I need help deciding if I should relocate

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Hello,

i have been accepted into nursing school three years in a row and my boyfriend has gone to extremes to prevent me from attending. Twi years he said if I moved to go to school he would stop talking to me and not pay child support. This year hefinally agreed to move but made out so I can not get daycare assistance and refuses to watch his own kids for four hours a day even though he has a flexible schedule. now he won't even let me get a part time job as a cna. I am so fed up with this, I'm afraid next fall when I get into school again I won't be able to go because of something he sites to stop me. I am almost going to leave him over this! My only option would be to borrow money from my sister to get me amd my kids to my parents and have them watch my kids and work as a cna and apply for nursing school in a year or two. I'm at my weirs end and any advice is appreciated

Thanks strangers

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Woman, how long are you going to allow that loser to hold you back and control your life? Dump him, file for child support with the courts and get your degree. If he doesnt pay, he goes to jail. Call his bluff and stand on your own.

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Amen PedsHopeful! Sounds like he's definitely holding you back....but not sure why!? This will better everyone's future...including his!! Some men who are extremely insecure, along with an inflated ego don't want their woman making more money than them or to be more successful than them. It's ridiculous! Get outta there and do this for your kiddos. He will have to pay child support. I had to go after my ex-husband for child support and I get it on time every month. You are strong. You can do it!!

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You need to watch this. Then take your kids and go to school.

http://www.telling.psu.edu/

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He is sabotaging you because he wants to keep control over you. I am guessing that every time you talk about getting a job or a degree, he envisions his control slipping away. If you have a way out, take it. For your sake, and your child's. I know it is easier said than done, but you will never be able to live your life to its fullest if you stay with him. Good luck, and I hope it all works out for you.

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Control like that is psychological abuse. It doesn't get better. The court can take care of the child abuse support withholding.

You need to GO. If it's not school, it will be something else.

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Run away from him. I don't have to know you to know you're worth better treatment. Little newsflash for him- child support isn't optional.

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Amen PedsHopeful! Sounds like he's definitely holding you back....but not sure why!? This will better everyone's future...including his!! Some men who are extremely insecure, along with an inflated ego don't want their woman making more money than them or to be more successful than them. It's ridiculous! Get outta there and do this for your kiddos. He will have to pay child support. I had to go after my ex-husband for child support and I get it on time every month. You are strong. You can do it!!

Exactly this. You are going to be educated. You will have a degree which means you are going to be pulling in a good amount of money. You're going to be working along side doctors and real professionals. All of this translates into you being more independent, smarter, and way less dependent on HIM. And thats the biggie. He's feeling threatened. I dont know if you have any daughters, but if so, and they were in the same position, what would you want HER to do? Please dont allow this man to dictate where your life will go. Get help from family, friends. It will be hard at first, but time moves SO quickly, once you have your degree, you will be SO much better off. Never let anyone, no matter the circumstances, hold you from your dream. Real love would NEVER do such a thing.

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I hope it was a typo when you said "boyfriend" this should be your x loser boyfriend. Start nursing school and get your cna job, don't ever let anyone tell you what to do. whats the worse that can happen? He legally has to pay child support.. if he refuses the judge will garnish his wages...

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