Condom Teaching Plan for Middle Schoolers?

  1. Hey all! I am having to prepare a teaching plan involving condom use/safe sex for MIDDLE SCHOOLERS next week during my pediatric school nurse clinicals. I'm a little nervous about this, because back when I was in middle school, we giggled when someone said "penis", and at this middle school, they are handing out free condoms and want teaching plans done. Any suggestions on how to present this material to such a giggly, take-nothing-seriously age group? Its a combination male/female group...

    Thanks!
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  3. by   onyx77
    I don't have any ideas for you, but good luck! I certainly wouldn't feel comfortable talking to children of that age about condoms. Boy, when I was in middle school simply holding hands was a big deal. What's happened these days?
  4. by   Spidey's mom
    Well, first . . it isn't called "safe" sex anymore because that isn't true. The term is "safer" sex.

    I think I would focus on self-esteem and teaching respect AND I would split the kids up . . . girls/boys. They aren't going to listen if it is a mixed group.

    I have taught this at high school age with girls.

    steph
  5. by   Shenanigans
    I got out of having to do anything regarding contraceptives and especially condoms!! My lectuerers didnt' want me touchign latex incase I had an anaphy.

    [BANANA]Helps to be Catholic, too I think[/BANANA] :spin::spin::spin:
  6. by   cjulian214
    Maybe I can get the teachers to split them up, but I doubt it, because there is just me, and what is the health class going to do with the other half when I am teaching just the girls, then just the boys?

    I was thinking that it would increase the kids comfort level if they could just write their questions down on a piece of paper anonymously and sent them to the front, but I still don't think they will pay attention
  7. by   Logos
    Oh that is messed up. If someone was trying to teach my 11 year old how to put a condom on a penis I'd be flipping! *****
    My daughter doesn't even wear a bra yet and the schools are teaching about putting condoms on? Where do you live? Remind to never move there, I would not want my kids in a messed up school district that teaches this to 6th graders. Thats screwed up.:angryfire:angryfire:angryfire
  8. by   Jolie
    I certainly hope that you have signed permission slips from the parents of these students! My daughter is a middle-schooler, and while we have discussed sexual intercourse, we have not yet progressed to such graphic demonstrations at home. I would be infuriated if she were exposed to this information in a mixed group without my prior consent. BTW, I have requested an outline of the health class she will be taking later this school year.

    I agree with Logos, my kid would be pulled out of any school that handed out condoms to middle schoolers and/or presented highly-charged sexual content to mixed groups of boys and girls.
  9. by   IrishItalianRN
    we had to teach about "my changing body" in our public health rotation to 5th graders. We did it in groups though, the girls were in one class and the boys in another. There were about 5 or 6 of us that all spoke. We also had the girls write questions on pieces of paper so that they didnt have to feel embarrassed. You have to think of some questions yourself and put them in... things you think are important for them to know. Sometimes they ask the same questions over and over and sometimes you will get a bunch of smarty mouths!

    Personally i thought to myself when i was preparing this... I would NOT want a bunch of nursing students teaching my child about their changing body... I want to teach my child that stuff. Or a already licensed professional such as the school nurse... who has experience with these things....

    In this situation i definitely would NOT agree with a student teaching my child about safe sex. Especially at that age... if he is going to be taught early it's going to be by me...
  10. by   Spidey's mom
    Quote from Jolie
    I certainly hope that you have signed permission slips from the parents of these students! My daughter is a middle-schooler, and while we have discussed sexual intercourse, we have not yet progressed to such graphic demonstrations at home. I would be infuriated if she were exposed to this information in a mixed group without my prior consent. BTW, I have requested an outline of the health class she will be taking later this school year.

    I agree with Logos, my kid would be pulled out of any school that handed out condoms to middle schoolers and/or presented highly-charged sexual content to mixed groups of boys and girls.
    I agree . . .I think the instructor is off base here.

    As I mentioned, I taught a high school class about "safer" sex but we focused on respecting yourself and others. We were also open about sexual feelings.

    I would not want someone else to teach my middle schooler about this.

    steph
  11. by   cjulian214
    I promise, I am not trying to piss anyone off here.

    This school district is not in my city..I have to commute an hour, its a little town on the border of TX and NM and this area has INCREDIBLY high teen pregnancy rates (including 13 yr olds, etc). This is the first semester they are handing out free condoms and anyone who recieves one has to watch a video about it (they gave me access to these materials).

    I am NOT wanting to do anything such as putting a condom on a banana or anything like that. I am hoping to get away with doing "respect yourself" activities and maybe just play the little condom video at the end (I havent watched it yet, so I'll have to see).

    Those "respect yourself" activities is sort of what I am looking for on here.

    BTW- I'm a parent too, and if my kids start having sex in middle school i may just kill myself...
    And while I was in middle school (junior high, back then) we giggled about stuff like that and werent even sure what boys genitalia looked like (all I knew I learned in this little puberty class I took at church, and it was a drawing), but there were other groups of people who I did not hang out with who talked about doing sexual stuff...and I'm pretty sure their parents had no clue...
    Last edit by cjulian214 on Sep 28, '07
  12. by   treysdaddy08
    To be honest I wouldn't teach it. If they required it for school I would say "With all respect I would rather fail that day then teach a 12 year old about sex". I am in school and I GUARANTEE I will not be teaching that in the next two years. Ask if you can teach abstinence instead...or slap the parents if the pregnancy rates are that high!
  13. by   caliotter3
    How coincidental that today I came across the permission slip my daughter signed for this type of topic for one of my grandchildren. I can say one thing, I'm glad its not me. I had a time a while back, talking to my grandchildren about the use of deodorant along with daily bathing when the heat waves were constant. My granddaughter insisted that her brother didn't need deodorant yet because he doesn't have underarm hair! I told her that he needs to start the hygiene habit now, before someone complains about him. If I had that kind of time just talking about personal hygiene, I could see how I'll be when it comes to the condoms, bananas, and other stuff.
  14. by   luvmy3kids
    I'm probably in my own little boat on this one but... I think we need to look at the big picture here. Teens are having sex. They all may not be having sex in middle school, but many of them will be having it soon after. (And as we well know, some of them do have sex in middle school). We also know that A LOT of teens think that oral sex is not a form of sex and therefore is safe to do.

    I agree, I do not want anyone else teaching my child about how to put on a condom. But... I also know my children, and I know my relationship with them. I know what kind of mother I am and what kind of mother I intend to be. I have already spoken (in general non-invasive terms) to my dd about how babies are made and born. She is 8. I explained this to her at the age of 7 when she started asking me questions. I would much rather her know it now before someone else starts to tell her something she shouldn't know....
    So... putting that aside, anything she finds out from someone else, hopefully she will either already have learned from me, or will feel comfortable enough to come to me and ask any questions she may have.

    However, not all parents are like most of us here. Some don't care about their children, some are too embarrassed to explain the basics, and some are too naive to accept the fact that kids are having sex at very young ages these days.

    I'm all for the facts. I think you should tell it like it is and show them what they need to know. I also think you should explain abstinence and how important it is to understand what abstinence can mean to a person at such a young age. I like the idea of having them ask questions on a piece of paper (and throwing in some of yours too).

    It's just sad that it has come to this. I hope that the parents do know what is being taught in their school, and I hope that they are at least trying to get ahead of the game by having a close relationship with their children and talking (and listening) to them.

    Good luck to you. Let us know how it goes and what you decide to do.

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