i know this might sound totally irrational, but i can't help it, so here goes. i absolutely HATE the thought of having group assignments/projects in nursing school. did any of you have to do these?? my whole life, i've always made straight A's and been very dedicated in school. even in junior high and highschool, i hated group work because i somehow always ended up being the one who got stuck doing everything, and taking up my partners' slack. my other classmates loved group stuff, because they got to socialize and could put some of the work off on others. any group assignment stressed me out, and my classmates always wanted to be in my group because they knew things would get done, and get done well. however, now that i'm about to start nursing school, i'm terrified at the thought of my grades on anything being in ANY way dependent on anyone else. i don't like doing group work, period. i want my grade to reflect what i did, and if i don't do well, i want myself to be the only one to blame. i get very nervous when i'm relying on anyone else to come through for anything. i would really rather just do it myself, because i know it will get done. plus, i can do it on my own time. please let me know if any of you had experiences with group work, or if everything was pretty much individual. thanks!
Aug 11, '06
I stick by my answer. It seems the poster is ALREADY anticipating that she will be stuck doing too much work and other people will be slacking off and/or won't know what they're doing. That's a self-fulfilling prophesy. What if she went in thinking that she was ready and willing to do her share (and not more than her share) and that others were willing and able to do the same. How might that expectation affect how the group worked? If she does find herself being the person who is inspired in the group, where others are not, she will have the opportunity to learn how to inspire others and explore her leadership potential.
School is more than about grades, it's about learning. Nursing isn't just an academic discipline, it's a vocation. She's had problems working in groups in the past, which she readily admits, and now is the time to address those issues. How might positive experiences doing group work NOW affect her performance and expectations when she needs to do so in a work or academic environment in the future? What can she learn from how other students approach the same problems and issues?
I used to be one of those who hated to work in groups because I was basically a control freak. I have learned so much from being forced into that situation. People actually like to work in groups with me because I've learned a few things (good organization, clear and appropriate delegation, solid deadlines, faith in the abilities/talents of others). I've also learned to be assertive and not passive aggressive with people who aren't pulling their weight. Most importantly, I've learned that my ideas aren't always the best. This has all been FANTASTIC!
No one likes working with another gal at the school because she can't give up control. She is always obsessing about the grade, is overcritical and does folks' work over (for marginal improvement). She does not have faith in her fellow students and they feel that. Guess what, her groups don't grade any better for the (misplaced) effort.
The thing the poster should realize is that the group work is a requirement. She can't do anything about it, so she should learn to give up some control and go with it...
Last edit by firstyearstudent on Aug 11, '06