Social sorority and nursing school. - page 3

hi allnurses.com I just wanted to get some views and opinions about being in a sorority and being in nursing school. I don't want this to vary off topic like some of my other posts have =) but I... Read More

  1. by   LoneStar1908
    Well, I was a mother with a lot of support when I was initiated into my sorority. I was 23 and the oldest member on my line, I was not in nursing school at the time. It was very hard work and very expensive. If you wish to join a divine nine sorority, which I think you may......work on your GPA and be active on campus BEFORE intake. Since nursing is demanding you will have to work harder to have the GPA you need. Again, the commitment is expensive. I have read your prior posts on how hard you worked to get into school. It will be stressful, but it can be done
  2. by   roosmom
    I think what it comes down to is that there are only 24 hours in a day. You're going to have to figure out how many hours a day you'll be taking care of your child, how many hours in class/clinicals, how many hours studying, attending sorority functions, cleaning your house, doing your laundry, showering, grocery shopping, etc, etc, etc. You're the one who has to figure out how much you can fit in and where you're going to cut corners.

    I do have to warn you though, that while babies can be very adaptable they also need routine. He may do very well for you. On the other hand you may end up with a very fussy boy if you end up hauling him all over town to social engagements after trying to spend several hours a day studying with him. Doesn't sound like alot of fun for a baby to me.
  3. by   Magsulfate
    From a mother's perspective, and a successful nursing school graduate,, my opinion is that there was no way I would have been able to be involved in a sorority while in college.

    I was lucky to be able to spend time with my children after going to school and studying. Spending time with my children while cleaning the house and following them around making sure they didn't stick their fingers in a light socket, or swallow a small toy... or the many other hazards a child can get themselves into while I had my head stuck in a nursing school book.

    I can't tell anyone else what to do, and that's not why I'm posting this. But what I can say is that you need to listen to the women/men who have successfully gone through nursing school. Don't discount their opinions, as they are trying to show you how busy you will be during school. I don't think you really know what you're getting yourself into.

    IMO, once you have a child, your obligations change dramatically. Unless you want someone else to raise your child, then you need to concentrate on your future career and the child you brought into the world. Of course, there are always nannies, daycare,, housekeepers and your parents. Are you grown or do they still give you all the money you need?

    I understand the need to enjoy the college experience, but I think you gave some of that up when you had a child and decided to major in nursing. If you really want the full college experience, you should major in interior design or art. Definitely not nursing.

    I don't mean to sound harsh, really. I think that maybe there's not many nursing students who have had a sorority experience because of the demands of nursing school and on the lives of the students. To be successful in nursing school it takes up mostly ALL of your time. Leaving none left for extra curricular activities.
  4. by   Prettyladie
    thank you lonestar [1908] and i do that for a reason. i plan on becoming active in the community and on campus the first semester that im there. i plan on working hard, studying hard and making sure my grades are well above average. i want to graduate with honors, and i know i can. im very ambitious and i know it will be hard, but I would like to do it all. But if i cant, i will definitely not let my job as a parent fail, or my schooling. those are my top two priorities, i would just like to do this for me. this is something that ive looked into for a long time and im just trying to weigh my options. and like i said there is always grad chapter. im just trying to see if i could possibly do both. and i think i might be able to, like i said in my other posts, ill have one semester down in clinicals and school, and ill have a steady routine for daycare, and my time management skills should be at its best after a semester of getting all the quirks out. so i guess ill know when the spring comes what i can handle. thanks for everybody's input so far.
  5. by   RNKPCE
    Also in different post you are struggling with moving away from your family and finding day care for your child so you can attend school. You do realize as much as the sorority is welcoming a mother they are not going to welcome your child at every meeting and/or event. You will need childcare for sorority events too. So many woman struggle with leaving their kids in daycare for work or school and day care for clinicals is not always just going to be 6a-3p, you might have a PM shift clinical and need daycare then too. To join a sorority and have your child in daycare or baby sat more so you can have a broader college experience doesn't seem fair to your child.
  6. by   Prettyladie
    "I understand the need to enjoy the college experience, but I think you gave some of that up when you had a child and decided to major in nursing. If you really want the full college experience, you should major in interior design or art. Definitely not nursing"

    magsulfate, i appreciate your comment, but i COMPLETELY disagree with this particular part of your comment. I dont think having a child meant that i cant fully experience college life. or choosing a nursing major.

