Okay, the closed "Religion and Nursing" thread made 1 thing
very clear to me. There are things at work/school you should NOT, NOT, NOT
talk about unless you are absolutely sure that everyone else is in the same boat as you and therefore no possibilty that anyone feels threatened.
From the thread, we all know religion (#1 thing NOT
to talk about!) is one of these things.
Someone on the thread said something to the likes, "MY mommy told me never to talk about money, politics, religion, or sex" in polite company. "Polite company" meaning, i guess, any group of people who are not close friends. I think this truism is basically true.
So, I made a mistake at a first job by taking my co-workers for close buddies and expressing freely my ideas about sex and how it should be. BIG MISTAKE! Led to major misunderstandings and embarrassment... (#2 thing NOT
to talk about!)
Then, even though I wanted them to stop and didn't want to hear it, I let co-workers complain, jabber, and gossip to me about the poltics of the company and who was making more $$$ than whom. BIG MISTAKE! I felt uncomfortable and distrusting of my supervisors and personally under a microscope by everyone and felt like I was being dishonest by hearing bad things about people and then going to work with them the whole time while I was there. I felt like spurting out everything that was being said to relieve the tension and distrust. I should have just told them to keep their ramblings to themselves. (#3 and #4 things NOT
to talk about!)
CONCLUSION: The best conflict resolution technnique is conflict avoidance. Anyone want to add their own experiences to these examples or better yet, add other things that u think one should NOT to talk about to my list of "THINGS NOT
to Talk about at Work" ?
May 19, '04
Some people are looking for validation of their spiritual belief in a stressful time. I see no problem here. I will pray with a Jew (is that the politically correct designation? No sarcasm intended.), a Taoist, a Catholic or anyone else excluding satanism, which I've not had dealings with. Should this happen, I will leave and allow the satanist to do what they have to do short of sacrificing a young virgin (if a young virgin is to be found in my area). I just usually claim to be a mongrel crossed with Methodist and let it go at that.
If people want to talk about all their money, and all the stuff they own, that's fine. Sometimes you can really draw some interesting experiences out of such people. I don't recognize the "VIP" status. We's all just folks when we take off our "uniforms" be they clothing or surroundings , or social strata. Let the VPs give them a fruit basket or something if they feel the need. We also have several deluxe suites bordering on penthouse where none but caucasians shall enter...except cleaning people, and a nurse to wait on them hand and foot.
Politics?, I vote for the man, not the party. Consequently I usually vote for the Liberatarian party, or against the incumbent if I haven't that choice. Stirring the stew makes the scum come to the top, and God knows our 2 party system of career politicians could use a wake up call by introducing some diversity. It would probably even benefit Health Care.
Just another 2 Cents----Snake
Last edit by watersnake on May 19, '04