Life with kids and nursing school?

  1. Hi Everyone:
    I will be starting nursing school with a 5 year old and a 15 month old and I'm a little nervous on how to manage it all. I have an undergraduate and graduate degree already...so I've got the school thing down, but I have never done it with kids in tow. I want to be the best mom (and wife to my hubby) that I can, but realize that nursing school is a sacrifice. I will be in a 2nd degree BSN program that meets 3 days a week (one classroom day and two clinical days). Any advice on how to make it all work?

    Thanks
    Ness
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  3. by   cherokeesummer
    Here is my advice LOL...let some things go!

    I started nursing school after being in college, etc. etc. and then midway through nursing school I got pregnant! I was so excited! Scared too b/c I worked full time and went to school full time too. So I took one semester off to have him b/c I'm a high risk pregnancy as a diabetic and then I went back to school but I did quit my job so I could be a SAHM most of the time!

    I find that I feel guilty about study time...its not cool but I do feel that way sometimes. What I try to do is study when he is napping or study while he is coloring or watching his favorite show - Elmo's World! Hubby helps too.
    But I do not stress about stuff i.e. cleaning, dishes, dinner, folding laundry LOL - we do eat and have a "mostly" clean house but its not perfect. I don't always fold laundry LOL but it gets clean...

    And I'm on my last few weeks of school...Soooooooo more studying coming up for NCLEX and then I just accepted a job LOL...soooooooooooo that starts in September!

    Anyway good luck and feel free to PM or email me if you need to chat. My son is 18 months now!
  4. by   Priddyeyez
    the director at my school says that a students life usually consists of 3 things:
    1. family/friends
    2. work
    3. school

    in nursing school its almost impossible to juggle all 3, and your best bet is to limit it to 2 of the 3.
  5. by   hikernurse
    I have a bunch of kids, worked through nursing school and graduated with honors. It's definitely possible--but I didn't have much of a life outside of family, work, school. It was worth it.

    Little kids are amazingly adaptable, at times I had to put my studying down, but mostly they would let me study as long as I was accessible and close to them. I tried really hard to be a good wife, but sometimes that area was a bit shorted. Fortunately, my husband was willing to look at the big picture.

    My first priority was (and is) my family and I just tried to work the rest of it in around them. I do remember several outings with a nursing baby sharing my lap with my schoolbooks, but I was there with the family and they were kind enough to accept that was the best I could do

    My schoolwork went everywhere I did and I did most of my studying in short spurts, but they say that's a good way to learn anyway.

    You can do it and you will be amazed at how quickly the time passes.
  6. by   Sabby_NC
    Being a mum of two children already honey I am sure you will cope admirably. I wish you all the very best.
  7. by   txspadequeenRN
    we got 6 kids (17,14,7,5,4 and 3months) , no daycare , i work full time and we both are full time students.....honey, it can be done!!!!:spin:
  8. by   GApeach1978
    I can tell you I am a mother of 3 daughters. 8,4,6months. It can be done, I promise. I had my daughter in Nov 06, I just finished clinicals right before going into labor, I was only out for 2 weeks and came right back and take the finals. You just have to manage your TIME
  9. by   NESS2bNURSE
    Thank you all so much for your responses. I do feel better. Please keep the advice/responses coming.
  10. by   mafiamom
    i have a 16 month old and was worried about this myself... i will be watching this thread! i greatly admire all you nurses who have multiple children and made it thru school, work, family and wife duties.... you ROCK!!! women really are just so strong!
  11. by   maxandruby
    Quote from txspadequeen921
    we got 6 kids (17,14,7,5,4 and 3months) , no daycare , i work full time and we both are full time students.....honey, it can be done!!!!:spin:
    how did you do that? i have 2 kids, 5 and 2, and i am struggling. please tell me your secret.
  12. by   Paragon
    I, too, have a baby (he'll be turning 10 months) and I am nervous about starting Nursing school in the fall. I am so psyched to be accepted but now am having some worries about how to juggle school and being a Mommy and wife. I am taking A&P I along with General Psych now and sometimes feel challenged, so I am sure Nursing school will be tougher. I am just going to concentrate on school and family...I doubt I'll be having much of social life with friends but it's the sacrifice I'll have to make to get to do what I really want to do ! :spin: We CAN DO IT!
  13. by   MS Kathy
    You can do it. :-) He is so little he won't remember lots about the hard times.

    I just graduated with 4 kids as a single mom. The thing to remember is that this time will pass anyway- whether you go to school or not, might as well go now.
    And time management- Put in the amount of time you need to make a passing grade and to know the material. You don't have to put in the time to make an A- that time may be better spent with your family.

    :-)
    Kathy

    Quote from Paragon
    I, too, have a baby (he'll be turning 10 months) and I am nervous about starting Nursing school in the fall. I am so psyched to be accepted but now am having some worries about how to juggle school and being a Mommy and wife. I am taking A&P I along with General Psych now and sometimes feel challenged, so I am sure Nursing school will be tougher. I am just going to concentrate on school and family...I doubt I'll be having much of social life with friends but it's the sacrifice I'll have to make to get to do what I really want to do ! :spin: We CAN DO IT!
  14. by   SoundofMusic
    This is can really speak to with three kids of various ages. It sounds like you have a pretty minimally demanding 2nd degree program, though -- ours was full time all year long!

    Anyway, you get yourself a really good date book with lines to fill in, and you get ORGANIZED. You list all the numbers you need there, have all your information in one place. You have a cell phone and you do business in the car or while waiting in places. You study on the road, while at soccer games, or waiting in doctor's offices. You just make use of every single minute.

    I really haven't ever had much of a break at all since I started school, and I'm pretty beat. But, I do feel my kids and my husband respect me a whole lot more now that I've found something to achieve as well, outside of just being the mommy/caretaker. I did that role exclusively for 15 years, but it just came to a point where it wasn't enough.

    I feel I'm setting a good example for them, too.

    Now, I do get a bit envious of the "kids" in my classes who just seem so carefree and easy and seem to have all the free time in the world outside of school. (Shoot, they just all look so tan and rested all of the time! ) One talked about how she was going to go home and take a nap after a long clinical day, as I thought about the long evening I had ahead cooking dinner, cleaning up, doing baths, and just STARTING to study at 11 p.m.!

    So, there are differences, but I also feel I've achieved a lot to have both family and a good career on the horizon. It can be very gratifying, and very exhausting as well. No getting around it.

    I must admit, my husband was extremely supportive of me the first year -- really gave me the hours to study, especially on weekends. Could not have done it without him at all.

    And I need to add, some of those "tan and rested" folks also seemed to not be able to manage their time all that well, and would stumble a lot academically. I knew I had to make use of time, and I usually came out even better academically as a result. It's strange.
    Last edit by SoundofMusic on May 25, '07

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