This just infuriates me! - page 5
it's that time of the year fellow nurses...heading into early october... which means (cue the horror music): holiday schedule time!!! :angryfire that's right, my floor has already put up a list... Read More
Sep 26, '07Occupation: pulling patients back from The Light Specialty: pulling patients back from The Light ; From: US ; Joined: May '05; Posts: 10,813; Likes: 25,305For what it's worth, I think people stay much healthier mentally (and physically) when they don't spend precious time worrying about what other people are doing--that doesn't involve them.
You can spend your life being steamed up by someone else "getting away with something", but really does it make a single bit of difference in YOUR life? No.
If this co-worker works the holidays or doesn't work the holidays isn't the question. The question is, "Am I required to work the holiday?". If the answer is yes, why do you really care if SHE does? And if you're off for one and expected to work the other....again, what difference does it make WHAT the heck she does?
Nurse schedules are rarely ideal. They usually involve some type of sacrifice on the part of the nurse, like it or not. If you hate that type of scheduling enough, you'll find different employment options (in nursing or not) that don't force that sacrifice. You chose to be a nurse in a facility that requires holiday service. No one's got a gun to your head, right?
Breathe deeply, clear your head, and get over the "injustice". You'll live longer
Sep 26, '07Occupation: travel nurse - ob Specialty: OB ; Joined: Jul '01; Posts: 3,171; Likes: 4,505All of you who are taking the OP to task for venting, and minding someone else's business, may be missing one point - someone who would have been entitled to their turn to have the holiday off will now have to work it to cover for the person having surgery. If it's the OP I'd say she's entitled to her vent, whether the other nurse's timing was coincidental or not.
Sep 26, '07Occupation: Oncology RN Specialty: Neuro/Med-Surg/Oncology ; From: US ; Joined: Jun '04; Posts: 2,441; Likes: 1,439Quote from bagladyrnSo, should that person risk further damage to her body because it's someone else's turn to be off for the holiday? Not having help when you have kids you can't run after is a real concern. Next thing people will be saying is that she hurt her ankle on purpose so that she could schedule time off during the holiday. I think the OP is allowing her dislike of this particular co-worker to overshadow her view of the situation. Also, if the person happens to be "milking it", she'll get hers one day. Karma is a b that way.All of you who are taking the OP to task for venting, and minding someone else's business, may be missing one point - someone who would have been entitled to their turn to have the holiday off will now have to work it to cover for the person having surgery. If it's the OP I'd say she's entitled to her vent, whether the other nurse's timing was coincidental or not.
Sep 26, '07Specialty: Trauma ICU,ER,ACLS/BLS instructor ; Joined: Jul '07; Posts: 395; Likes: 293It is a fact that nurses take care of everyone else and usually neglect themselves! When we finally decide to do something for our selves, we get slammed! I am one of these nurses. Always worked no matter what. Who's taking care of me now? Not my place of work that's for sure. We are just numbers to them. So I think the lesson is, no need to be a saint, if it is broke, get it fixed, if you r sick enough stay home. We need to be healthy to care for our families and continue the career path we love so much!
Sep 26, '07Joined: Oct '00; Posts: 8,768; Likes: 8,515There are definitely policies that are unfair to people at times, but key to remember is that the unfairness hits or helps each employee at some time. So even if the OP's coworker took advantage of the surgery date (I'm not convinced she did), the OP is free and able to do the same thing for HER surgeries/pregnancies in the same way. Every dog has it's day, and it's wise to remember that if you are fuming.
Sep 26, '07Occupation: Wound and Ostomy RN Joined: Oct '03; Posts: 653; Likes: 620Quote from bagladyrn1. She is entitled to ventAll of you who are taking the OP to task for venting, and minding someone else's business, may be missing one point - someone who would have been entitled to their turn to have the holiday off will now have to work it to cover for the person having surgery. If it's the OP I'd say she's entitled to her vent, whether the other nurse's timing was coincidental or not.
2. We are entitled to respond.
If you don't want responses to your vent, don't post on a public internet site.
