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she is mother of 13 children. one 21yrs, one 18yrs, one 16yrs, one 15yrs, one 12yrs, one 10yrs, one 8yrs, and two 3yr old twins. The... want her to quit school. They think that because she is spending some much time with school that she is not taking her responsibilities as a parent and is making others that are at home do them for her.
... my MIL has never worked and has been a stay at home mom up until now. She even home schooled all of the children until the twins were born and still home schools the 10yr old.
(she wants to become a nurse so she can go to 3rd world countries and give people medical care)
What do you think?
Well, this is JMHO:
While her aspirations to become a nurse are very noble, you still just can't up and quit your "day job." When she signed on for 13 kids, it's not a temp position. I was raised in a relatively large family (6 kids) and have 2 kids of my own. My own observations are the larger the family, the more important it is that there is someone at the helm running it. Just getting lunches done and in the right backpack is a 30 minute deal.
Not only that but developmentally 3 years old is a big time to have an available parent - and she has two of them! Even the 8 year old and 10 year old will require a lot of time for someone to listen and hug.
Furthermore, I definitely don't agree with having her older kids raise her younger kids. I understand the concept of working together as a team but I would like to remind you that it wasn't the older kids
idea to have 13 kids. It was the parents'. Therefore I don't agree that they should have to raise ANY kids. I have seen a lot of kids from big families (I went to a Catholic school LOL) really resent that because they fell #2 or #4, they spent their time changing diapers, giving baths, feeding and babysitting little ones who fell #11 and #12. If you HAVE the kids, it's up to you to RAISE the kids and not shove it off on the older ones like I see some parents do.
Also having been raised in a large family, I think the most important job is lovin' those little ones. It's not the same to sit on big sister's lap for your bedtime story as it is for MOM, having mom cuddle you and whisper in your ear and cover you with kisses. That's a job that can't be outsourced and it's a crucial one as well.
At this point in time, I think she should focus on the job at hand and stick with her responsibilities as a parent. If she waits 7 more years until the 3 year olds are 10, then it would probably be a better time to go to school.
two more points:
1) you don't have to be a nurse to go work in 3rd world countries. I know. I've done it.
2) Age 47 isn't too old to go back to school. Also I know. I've done it.