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Hello everyone.

I am a student nurse, I will graduate this coming December ( 2007) and I am just feeling sooooo down lately, I study so hard, but i get so nervous on exam day that I don't as well as I need to.

I miss my As.

I know you'll say that as long as pass I should be ok, but I have added pressures: in addition to getting nervous, English being my 3rd language always makes it harder for me and I am part of an internship pilot at one of the best hospitals in town where they pay for my tuition, give a stipend every semester and pay me for being there shadowing with nurses in every unit of the hospital in exchange of keeping a gpa of 3.0 and up and I get so nervous at every exam to live up to the expectations and it is affecting me sooo much that my personal life is suffering and sometimes I find myself hoping to get a way out of Nursing school completely...I put so much pressure on myself that I am not sleeping well ( about 2 hours a night sometimes) and just depressed ...I am so scared to let myself down, my boss down, my teachers down , my fiance down and my family members ( who don't even understand why I went back to school to begin with and for them according to the culture, I should just be married, have children and have no ambitions: they are all overseas in my home country).

Heeeellllllpppp....what do I do?

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Hello everyone.

I am a student nurse, I will graduate this coming December ( 2007) and I am just feeling sooooo down lately, I study so hard, but i get so nervous on exam day that I don't as well as I need to.

I miss my As.

I know you'll say that as long as pass I should be ok, but I have added pressures: in addition to getting nervous, English being my 3rd language always makes it harder for me and I am part of an internship pilot at one of the best hospitals in town where they pay for my tuition, give a stipend every semester and pay me for being there shadowing with nurses in every unit of the hospital in exchange of keeping a gpa of 3.0 and up and I get so nervous at every exam to live up to the expectations and it is affecting me sooo much that my personal life is suffering and sometimes I find myself hoping to get a way out of Nursing school completely...I put so much pressure on myself that I am not sleeping well ( about 2 hours a night sometimes) and just depressed ...I am so scared to let myself down, my boss down, my teachers down , my fiance down and my family members ( who don't even understand why I went back to school to begin with and for them according to the culture, I should just be married, have children and have no ambitions: they are all overseas in my home country).

Heeeellllllpppp....what do I do?

See your primary care provider IMMEDIATELY about getting help for your depression and sleep problems. You are so close to your goal. It would be a shame to throw in the towel now, don't you think?

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Take some time for yourself! I know it seems counter-active because you feel like that will just make you do worse, not studying as much, but you it will really help! I am not in nursing school yet, but I've been in college for three years and I know that I focus better when I get to sleep earlier and exercise in the mornings (usually starting with yoga). Sleep is crucial!! You are doing this to make a better future for yourself, to help others, etc. In fact, you may want to write a list of all the reasons you are becoming a nurse, just as a reminder. Look at that when you are wanting to give up. Some natural help if you need it.. Lavander and Chamomille help with test anxiety, St. John's Wart helps with depression symptoms. You might want to try some of it if you don't want to go to the Dr. right now. Also if you ever want to talk, even if it's just to vent frustration, feel free to pm me. If you have yahoo messenger I can give you that ID as well. Hang in there! You are soooo close to graduation! Breathe deep, and take some time to refocus.

Hope some of that helps.

Jenna

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See your primary care provider IMMEDIATELY about getting help for your depression and sleep problems. You are so close to your goal. It would be a shame to throw in the towel now, don't you think?

:yeahthat:

You need some support, be it emotional, pharmacological, or both. And you deserve it.

:)

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Kbenzrou, you wanted to be a nurse. You are almost there. Your family will love you - even though they do not understand. I have many friends who "should be married and have babies". But their families still love them. Maybe they will never understand, but you know, in your heart, what you need to do for yourself.

As for your gpa, if you have maintained at least 3.0 so far - I do not think you have to worry. Your fiance will understand - or maybe not. Then you have to decide if he is right for you if he does not understand what is important to you. But you do not have to decide right now.

Finish school, you are almost done. 7 months is not a long time when you think of how long you have already been in school.

If you need to vent - you can pm me. I know you do not know me, but sometimes it is important just to vent.

Lori

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LKG6 specializes in ante/postpartum, baby RN.

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Hello everyone.

I am a student nurse, I will graduate this coming December ( 2007) and I am just feeling sooooo down lately, I study so hard, but i get so nervous on exam day that I don't as well as I need to.

It's OK to talk to a professional who can help you. My school has a dedicated counselor for nursing students. Can you find a counselor in your school? Or is there anybody at your hospital who would talk to you?

Congratulations on getting this far in school. You have already did a great job. :)

Katie

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Oh my God, Thank you all so much for the support..I feel so much better just talking about it and seeing all your kind answers.

I emailed my teacher ( she is a great teacher) and told her about my fears and issues and she scheduled a one on one for next week to go over everything...I will keep you all posted.

keep your fingers crossed for me.

K

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I am glad you were frank with your teacher. Just being pro-active about our fears helps, rather than sitting and worrying passively.

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WDWpixieRN is a RN and specializes in Med/Surg <1; Epic Certified <1.

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good start talking with your instructors. those of us not affected by cultural issues sometime cannot understand what it's like, but do know we are all here to support you! heck, if i could afford it (and maintain a certain lifestyle), i would stay home and take care of babies -- oh, that's right, mine've all grown up :uhoh3:, lol!!

but the reality is that sometimes either due to finances or just the personal need to do something other than stay home, we have to work....the fact that your family can't understand is something that you will just have to deal with and know that they can't understand. there's a saying that alcoholic's anonymous uses that i have seen in one of our instructor's offices:

"god grant me the serenity to accept the things i cannot change; the courage to change the things i can; and the wisdom to know the difference." -- reinhold niebuhr, the serenity prayer

i don't know that the person that is listed above is the correct author, but that's how i found it online. print it and read it daily. the fact that they don't understand is, ultimately, their problem.

the stress issues i certainly empathize with you about. all i can say is stay ahead of the game early on with each class so that you know you'll have some breathing room should something happen near the end of a class.

and best wishes -- hang in there!! this is by far, one of the hardest things that most people in my class say they have ever done.

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