    I think basically im looking for the people who have done this. meaning been in a sorority and nursing school on some posts about a year ago that said they did it. i think she was a delta gamma. where are thooooose people =)

    no. but seriously thanks for your input.
  7. by   Prettyladie
    Quote from batmik
    Also in different post you are struggling with moving away from your family and finding day care for your child so you can attend school. You do realize as much as the sorority is welcoming a mother they are not going to welcome your child at every meeting and/or event. You will need childcare for sorority events too. So many woman struggle with leaving their kids in daycare for work or school and day care for clinicals is not always just going to be 6a-3p, you might have a PM shift clinical and need daycare then too. To join a sorority and have your child in daycare or baby sat more so you can have a broader college experience doesn't seem fair to your child.
    ive gotten day care covered. she is a lady that is retired and she is also an active member in this sorority in question. and all the clinicals are in the day time. so i think im good on these two. thank you so much.
  8. by   firechalice
    Wow! Can I say cruxifiction! As bad as the Sarah Palin VP race for the White House. Oh but she was doing that for the greater good not for her own self interests.

    Makes for good reading though.
  9. by   Prettyladie
    Quote from firechalice
    Wow! Can I say cruxifiction! As bad as the Sarah Palin VP race for the White House. Oh but she was doing that for the greater good not for her own self interests.

    Makes for good reading though.
    what are you talking about?
  10. by   firechalice
    Quote from Prettyladie
    what are you talking about?
    These wonderful people have made you out to be a very selfish person who gives a damn about your child. It is obvious that you have given this much thought and sought the opinion of other sorority members. Instead you are told that your child is first. You want to party. You should have thought about this before you had a child.

    I'm sure you have thought about these things. Your child is why you are trying to better yourself anyway. Though I am not a Sarah Palin fan, she was told that she could not be a mother and VP. Sure it would have been difficult but she had a good support system. Many conservative women's groups weighed in their opinion and practically judged her to be an unfit mother.

    I wish you the best in whatever decision you decide to make. I know many women who are wonderful mothers with full careers and members of various organizations. YOU ARE YOUNG! If you can do it. Then do so. You seem to have your priorities in order. I hope that you get more feedback from the sorority members who have done what you are trying to do. I am happy that so many people here are concerned enough to give you their honest feedback. Ultimately, the decision is yours.

    This is 2009 and women have proven that they can perform more than one task at a time. In fact, they've been doing it all along. Why can't you?
  11. by   RNBelle
    Anyone can do what they want when they want. You say you will have a semester of nursing school under your belt before rushing. I think that will give you ample opportunity to see if you can balance nursing school, family and any other interests you desire. Try it out. I got a biology degree first and rushed with a sorority. It wasn't my thing so I quit but others loved it and balanced things. You will be busy, no doubt. If you can keep your grades up, enjoy your family and be in a sorority, why not? But if any thing starts to slip - grades, problems at home, then maybe the sorority should be the first to go.
  12. by   BreatheFree
    Something to consider is that your son is currently 3 months old. That is the easy age. Things will be different when he turns 7 months and 1 year.
  13. by   tfleuter
    Well I guess my opinion won't help you much b/c I've never seen the attraction of a sorority in the first place. Sounds like a huge time commitment and to have to pay dues on top of that? I've managed to make some fairly solid friendships w/out a sorority and they seem to be a lot more forgiving when things like school and family have to come first. At least they don't charge me any fees when I have to cancel on girl's night out
    This is 2009 and women have proven that they can perform more than one task at a time. In fact, they've been doing it all along. Why can't you?
    Actually, that's not the point at all when it comes to working mothers. I don't think anyone here is questioning whether a woman can be successful outside the home, but rather the question begs, at what point does the child become affected? It's 2009 and children still need their parent(s) to be around as much as possible. The thing about quality time is that it does require TIME. Can the OP figure out a way to physically schedule school, sorority, study time, ect? I'm sure she can. But at what point does all this hussle and bussle start affecting her child? I'm sure no one here can say, but it's worth bringing up none the less. Doesn't have to be a judgemental thing, rather just something to take into consideration.

    Sorry Prettyladie, I know this doesn't answer your question and I truly hope you can find that balance in your life so you can be happy too! Happy moms lead to happy kids, so it's definately important to take care of your needs too.

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