Huge Dilemma...please help!

Flames9_RN, BSN, RN, EMT-B · Dec 10, 2010

Each their own--but one doesn't goto school for pinning, one goes to school to get a job,lol Of course you could contact the manager to see if another time/date is available, as I'm sure some managers would realize the importance of pinning. But like you stated, the good jobs are few and far between! personally i would goto the interview and somehow sneak in the fact that ur missing pinning for this interview as it means that much to me! Might be that edge one needs to get the job. I didn't go to Pinning, I went on a crusie,lol. Best of luck

DeeAngel · Dec 10, 2010

Time to put the big girl panties on. Since you say jobs are desperately hard to come by and you already have a child to provide for your first priority is securing employment over attending a ceremony. The pinning ceremony, although I understand the desire to attend, does not put food on your table, a job does.

I your parents are loving parents they will understand, it shouldn't be more than a little bit upsetting temporarily. Remember they are parents too and understand the sacrifices that sometimes must be made.

Do not blow off the peer interview, doing so could leave you permanently blackballed from hire at that hospital. You just never really know about those things.

rn/writer, RN · Dec 10, 2010

It's obvious that they're interested in you or you wouldn't have made it this far. Can you call the person who set up the interview and explain your situation? She may be able work with you in some way, like putting you first in the line-up if there are several candidates.

If not, the question you need to ask yourself is which choice will mean the most to you a year from now.

Best wishes in finding a way to reconcile everything. :up:

pers · Dec 10, 2010

Personally, it's an easy choice as I wouldn't pass up a job opportunity for a pinning ceremony. You went to school so you could get a job, the graduation ceremonies are nice but they are not going to further your career.

However, I understand that the ceremony is important to you so I would explain the situation to the nurse recruiter and see what she says. They may be having interviews over more than one time or day so you could be rescheduled. I would definitely let them know what your plan is though, if the interview is more important I'd say something along the lines of, "I'm looking forward to the interview but it happens to be at the same time as my pinning ceremony. The interview is my priority and I will pass on the ceremony if I need to, but wanted to ask if there is another time slot available that would allow me to do both." Or, if you'd rather do the ceremony, "I'm looking forward to the interview but unfortunately it happens to be at the same time as my pinning ceremony. I've worked really hard for this and have already made arrangements for out of town family to be here so I'm hoping that we can reschedule the interview. If not, I appreciate the opportunity but unfortunately I won't be able to attend the interview."

zsbaby · Dec 10, 2010

I say go to your pinning. You're never going to get another pinning. I understand your dilemma though...being a single mom and knowing that jobs are hard to come by. But there will be other job offers...there will not be another pinning!

Darkfield · Dec 10, 2010

I'd go for the interview. Pinning is nice, but it doesn't bring home a paycheck. I can't believe you have to jump through all of these hoops for a job-sounds miserable. In upstate New York, nursing jobs are easy to come by. Too bad you can't relocate (although the weather sucks here).

It sounds like you've already gone through a lot for this job, and if it is something you want, go for it. Go out to eat with your family afterward and skip the ceremony. I went to mine and it wasn't that great.

kesr · Dec 10, 2010

Just ask for the interveiw to be rescheduled - no explaination needed, YOU HAVE A PRIOR COMMITTMENT. The pinning ceremony may or may not sound like a lame excuse, so better not to give one.

Good Luck.

RNJill · Dec 10, 2010

As a recent grad who has been lucky enough to get a job, my biggest piece of advice would be to GO TO THE INTERVIEW!! Of course pinning is a special time and I understand that your family is traveling for this event, but if you pass up this opportunity and six months (or more!) from now still don't have a job, you're going to be feeling that much more than the disappointment of missing pinning. I also think that if you've progressed this far in the interview process, your chances at getting this job are at least better than average. Not to mention that this sounds like a quality new-grad position.

I'm sure that your parents would understand, too, if you went to the interview. Maybe you could plan a nice night out with them after your interview or something else special to celebrate.

Congrats on all that you've accomplished so far and good luck!

ranka · Dec 10, 2010

I would go on the interview. As a single mother, you have to support your daughter and yourself. A job is more important than a pinning ceremony. I didn't attend mine as I thought it was no big deal.

I would have some sort of celebration with the family celebrating your accomplishments instead of the pinning ceremony.

This is a once in a lifetime interview opportunity especially with the RN job market the way it is.

Go on your interview and become the nurse:nurse: you went to school to be.

skyblue1484 · Dec 10, 2010

Go for the interview. You can celebrate after with your parents and child.

IloveTraumaNursing · Dec 10, 2010

Go to your interview. It is very unfortunate that you have to jump through so many hoops to get a job. My pinning ceremony was not even any fun. Like someone else said go to the interview then go out to eat with your loved ones.