Sep 26, '07Occupation: Travel nurse Specialty: 17 year(s) of experience in ICU, ER, EP, ; From: US ; Joined: Aug '07; Posts: 1,385; Likes: 3,030yes! i agree with you, i posted way earlier and wanted to give another point of view. sometimes when you're so angry and frustrated you may not realize things are not what they appear to be. in addition, in general many people think the screws have been put upon them in a holiday schedule, sometimes true, sometimes not.
this doesn't change how the op feels, yep, she's allowed, but there are so many other factors in scheduling that come into play; seniority (who works three of them vrs. two), who worked what last year and finally, who will work what the next. sure if this is seedy or not, the nurse who's injury caused the problem will have a stronger requirement the next year and this op will benefit from it. it all comes around.
that is my point, as well as the fact that; as nurses, we work sick, injured, left family issues, kids with issues all these things.... and we really don't know what is the true picture behind anothers doings. give this person slack for one holiday schedule.... tuck it away and remember it later.
it's pick your battles, the nurse will be out, can't change it.. but is the schedule fair considering this? there is more to consider and discuss, not just saying "that stinks". by discussing it further i don't think we're not understanding the op's anger.
Quote from bagladyrnall of you who are taking the op to task for venting, and minding someone else's business, may be missing one point - someone who would have been entitled to their turn to have the holiday off will now have to work it to cover for the person having surgery. if it's the op i'd say she's entitled to her vent, whether the other nurse's timing was coincidental or not.
Sep 30, '07Occupation: L.P.N. in LTC Specialty: med surg,homecare,hospice ; Joined: Aug '00; Posts: 4,682; Likes: 4,827Quote from FUNNYGIRLRNWhy should we feel sorry for anyone that has to do exactly what we have to do? I've got NO sympathy for an immature cry baby-here or in real life.We all know that nursing is a 24/7 job-if you want weekends and holidays off then be a teacher (but-the downside of that is the lesson plans and homework you do on your own time) I can't see making myself miserable over something I can't change.To my family a holiday is NOT the date but rather the day that you spend gathered with your loved ones. This is all part of growing up-This board is a great place for people to vent.:spin: I completley understand what you were trying to say and that you were upset about the entire situation. That would irritate me too. The reason why the other nurse is going to be out of work wouldn't bother me but just the fact that I would get stuck being the one to have to work would. It is sad that people get so offended over a post where someone is just looking for a little sympathy regarding an upsetting situation. This will be my first time having to be away from my family during the holidays and that makes me very sad. I hope that no matter what happens as far as work goes you have happy holidays.:icon_razz:
Sep 30, '07Occupation: RN Specialty: ER, Psych ; Joined: Apr '07; Posts: 36; Likes: 9Immature cry baby huh? That's real nice......
Sep 30, '07Joined: Dec '06; Posts: 8,249; Likes: 15,451Our organization lists all the holidays and you put your preferences numbered 1- 10 or how ever many there are.
If you had Christmas off last year well you KNOW you will be working on call this year. Not every one can have the same time off obviously. So I am pleased we keep a list of who worked what last year. Prevents any angst and upset.
Personally for me I love Thanks Giving but do not mind working any other time.
Oct 6, '07Occupation: Student/mother/wife! Joined: Jul '04; Posts: 816; Likes: 67Quote from firstyearstudentOohh, I hear ya. It's a great excuse.Ankle surgery doesn't seem to me to be in the same league as a boob job!
Anyway, I'd be happy to work the holidays for you or anyone else. Being scheduled to work is a great way to get out of having to spend time with my in laws!!!
Oct 6, '07Specialty: 21 year(s) of experience in Emergency, Outpatient ; Joined: Jun '03; Posts: 148; Likes: 76Where I worked before everyone worked 4 hours either Christmas or Christmas Eve no vacations were allowed. The same was done for the other holidays that way with just 4 hours people could still celebrate. If you worked one the year before you worked the next the year after, even if you are part time, prn you work one or the other.
Oct 6, '07Joined: Oct '02; Posts: 60,602; Likes: 17,418Quote from FUNNYGIRLRNI agree. As nurses trudge to work on Xmas day leaving their kids at home, what's wrong with saying "this sucks" as they work their holiday? That's a reasonable reaction rather than being immature crybaby. They are dealing with it, doing it, but they don't have to like it do they?:trout:Immature cry baby huh? That's real nice......
However, we all work with whiners who are immature crybabies, and no I don't feel sorry for them. I'm in the same boat and I deal with whining.