I would say no, but I think that would be a lie. I have one pt I felt I really let down. She was 100 years old. I explained to her what Hospice was, just based on her age, and she was sooo happy, and thanked me for allowing her the chance to die in her own bed just like her people did in "the old country."
Never in a million years did I think her doctor would refuse her to be on Hospice!! He needed some educating regarding the fact that the expectation of life at that age alone , coupled w her heart disease, made her a perfect candidate even tho she was not actively dying. We see so many people go onto Hospice at the last minute, it would've been so nice to have her stay home.
Well, we finally ironed out the doctor issue, of course the pt had been so disappointed and frightened by the fact that he may have refused this to her, I think it aggravated her heart. I felt like I had really let her down. Anyway, she finally did go on Hospice, only to breal her hip a week later. Because of her weight and inability to assist w turns, etc, her dtr just could not manage her at home w the hip, and dtr was very high=strung as it is. Anyway, I remember going to see her in the hospital, and she looked so sad, and withered. She opened her eyes and looked at me and was so glad I visited her, but I had to hold back tears b/.c I knew she would not get her wish of dying at home.
So, I think if ppeople go to the hospital, it is letting them down in more ways than one, but we cannot always prevent hospitalizatioon, and for those who are too exictable to deal w emergencies at home, they are best to call 911 and go to the hospital.
Good question. I haven't thought about my Sophie for a while, and she also lived down the street for me. When she turned 100, the preist came to her home and gave her a private mass. She told me over and over how deeply it had touched her.