I also posted this on the break room forum and will post on general nursing too.
I have a major problem and I need some advise
I have 4 children, ages 17 [daughter], 13, 12, and 9 [sons].
My 13 y/o [Josh] is in the 5th grade. He had severe dyslexia and didn't learn to read until this time last year. I called his school in January to see about having him tested for gifted, but they refused. The principal told me that he is where he needs to be.
On his first report card he made the Honor roll!! 1st time ever!! I was happy and so was Josh. Problems started shortly there after. He grades fell and he had no homework. I asked what was going on and he said he got it done in school.
Here are his grades for this yr. so far:
Conduct: A A A
Work and study habits: A- B B
Reading: A B C
[Reading level 5th grade] This is bull. He is reading my nursing books!!
Language: A- B B-
: B- C+ B-
Handwritng: U U U [unsatisfactory]
Math: A- C B
Social Studies: B B- B+
Science/Health: B+ A- B-
He also passed ISTEP. State required test for the 5th grade. He took it in the FALL before having any instruction in 5th grade!!
When I asked him why his grades went down, he told me he was bored. So I started testing him at home to see if he was telling the truth. He is reading my Maternal and newborn nursing book. I thought he was looking at the pictures of naked ladies. I mean after all he is a boy. He also reads my A & P book and my Med/Surg book.
When I asked about math he said he had the assignments done before the class period was over. So I tested his math skills on brainchild.com He passed 6th grade math and 7th grade math with flying colors!!! He can do things I didn't even know what they were. Probibility jumps out.
In Science, he is reading Apollo 13, plus all my nursing and A & P books. In Social Studies, he has read so many biographies, I can't keep track.
My son wants me to homeschool him. I have done this before but I wasn't in school. I put them all in school 2 yrs. before I started back.
I already have his math program arranged. He will take ALEKS. It is a computer program similar to Deep Blue. It is NOT a game and it teaches and tutors from arthmetic all the way through College physics. Here is the link if anyone else is interested:
Now to my schedule for Next Fall:
I am taking Peds the first 8 weeks and my hours are as follows, [this is also my med/surg 2 schedule]:
Monday Lecture 1-150
Tuesday no class
Wednesday: 1-2:50 lecture and 3.30-5.20
Thursday: 8-2.50 clinical
Friday: 1-2.50 Lecture
My husband works nights and will be home with Josh every day except Thursday. He should be home at about 9 am.
Josh has a mustache and is really developing. The principal said to just keep bolstering his self-esteem. He will be in 8th grade and will be able to DRIVE!! if we stay on the PS shedule.] The principal said that the corp. doesn't advance student unless they have been pulled out of the corp. [i.e. homeschooled] Then when Josh comes back they will place him with his peers [8th grade].
I am just frustrated and overwhelmed and need to know what you think. Can I do this? Will it cause me major problems with my classes? I can't just ignore Josh. He is losing his mind r/t boredem. To make matters worse his 12 y/o brother is also in 5th grade.
He basically told me that he just quit trying. His exact words were: "Mom, why should I try to do better when I KNOW it won't matter?"
He wants to be an OB Dr. and already knows that he is looking at 12 yrs after HS. But he said that by the time he graduates high school he could have had 2 yrs of college under his belt.
Am I crazy for attempting to do this? My heart is telling me to do it. I can't have my son failing to reach his goal because my schooling got in his way. I am a Mom first and then a nurse.
Thanks for your advise and for reading this.
Mar 26, '04
First off I would like to say that I am 100% supportive of homeschooling because I homeschool my kids right now and am in school full time
I am now pre-med (decided nursing is not what I want to do but I still love to visit this board) and am taking Chem 2, Physics 1, Algebra and Womens History next semester and seeing how this current semester is going (with Chem, Biology, Statistics, etc) it is only getting more and more difficult for me to continue to homeschool....I simply do not have time I used to have and starting next semester I will be gone a lot of the day. That is just my situation but I can only imagine that I am just as busy studying as nursing students and there is not much time left anymore. I am just being honest about *my* situation, only you know your situation. I just did not have time to take my kids to all the great homeschooling activities we have here and I didn't feel that was fair to them to be stuck at home with me studying all hours of the day and night.
But having said that, people *do* homeschool while working/nursing school/etc full time (there are a few yahoo groups out there on working while homeschooling), etc so you need to look at your situation....do you have outside help that could watch him while you were at school and clinicals, how supportive and willing to help out is your husband- is his job flexible? etc I believe if there is a will there is a way.
Also your children's needs should always come first and if school is that bad for him, and belive me I am not a great supporter of public education and had a horrible experience myself, so that really is important because nursing school will always be there but your son will not.
Good luck, I know what a hard decision this is for you and your family. Email me anytime ok?
Last edit by marilynmom on Mar 26, '04