One of my biggest pet peeves, is a co-worker who will talk negatively about one of their own, to patients. It's completely unprofessional. Unfortunately, I think we've all run across people like this. I certainly have over the years. They never have anything positive to say, no matter what the stituation is. And many times they are the main ones making mistakes, yet they only see what others have done.
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My question is...how do you know (and I mean truly know, not just gossip) that this nurse has done everything that you believe she has done?
This is a good point. I suppose if a reputable source came back and told you what she was saying once you left, you could believe some of it. That, along with her reputation for always speaking badly of others, could mean the information you were told is accurate. But keep in mind, a lot of people really do love to stir the pot. So maybe she didn't say as much as you were told she did.
If it really bothers you, you could always ask her about it, in a non-confrontational manner. That way you could at least clear the air, and let her know you'd appreciate if she came to you in the future, if she has a problem with something you've done. It might not do any good, but you could at least give it a shot.