i have a million questions, here's my story;
ok so i have a problem. this morning i used first response and found out i was pregnant
(or at least there's a 99% chance that i am). i had suspected something was up: maybe since i've been ultra hungry lately, nipples hurting, eating like a pig and getting all around bigger, irritable/emotional and sometime nauseous and lately having to pee a lot and my alergies are really bad. don't know if all those are signs of being pregnant or anything, but i certainly wasn't having my period.. i had stopped getting birth control once my insurance stopped after i quit my job in mid/late july. before taking birth control i rarely had periods and was suspected of a hormone deficiency. but after the tests they said i was fine and when i got on the pill i had a period every month, right on schedule. haven't had one since. my boyfriend and i haven't used a condom in almost a year - he's never ejaculated during intercourse with me anyway - he's got like penis shut off -don't want a baby mode - but we both know pre-ejaculation can get you pregnant.
needless to say it isn't official but the dr.s appointment is oct 13th. i have no insurance, no mom to give me advice, i just started working 2 days a week so i can go to school 3-5 days a week (cna class), and i may have made too much money to get medicaid (i know you need the last for paychecks and all of mine are around $350 for 42hour shifts), plus i live with my dad for free right now - but will be getting a place with my bf before i have the baby. i talked it over with him and he's almost as scared as i am but a little excited to, which relieves a bit of stress on my part.
if i pass, i'll be a cna come november 21 and can work there, but i guess i can't do heavy lifting right?
we aren't telling any friends or family until we know for sure, but i need to talk to somebody who knows, so i thought i would post here, i'm sure you've had lots of experience working with obstetric patients or have been mothers/fathers yourselves.
funny how this morning i realized i'm a grown up (22 in december) and i've got to worry about grown up things. not that i was ever really that irresponsible, but i'm going to miss being selfish and buying stuff for myself and just sitting around having lazy days.
i've lived on my own for a year - came back to dad's to afford school (i don't want to be a cook for the rest of my life), i'm taking the acceptance test october 5 to get into a nursing program next fall and now i don't even know if i'll be able to do it physically, mentally, financially or have any time.
what's your advice, opinions and personal experiences with being pregnant. any links that could help me out. anyone know anything about the free health insurance for women who are pregnant or the wic program.. or is that just a thing over here in maine? i know i can get help with housing in the city my dad lives in, there's a good program where they take your family's income, subtract cable, electric, phone, grocery, gas, insurance bills, and then decide what you'll pay for rent - i had a friend who paid $125 a month for a nice 2 ½ bedroom apartment and she got to be a stay at home mom.
so yeah, should i be eating anything in particular? i know i need to stay away from these damn smokers, and i'll have to stop drinking (which was like a once a month thing anyway). anything i'll have to worry about when i become a cna, anything that i won't be able to do at work because of this? how long do most people leave work? how soon can i come back? would they take me back? should i tell them now (well, if i figure out it's a definite things at the dr's) while i'm just in the class, wait until clinicals, or wait until i start working?
any information would be greatly appreciated
Sep 28, '05
Hunny, I wish I were right there with you I would give you the biggest hug right now!
You know what, its ok to be scared in the beginning. I have three girls 4 years and under, preggo with the 4th, and am doing my last semester of nursing school. Don't let your mind tell you that you can't do it cause it can be done. When I started prereqs, my girls were 1 1/2, and the twins were 5 months old.
But what you have to worry about now isn't school. Take one thing at a time. Find a free clinc like the others said and go from there. Take a list of questions with you and ask them every single thing that comes to mind.
Contact social services also. I get child care vouchers for my three girls to go to day care while I'm at school. You might qualify for WIC, health insurance and other stuff. You never know what you could get until you apply.
But most importantly just take it easy on yourself. Things like this just happen sometimes. You are going to be just fine!
And email me if you want to ask me questions ok?
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