Question: Have you been deterred?

  1. Ok, I'm trying to think how to phrase this correctly. I come to this bb all the time, and so do a lot of my peers (peers = student nurses). A lot of time there is overwhelming negativity in the general nursing discussion board and on the would you recommend nursing as a career board. I have told myself that this is a safe place for nurses to vent their frustrations and that nursing isn't actually as miserable as they sometimes portray it to be. After all, then why are they still nurses? And each profession has its good points and its bad points.
    My question is: does this sort of negativity deter you from your goal of being a nurse? Be honest... it has made me think twice. Not because I don't want to be a nurse and work hard, but because I don't really want to work with miserable people... you know what they say. Misery loves company. I know I want to be a nurse. If someone was thinking they wanted to be a nurse and came to this bb to check it out, I wonder if he or she would still be thinking about it afterwards.
    Anyway, not to be long-winded but I would really like to hear the effects of such negative postings on the bb and attitudes of our preceptors have on student nurses.
    Thanks in advance

    [ May 23, 2001: Message edited by: MsPurp ]
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  3. by   L'beth
    I think this is a good question. Over the past few weeks, several posts have made me question why I am so determined to enter a profession while countless others are bailing or remaining yet miserable. If I had not tried everything in the world to avoid nursing only to come to the realization that this is definitely what I want to do, I might run scared with my tail between my legs. However, this is what I want to do and what I have always wanted to do. All that to say that while many of the comments posted here do give me pause, it is a forum for people to vent and, in the process, hopefully come away with some encouragement or direction from their peers. If people choose to moan and whine and that is all they want to do, I cannot help that. But, if they want to air their frustrations and work through them via dialogue in a safe environment (ok, not always so safe!), them more power to them.
  4. by   mustangsheba
    Very well said, L'beth - and true. Nursing is one of the most rewarding professions. However, we have to learn to advocate for ourselves. We allow ourselves to be abused and then spend a lot of time venting about it. Everyone complains about their jobs at some time or other - even those who are self-employed! Right now,nurses are in a position to effect some significant changes. If we can hang in there, it will benefit not only nurses but the whole field of medicine, most importantly the patients.
  5. by   delirium
    I think you said it quite well, L'Beth. I think a lot of us view nursing as a calling rather than a profession, so we are not so easily deterred... and we certainly shouldn't "seduce" the undecided by painting a rose-colored view of how wonderful nursing is at all times. However, I do think some of this stuff can be pretty scary for the student nurse or the potential student nurse.
    I am determined to be one of the nicer nurses (once I am a nurse, and get some experience and feel comfortable in my role) who will encourage and mentor new grads rather than making them feel stupid or worthless. Sometimes I don't know if the preceptors do it intentionally, but the attitude certainly is there at times, that the student or new grad is a burden.
    Worse, even, that horrified look and: Why do you want to be a nurse? Get out while you can! and many more things I've heard lately.
    I'm only guessing here, but I think that maybe if nurses were more proactive and unified, there would be positive change and not such a need for the grumbling because things would be better. Then more people would naturally gravitate toward nursing and perhaps stay at the bedside longer.
    Just my two cents.
    Take care,
  6. by   L'beth
    Rebecca, I too have been on the receiving end of the horrified looks and the "why in the world do you want to do run" comments. I do have a concern that good people may be being run off by the negative comments and experiences with burnt out nurses. Tough, difficult, demanding preceptors I can handle--sometimes harsh reality is what is needed to train, teach and yes..weed out. But needlessly running off the people who may be the ones to help make the situation more bearable is just pointless, shooting-yourself-in-the-foot behavior.

    I hope and pray that I am a great nurse, that I have wonderful and wise instructors/mentors/preceptors and that I look for solutions and work to implement them. I also hope that 5 years into this, I say exactly the same thing. It is a very difficult time to be a nurse and I am in awe of those who have been nursing for 5,10,25 years. I hope that change for the better comes soon and that those of you who have been doing this for so long are still here to see it happen and be a part of it.

  7. by   delirium
    Amen to that. At times I wonder myself why I want to go into a field where most nurses are more dissatisfied than they are satisfied. I'm just not sure what else I would do.... I've gone through the "what do I want to do with my life" phase and I always come back to nursing.
    So it would seem as if that were meant to be, and not really a choice that I've made. I honestly hope that things will get better in nursing, and we can have more happy, fulfilled, well-paid, satisfied nurses. If not, I'm not sure how long I can last in a field that chews you up and spits you out, either, no matter how badly I wanted to be a nurse.
    On the upside, the nurses I work with at my job seem to be pretty happy and satisfied with their work, although they do grumble about the pay from time to time. That's with any job, I guess.
    Take care,