Quote from swthrt124
a nurse we like to call the "wicked witch of the west wing" happens to walk by and berated us for our unprofessional and emotional behavior. It wouldn't normally bother me because this nurse has a history being coldhearted and uncaring about other people's feelings but other people have backed up her point with the same opinion.
who were the other people that supported this nurses' opinion?
if you are new to ltc, then the reality of residents dying can be a shock to your system.
initially people are fascinated but frightened of death.
in ltc, there is the privilege of developing long-term and bonding relationships with some of your residents.
i think the more you see, death will not seem as devastating, esp in ltc.
of course you will grieve for those you personally befriended, but this sadness will be replaced with warm, appreciative memories.
you will smile rather than weep.
there are different reasons why nurses may appear callous.
fear of feeling pain, vulnerability- what rn/writer talked about.
plain old burnout- it happens.
perceptions of what is appropriate and not- we are ea unique in personality & character. what may sensitize you, will do little for the next person.
also in ltc, it is not as 'tragic' when a resident dies.
it's old age; that's when ideally we will die.
so reactions may not be as acute.
but, whatever the reasons, you generally don't want to weep in public places.
it's important to be available to your other pts or other residents who may be observing you.
but no...nothing wrong at all in feeling human emotion.
but according to many, there's a time and a place for grieving.
wishing you peace.