They buried my friend today

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Tomorrow he was supposed to start working with me. Instead he was buried at 1p. Friday night he had gone to bed not feeling well, later his wife went to bed and found him not breathing no heartbeat. She is a nurse too. Started CPR, the whole scene.

He had stopped by my house last Sunday so I could read his TB test. We lived only a couple miles apart and I had done his TB on Friday with the idea that I could just read it Sunday at home. I was sitting on top of my refrigerator getting ready to paint my kitchen cupboards, he got a real laugh at that.

In 1998 I lost a job after reporting falsification of charting and patient abuse, he was the only person that I had worked with there that was willing to stand up with me for what was right.

He had red hair and a red beard, a southern drawl and a wonderful sense of humor. He leaves two children he was very proud of, a wife who he loved deeply. And many, many friends. He was 39 years old. He had been a diagnosed diabetic since his teen years. They are saying he had an MI.

I miss him already.

oh Mccountry, that hurts so much!

Your friend's family and you are in my thoughts, prayers and tonight's candle is for him! Bless you, Renee

RNcountry, I regret the loss of your friend, not only for you, his family, and his other friends, but also for your employer, the other nurses, and the patients, all of whom would have been doubly blessed by you two as a dynamic nursing duo. ...I am so glad that he was in your life; he was a precious, precious gem to many folks, yes.

Specializes in Nephrology, Cardiology, ER, ICU.

So very sorry, your friend was lucky to count you as one of his friends!

Thank you all so much,you have no idea how much it means to me to be able to share what I felt yesterday. I came here to do something besides think about it. Instead it was all I thought about no matter what. Just thank you for listening to my rambles, and for the prayers. Those are always appreciated.

Specializes in ER, Hospice, CCU, PCU.

I am sorry for your loss but very happy that you had a chance to have a friend like him.

I am so sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

Dear rncountry,

Sorry about your loss.. It is very hard to lose a friend, but know that as long as you continue to speak of him, he is never really gone. Hold on to your memories. I will keep you and his family in my prayers.

Netty

Dear RNCOUNTRY,

I am so sad for your loss, I too lost a wonderful friend who was 28 and had an MI, left behind 3 beautiful children, the sad part was he was in ED with his young son who had a soccer injury, the father arrested in ED and although he had ACLS immediately he still could not be saved, he was too was a nurse. I think the hardest part about these situations is everyday we save complete strangers yet we are powerless to save the ones we love. Not a day goes by in my life when I thank God for each day that he gives me, and as all nurses could testify we all know or see pts that have their lives cut short, one day I intend to ask God his reasoning but for now I am content with that each sunset we see in another day of God's grace. At moments like these I am glad that I am a nurse as it does not matter where you are in the world or who you are complete strangers will offer their heartfelt sympathy. I used to think that some nurses still eat their young but on many occassions they pick them up when they have fallen out of the nest. To all those that have replied to this dear colleague thank you, it renews my faith in my profession. To all my colleagues around the world that are facing personal or professional crisis know that as long as you are a nurse you are never alone, and no matter what sitaution you are in chances there is somebody else that has been there or is going there, times like this it shows that nursing is indeed a caring profession and we do actually start with caring for each other. Thank you all, and country RN you will be in my thoughts and my prayers along with this dear family.

Praying for God's loving, comforting arms to surround you and his family. May you draw your strength and comfort from Him. So sorry for this loss.

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Tomorrow he was supposed to start working with me. Instead he was buried at 1p.

I am so sorry to hear of your loss. Your keeping him in your thoughts is a way to keep his presence close-by.

jang

When we walk to the edge of all the light we have and take the step into the darkness of the unknown, we must believe that one of two things must happen: There will be something solid for us to stand on, or we will be taught to fly.

I'M FREE

Don't grieve for me, for now I'm free

I'm following the path God laid for me.

I took His hand when I heard him call;

I turned my back and left it all.

I could not stay another day,

To laugh, to love, to work or play.

Tasks left undone must stay that way;

I found that place at the close of day.

If my parting has left a void,

Then fill it with remembered joy.

A friendship shared a laugh, a kiss;

Ah yes, these things, I too will miss.

Be not burdened with times of sorrow

I wish you the sunshine of tomorrow.

My life's been full, I savored much;

Good friends, good times, a loved ones touch.

Perhaps my time seems all to brief;

Don't lengthen it now with undue grief.

Lift up your heart and share with me,

God wanted me now, He set me free.

My thoughts are with you.

I'M FREE

Don't grieve for me, for now I'm free

I'm following the path God laid for me.

I took His hand when I heard him call;

I turned my back and left it all.

I could not stay another day,

To laugh, to love, to work or play.

Tasks left undone must stay that way;

I found that place at the close of day.

If my parting has left a void,

Then fill it with remembered joy.

A friendship shared a laugh, a kiss;

Ah yes, these things, I too will miss.

Be not burdened with times of sorrow

I wish you the sunshine of tomorrow.

My life's been full, I savored much;

Good friends, good times, a loved ones touch.

Perhaps my time seems all to brief;

Don't lengthen it now with undue grief.

Lift up your heart and share with me,

God wanted me now, He set me free.

My thoughts are with you.

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