. I have always been TERRIBLE at math, but I love my instructor and she makes it all so easy to understand. She teaches it completely different than I've ever seen it.

It's so hard to get into A&P and I was lucky to get in. The workload is just overwhelming. I love my A&P instructor, but so much of everything is home study and I don't have the time to do it all. I sat here for over an hour trying to do my pre-labs (16 worksheets due Thursday) and I only found 2 answers.

I need to find out how long my classes are good for. Math and A&P were the last 2 pre-reqs I need. I'm wanting to go for LPN, so I got all my other pre-reqs finished last fall and Spring.

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pricklypear has 11 years experience and specializes in Telemetry, ICU, Resource Pool, Dialysis.

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How many days a week are you doing this? This is a long shot, but is there anybody available that could pick up the kids from school, and keep them until you get done with your evening class? That way, you would have a 4 hour window to get all your studying and paperwork done, without all the extra driving.

If that's not feasible, then I think you should drop one of the classes. Remember, your GPA is important, and both of those classes are core classes that will figure into your GPA. If you spread yourself too thin, you take the chance of getting low grades in the classes.

I had 3 young kids while I was in school, and know exactly where you're coming from. Everything was a circus, and schedules were balanced on the head of a pin. I always tried to schedule an early morning class that I could get to after I took the kids to school, then either another class right away, or leave a few hours break to study before the next one. Or, if I couldnt get an early class, I would go straight to school or the library anyway to get work done. It gets easier as you find little solutions to the everyday problems. Don't be afraid to utilize your friends and family - most people are very willing to help if you ask!

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sirI has 30 years experience as a MSN, APRN, NP and specializes in Education, FP, LNC, Forensics, ED, OB.

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I'm just so dissapointed in myself. I'm sitting here crying as I type this. I'm a WRECK!!!

I'm doing awesome in math. I felt like a kid last night after my first test that I made a 96 on. I have always been TERRIBLE at math, but I love my instructor and she makes it all so easy to understand. She teaches it completely different than I've ever seen it.

It's so hard to get into A&P and I was lucky to get in. The workload is just overwhelming. I love my A&P instructor, but so much of everything is home study and I don't have the time to do it all. I sat here for over an hour trying to do my pre-labs (16 worksheets due Thursday) and I only found 2 answers.

I need to find out how long my classes are good for. Math and A&P were the last 2 pre-reqs I need. I'm wanting to go for LPN, so I got all my other pre-reqs finished last fall and Spring.

I, too, feel your pain. In my post graduate studies, I had to drop a class. I was too overwhelmed. A 17 month old and a newborn......I cried all the time.....nauseated.....no concentration. I felt like a failure, too.

Please do what is right for you. After I dropped the class.......I was so relieved and able to give my children AND school the right attention. It made all the difference in the world.

Good luck and make yourself less stressed...........IMHO :balloons: :icon_hug:

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don't be so hard on yourself. I didnt finish my nursing program till I was 40.

Is there no way to coordinate the classes better to have a better schedule?

If not, just relax and maybe think about easing up on your schedule.

I think most programs would want the A&P to be more recent...

peace...this too shall pass....

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Tweety has 28 years experience as a BSN, RN and specializes in Med-Surg, Trauma, Ortho, Neuro, Cardiac.

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There's only so much you can do. Your health, your peace of mind, your family and pocket book aren't worth it. You would not be considered a failure to drop one or the other to make it easier on yourself and your family.

Maybe you're just overwhelmed because it's new and you haven't hit your stride yet. Nursing school is like this, so it's just a preview of stress to come. Maybe you need to find ways to cope.

I had to take A&P by itself due to other obligations. This was after I dropped it twice. I took over five years to get my ADN. Good luck to you in whatever you do.

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I don't know if this would help, but a doctor told me to get a prescription for xanax because I'm in a similar predicament. While I don't have kids, I work ful-time and go to school full-time days. I also commute too. He said he took it during med school and he didn't know how he would have made it through without it. I havn't gotten a prescription yet, I gonna wait and see how I manage since my first day of class was yesterday, maybe I won't need it. Xanax may be of benefit to you if you find yourself worrying and unable to concentrate during a time period you've allocated for yourself to study. I think a low dose would be of help. It sounds like you got a lot on your plate with commuting to and from school, bringing your kids back and forth to school, being a young Mom and trying to find time to get on top of your courses. I don't think you're a failure. I think it's awesome that you're young and are working so hard to meet your goals. With all the running around you do, don't forget to take care of yourself. Make sure you're eating healthy and drinking plenty of fluids. Headaches can be caused be stress/anxiety, but a lot of times improper fluid intake is to blame. You're still early in the semester, why not see how you do on some tests before the drop deadline approaches. If you think two classes is too much, then pick the one you'd think you'd be more likely to do your best in and stick with it. A nursing supervisor I work with told me she had to do it one course at a time because of work/family obligations. And now she's a supervisor. . .

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Faeriewand has 10 years experience as a ASN, RN and specializes in med/surg/tele/neuro/rehab/corrections.

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Listen to your body. Don't ignore the message it's sending you. Drop the A&P and take it next semester or whenever you can. Then you can focus on your math. I too have had to go slower because of family. My children don't get along the greatest either and it's hard for me to concentrate when my family is around. But remember this will all pass with tiime.

This semester my last two classes were like 5 hours apart! Just not good for me and my children. Each class interfered with my children's schedule like time to pick them up from school. So I had to drop. I will get back to them when I can. No biggie.

(And from that book....)

Don't sweat the small stuff ok? And it's all small stuff. :)

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