I wish people would quit telling people they can't work. I am a single mother, work full time, have a part time job, and am a full time nursing student. Luckily my daughter is 10yrs (going into 6th grade), so that helps. I do think it would be harder if she was younger.
You can work in nursing school and still have a family. Most of the non-traditional students in my class work. Most of us do 3 12 hour shifts, just seems to work better with the school schedule. You just have to study, before the kids get up, after they go to bed, while they are at dance, girl scouts, etc.
You have to learn to utilize every spare moment. You will have to give up TV, and playing on the internet, but it can be done.
This fall semester my schedule will look like this:
Monday- clincals 6am- 5pm, pick dd up take her to girl scouts (study in the car while she is there)
Tuesday Psych 9am-12pm Med-Surg II 1-5pm, pick dd up, take her to dance (study in the hallway), I will get to campus at 7:30am and study before psych, and while eating lunch betwen psych and med-surg
Wed- work 7am-4pm part time job
Thursday work part time job 7am-11am, drive 1 hour to campus Med-Surg II 1-5pm
Friday, Sat, Sun 12 hour shifts at full time job.
Every night I will study at least for 3 hours (9pm-12am)
It is a tough schedule, but I will do it, and keep the house clean, go to the grocery, bank, do the laundry, help my daughter with her homework, etc.
It is no fun, but it can be done, and done well. I have maintained mostly A's, until this past semester when I got a B (by one point) when I worked 80 hours a week the last 6 weeks of class.
I do it on my own, you have a husband, and probably more supportive extended family than I have. If your husband will help with the kids and the housework it would be totally doable.