Tired of friends telling me I can do better than nursing - page 3
I just don't get it. I've gone through 2 years of prereqs and was accepted into my school's BSN program. (I start this fall.) For some reason, everyone keeps questioning me on why I want to be a... Read More
Jul 5, '04Occupation: emergency room nurse From: IL, US ; Joined: Jan '04; Posts: 899; Likes: 508this is eye opening for me. i have never gotten a negative response from people when i told them i was pursuing a rn degree. most people were like "wow, that's great" " i wish i could do that" " you'll at least have job" the list goes on. the people that were negative were other nurses. especially when i started my clincals the nurses were always warning me that i was making a mistake. now why a person would try to discourage a nursing student? only god knows, but 3 years later i am a rn and don't regret it. i agree with stitchie that while your friends are interviewing for 6 months for the best "respectable" job, you will already be employed making over 40k a year. as a nursing student you will always get people in the profession trying to discourage you, but if these people are truly your friends, they will support you know matter what.
Jul 5, '04Occupation: ER-technician Joined: Jan '04; Posts: 40; Likes: 2Tell your friends if they can 't be supportive then they need to keep their negative comments to themselves.
You are about to start a rigorous program and you will need people that are in your immediate circle to be supportive. Friends, family etc.
Keep your eyes on the prize and don't let them make you lose focus.
RN2b204; start diploma program Sept. 04. All excited.....
Jul 5, '04Joined: Apr '03; Posts: 13,011; Likes: 36,453Quote from mavnurseMaybe they misunderstood you and thought you were going to school to become a wetnurse. :chuckleFor some reason, everyone keeps questioning me on why I want to be a nurse and telling me that I should find a job that's "more respectable."
Jul 5, '04Joined: Nov '02; Posts: 454; Likes: 10No negative responses from my friends, however my boyfriend has turned into a hater! He is jealous that I got in and he didn't. I got in on the first try and he applied twice before finally starting LVN program. I thought he would be happy for me but all he has been doing is asking my about my GPA, who I know in the program. When I tell him my GPA he was upset to learn it is lower than his! He was also shocked to find out I don't know anyone who works for the program. For the last two months he keeps telling me he isn't going to get his ADN as planned because he says once you have your ADN you can have a BSN but that instead is will just be a BS degree. What a load of crap! In fact ever since he found out its been going down hill. I imagine once I finally start our relationship will be over. Who knew? :uhoh21:
Jul 6, '04Occupation: SAHM...Future Nurse! Joined: Apr '03; Posts: 790I havent had anyone say anything negative to me about it....everyone is very positive about me going into nursing!
I'm so sorry that you dont have that support and encouragement! Do what you want and let them get over it! Nursing is one of the best professions out there, and I for one am proud to be working so hard to enter this field.
Jul 6, '04Occupation: FNP Specialty: 15 year(s) of experience ; From: US ; Joined: Jun '04; Posts: 1,834; Likes: 263Quote from tmarie75I was referencing college peers who look down on the major of another because it is their (uninformed) idea that nurses do nothing more than wipe other peoples butts, yet all the education in the world to the contrary will not budge them from it.I think it's terrible for someone to say that nursing isn't a respectable job, but I think it's also terrible to downgrade any job, no matter how little or how much someone else makes. People who work at fast food places, supermarkets, and at wal-mart, etc. deserved to be respected also. I don't work at any of these places, but I think it's wrong to look down on anyone's job, no matter what it is. Nursing isn't any better or any worse than any other job in my opinion.
I pointed out that for their uppity-ness, they may be rewarded with a lesser-paying, less "professional" (according to their own definition) job than the one THEY were disrespecting. My comment was not to look down on anyone's job, but was made out of disgust for individuals who choose to put down people who choose nursing as a career as being less professional or less worthy or less desirable than themselves. Those individuals often find themselves with a degree and no "professional" job. Especially in the present job market.
Jul 6, '04Joined: Feb '04; Posts: 22Quote from mavnurseI'm working on prereqs for ADN and I have gotten a lot of negative comments from people. Why?I just don't get it. I've gone through 2 years of prereqs and was accepted into my school's BSN program. (I start this fall.) For some reason, everyone keeps questioning me on why I want to be a nurse and telling me that I should find a job that's "more respectable." Has anyone else been through the same thing? Sorry, just needed to vent.
