Need A Shoulder

angelina28 · Feb 10, 2002

Found out some information.. The teacher I have told the big honch that we were all failing and going on probation for antaomy but what we found out is that over half the class is passing and she just told everyone we were failing. NOw what she is doing is any one she consider's to be excesivelly late or absent she decieded they need to be on probation. We are allowed to miss a total of 64 hr's for the 2 yrs. I have missed a total of 22 most were daughter has been very sick with fever's of 104-105 so have stayed home. ONce I had a court date for a adoption and the last day I missed the INSTURCTOR told me NOT to come in. So now I have to sign a contract with them telling them that I won't miss any more time and I understand that if I do I'm out of the program. Then in class she told everyone that the people at the nursing home were she is and another instructor is are going to be a hell of alot smarter than the one's in the other nursing home. NOw there are 7 of us at the other nursing home and I'm one of them. I'm trying to be strong because I don't want to get kicked out or quite.. I have wanted this since I was about 10yr's old and that's no lie.. But how do I deal with her down right lies to THe director of nursing about the different thing's she's doing and saying. We all got together and compared averages and trust me only about 6 are failing..if that.. I feel like I should say something about what she said about the different groups because it really bother's me but know if I do she will just be rude.. I sign the paper aboaut the attendance even though I didn't want to. She told us we had no choice or we were on. Now she want's this contract and I don't want to sign that but she also told me again I have no choice do it or I'm out... What do I do.. Thank's again for listening to me vent.. Seem's like lately that's all I have done.. THank's for all the support and listening.. and for the advice I have gotten. I hope you guy's don't think I"m a complainer because I'm not I just don't think we are getting a fair deal in this class and don't know what to do about it. She has told us this is the biggest class she has ever had. all her classes have been 10 people tops. and There are 24 of us... Well once again thank's.. will talk to everyone later.

TAmmy

Mary Dover · Feb 10, 2002

Hi Tammy, a psych nurse here, and sad to say, it sounds like some of your instructors have some real personality issues. When I was in school several years ago, some of the same kind of things popped up from time to time. I don't know how to tell you to handle it, but could offer some personal suggestions on how to cope with the stress. You hang in there though and keep up the good work.

jobear · Feb 10, 2002

Hi Tammy,

Sorry to hear about the bad time you are having. It seems as if your teacher is overstepping her authority. In my school, we were bound to the rules and regulations of the school hand book as well as the nursing program guidelines. Do he/she teach other courses that you will have to take in the future? If you have further problems upholding her contract, I would talk to my advisor. (caution with this one, especially if your advisor is a nursing instructor. Birds of a feather flock together!) I know how you are feeling, I exchanged some not so pleasant words with my anatomy instructor because she had her favorites in our class and I was sick and tired of it. That was a big mistake because she also taught anatomy II and micro. I felt like I was in h_ll for six months. Even when I think of her today, it makes me sick, but despite her I made it. I think it made me work all that much harder, but I would not recommend my tactic. Good luck and study hard, you will make a WONDERFUL nurse. PS: To get through the entire program, I made up funny sentences that related to things in my life. Stef

Dublin37 · Feb 16, 2002

Maybe I'm the only one who thinks this, but I would seriously look into speaking to the dean of the nursing program. I would have a list of other students from the class to back you up. I would let them know what's going on but to request that you stay anonymous. Are there other nursing programs at colleges nearby? You might look into what it would take to transfer. Good luck!!!

jschut, BSN, RN · Feb 17, 2002

Gosh Tammy~

I'm here for ya if you need to talk!:)

Will be praying for you too!

Julie:)

PS Can't you go to the Nursing Program Chair and talk to her about this?

kids · Feb 17, 2002

Originally posted by Dublin37
Maybe I'm the only one who thinks this, but I would seriously look into speaking to the dean of the nursing program. I would have a list of other students from the class to back you up. I would let them know what's going on but to request that you stay anonymous. Are there other nursing programs at colleges nearby? You might look into what it would take to transfer. Good luck!!!

I'm pretty much thinking the same things...I would go to the Dean and express the feeling that you and the instructor have some sort of personality conflict (avoid direct accusations) do not bring other students into it unless you are 100% sure they will support you, Nursing school is stressful enough- if this instructor is power tripping on others they may 'chicken out' because they are intimidated and fear retaliation. If you can get a copy of the "contract" take it with you, tell the instructor you want to think it over before signing, tell her you want a copy for your records, whatever...if forced to sign it demand there be 2 copies to sign, have her sign it first, then you (so you get her signature on it) and take it to the Dean.

Sorry you are having this happen...IMy 5th term clinical instructor did 'codependancy counseling' on the side, she felt my boyfriend and I had a disfunctional relationship because we seperated briefly at the start of the term...when we got married 2 weeks before the end of the term she said I was mentally unstable and excused (booted) me from clinicals. I had a 95% avg and NO absences or tardys. I appealed and was re-accepted to the program 3 days before the end of the term, by then I had missed to many clinicals to make up and failed the term. Bytch cost me 6 months. The good news is she pulled a lot of crap that term-including telling a male student that men had no place in Nursing (this was 1990-not the dark ages), in front of non-student witnesses and was NOT invited back again.

Prayers

-nancy

Dublin37 · Feb 18, 2002

wow, cannot believe what some teachers can get away with! ick! Heather

angelina28 · Feb 21, 2002

Thank's for all the advice... It's really helped... Figure the worst that can happen is I go some place else.. I just hate to quite program.. but thank's for all the support ahnd help through this..

Tammy