Jul 28, '04Joined: Jul '04; Posts: 18; Likes: 3Quote from mavnurseNursing IS a respectible career and takes a lot of hard work and commitment. I am sorry they don't see it that way.I just don't get it. I've gone through 2 years of prereqs and was accepted into my school's BSN program. (I start this fall.) For some reason, everyone keeps questioning me on why I want to be a nurse and telling me that I should find a job that's "more respectable." Has anyone else been through the same thing? Sorry, just needed to vent.
Jul 28, '04Joined: Jun '04; Posts: 178; Likes: 17in my view personally i think nurses are the angels! doctors order but who really takes care of the patient?
also im in an ADA program and a lot of my friends look down at me because they are in their BSN majoring business. i guess the whole 2 yr and 4 yr makes a different to them! im planning to get my BSN once i graduated however hearing from my friend saying ADA are a lot easier just piss me off. she's comparing with the ADA program accounting program that she got in because she got kicked out from her BSN program for having a gpa lower than a 2.0!
no one need people that bring them down! vbmenu_register("postmenu_822386", true);
Jul 28, '04Occupation: Full time student Joined: Jul '04; Posts: 700; Likes: 13It is interesting to see some people have negative comments from friends and some people have positive comments.
In my case, I guess I am one of the fortunate ones as I did not have negative comments from my friends (so far). I have a few who subtlely suggest I should consider medicine. One just thought it is a dangerous job because I am going to catch some disease and die.
But all of them meant good in their hearts as far as I can tell. What I find effective with my friends is that the opportunity to educate them when they are surprised. I will tell them modern nursing is so different than nursing way back when. They I proceed to give them some interesting examples like the following:
- Nursing Informatics
- Nursing Attornies
- Psychiatric Nursing where in some state you are allow to prescribe meds. I'll show them the UCSF Psych Nursing program and show them that someone with that kind of training can be a person's primary health care provider especially if the person has a serious mental illness.
- Flight Nursing - I always tell them I don't have a stomach for this specialty because I don't like to be in a helicopter without a parachute.
- Travel Nursing
- You can get a Ph.D. in nursing.
- I don't have a MD as my primary health provider, I have a NP, not only that, a male NP as my health provider
- I'll show them something that is overly simplistic but it makes a point, namely we have MD who specialize at the biological level (exception might be psychiatrist), we have psychologist who specialize at the psychological level, social worker who specialize at the social level, and chaplin who specialize at the spiritual level. Nurses are the only health profession (as far as I know) who has training in a 4 of these level as we look at the whole person. Again this is oversimplifiying things a bit, but it makes a point.
- I encourage them to go to the discovernursing.com web site by Johnson and Johnson and scan some of the nursing profiles (there are over a hundred of them).
- Mention a number of nurses have MBAs
- Mention the flexibility in nursing in terms of career moves
Jul 28, '04Joined: Mar '04; Posts: 116To the people who are being negative about nursing:
They're just jealous!
Okay, I feel calm after venting.
Jul 29, '04Occupation: RN Joined: Nov '03; Posts: 4,389; Likes: 153Quote from Jill1215Exactly. The annual Gallup poll found the same thing.According to Reader's Digest nurses are the MOST respected of all professionals. The poll was conducted on what profession people give the most respect to. Nursing was #1. Nurses may not get the respect they deserve on the job, but people respect the nursing profession. Your friends are talking from ignorance.
(Oops. I didn't realize that Hellllllo Nurse had posted the same thing. Sorry.)
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Jul 29, '04Occupation: RN - Operating Room (and prn at a hemodialysis clinic) Joined: Feb '03; Posts: 1,190; Likes: 11Quote from pnurseuwmSame here. When people find out I'm going to be a nurse, they say the same things.Yeah, like someone else said, maybe it stems from where you live. I'm in the midwest and whenever I tell people that I will be going to nursing school in the fall I always get "Girl, so you're going to making money huh?" "You will ALWAYS have a job!" "I have my degree in 'blank' (teaching, computers, political science, etc.) and I CANNOT find a job, EVERYWHERE I look people are asking for nurses. You've got it made!"
When you're a nurse and your friends look at your paychecks and the bunch of money you may make working nights and weekends, check their reactions then.... you may be surprised :hatparty: