RN as Inpatient, horrible and looong rant - page 3

On top of everything I have been unable to log into the site. Here I am , minus a UTERUS!!!! Believe me when I tell you that in my situation it is better to be an ordinary citizen than to be "found... Read More

  1. by   Haunted
    Quote from stevielynn
    I'm sorry about your experience - I had similar attitudes when I ended up with a cesarean with my last child. I had three vag deliveries prior. I am an OB nurse. HOWEVER, it is different when you are the patient.

    I did get treated like I should know everything after the surgery - prior, my doc was really wonderful explaining the emergent need and all.

    The problem with keeping my RN a secret was that some of the nurses who cared for me also went to school with me.

    Post-partum was hard - I was alone most of the time.

    I too would complain, in writing.

    I suffer from heavy bleeding too - just last night in fact I just about soaked the bed. I'm thinking about ablation.

    Good luck with your recovery.

    steph
    Hey Syeph, I too underwent what I thought was ablation. I signed the consent for it and everything, went under the general anesthesia and all, when I came out I felt great, very mild cramping, mini pad for a few days and then off I went to Spain for a month, all without a period!!!!

    When I returned to see my MD for my well woman check about a year later she casually mentioned that the "D & C" seemed to have worked. I said, "no, you did an ablation back in May 2003" she said "no, you were bleeding too heavily for me to do that, I just did a D&C" This witch had me thinking for a year that she had done the ablation! And I just remembered that!

    So she has a history of non disclosure! Wow, I think I need to sever all ties with her and follow up with someone else in her office. Do look into the ablation before you do something radical if possible, I HEARD it works very well!!!!! Damn, wanna bet she billed my insurance for the ablation anyway???
  2. by   ortess1971
    I'm really sorry that you had this experience...When I know my patient is or has been a nurse, I pamper them beyond belief..My patient today was a retired nurse. I don't assume that a nurse will know what to expect because very few nurses have had intense exposure to the OR for starters and then there is the nervousness factor and the meds that anesthesia gives you can cause you to forget 90% of what you're told pre and post-op. You deserved detailed discharge instructions and follow-up as well as decent nursing care. I agree that you should let the hospital know what happened to you.
  3. by   nicuRN2007
    What a nightmare! I'm so sorry.
  4. by   mmom51
    The last piece of advice is good but what concerns me here is where did the notion of CARE go. A little bit of maths here CARE/profit=0. Not that I want to be a Mother Theresa clone but expecting nurses to self care so soon after surgery is plain. Is there an ethical council/department at that place???. On the bright side you possibly got the best care by doing self care, well it sounds like it
  5. by   amygooch
    OH you poor thing!! I cant believe that you were treated so badly!! It doesnt matter if you are a nurse or not! NO ONE is able to care for themselves straight out of surgery!! GRRRR!!!!

    That being said, I see you have already been given excellent advice, particularly regarding www.hystersisters.com It is an excellent site that I used after my own TAH/BSO last year.

    The only other suggestions I can give is to have your husband place a cooler beside your bed each day with drinks, sandwiches, snacks, etc. so you dont have to get out of bed any more than is necessary. Also, if you dont have an adequately large bedside table, an ironing board will do quite nicely, and it has the added bonus of being height adjustable! Place a kitchen chair beside your bed to use as a hand rail to help you get up and down. The Hyster Sister site has a product called a Swelly-Belly Band, that I whole heartedly recommend. It will give you great relief. Also, have your Hubby go by Walgreens or Walmart and pick up a thing called "The Grabber". It costs about $12, and is a Godsend! It will help you reach things without bending. One other helpful hint is to use the motorized chairs at the grocery and Walmart when you venture out the first few times, (and after that if you still hurt). Dont be proud! Who do you think they are for???!!! Even if you dont think you need it when you get there, believe me, you will need it by the time you leave!! So trust me, use it and hold your head high!! YOu just had surgery!!! Be kind to yourself!

    Also, accept ALL offers of help graciously. The old ladies from church want to bring you dinner for a few days? Practice saying, "That would be lovely, thank you so much!!" Bite your tongue before you say you dont need anything!! The offers will be gone in a few weeks, trust me! Take full advantage while you can!! Along this same line, when friends and family come to visit and ask if there is anything you need, ask them if they would mind throwing a load in the washer before they go, or loading the dishwasher before they leave, since you cant. TRUE friends honestly do not mind!! PEople really DO want to help! It makes them feel good to do something for someone else! Dont take that from them!!!! Your ONLY jobs are to rest, heal, watch tv, read, take your meds, try to have a GOOD bm, and write thank you notes for every kindness extended to you!!! And believe me, after major surgery, those are hard enough!!!

    I am sending you healing thoughts and will say a prayer for you to feel better soon. Hugs, Amy
  6. by   rach_nc_03
    Haunted,

    I am SO sorry for what you're going through! I have experienced similar issues (had hip surgery and no crutches available at discharge!), and only found out about some 'not too terrible' hemorrhaging during my pelvic laparoscopy when I went in for an incisional infection and saw the RESIDENT on call. (I asked why I was having pain in a weird, new place, and she said, 'oh, that's probably from the sutures they had to put in after you hemorrhaged.' 'um, how much blood did I lose?' 'oh, it wasn't too terrible....doesn't say how much blood lost.')

    I just scheduled a major ortho surgery for next month (inpatient 3-4 days, out of work 6-12 weeks). I'm in a new state, so none of my caregivers (except my surgeon, who's an arrogant ***) will know I'm a nurse. I'm seriously considering withholding the information *specifically* because I fear a situation like yours.

    I agree with the other posters- write letters to anyone you can get a hold of. Some insurance plans have started allowing patients to leave feedback online on providers and hospitals- if yours offers that, get up on your soapbox and let it rip! If not, pursue every accreditation body you can- medical board, BON, etc.- and hold EVERY ONE of those nurses and doctors accountable! Personally, I think the doctor *and* the nurses are guilty of malpractice.

    Take advantage of your anger while it's fresh and start writing. Even if you only brainstorm right now, getting it all down on paper will (a) help you remember all the details, and (b) rekindle your fire when you go back later to edit and send the letters. I know, from experience, that things can seem like too much effort later on- but you're mad as hell, as you should be, and somebody needs to face the consequences of their actions!!
  7. by   PANurseRN1
    Quote from HauntedRN
    Hey Syeph, I too underwent what I thought was ablation. I signed the consent for it and everything, went under the general anesthesia and all, when I came out I felt great, very mild cramping, mini pad for a few days and then off I went to Spain for a month, all without a period!!!!

    When I returned to see my MD for my well woman check about a year later she casually mentioned that the "D & C" seemed to have worked. I said, "no, you did an ablation back in May 2003" she said "no, you were bleeding too heavily for me to do that, I just did a D&C" This witch had me thinking for a year that she had done the ablation! And I just remembered that!

    So she has a history of non disclosure! Wow, I think I need to sever all ties with her and follow up with someone else in her office. Do look into the ablation before you do something radical if possible, I HEARD it works very well!!!!! Damn, wanna bet she billed my insurance for the ablation anyway???
    Why on earth did you go back to that provider????????????????????????????
  8. by   vampiregirl
    I'm so sorry you had a bad experience. I think that being a patient for anyone in the medical field can be a scary experience. You combine knowing some or all of the worst case senarios with logical thinking being overpowered by fear and pain, it's just not a good thing.
  9. by   Haunted
    Quote from amygooch
    OH you poor thing!! I cant believe that you were treated so badly!! It doesnt matter if you are a nurse or not! NO ONE is able to care for themselves straight out of surgery!! GRRRR!!!!

    That being said, I see you have already been given excellent advice, particularly regarding www.hystersisters.com It is an excellent site that I used after my own TAH/BSO last year.

    The only other suggestions I can give is to have your husband place a cooler beside your bed each day with drinks, sandwiches, snacks, etc. so you dont have to get out of bed any more than is necessary. Also, if you dont have an adequately large bedside table, an ironing board will do quite nicely, and it has the added bonus of being height adjustable! Place a kitchen chair beside your bed to use as a hand rail to help you get up and down. The Hyster Sister site has a product called a Swelly-Belly Band, that I whole heartedly recommend. It will give you great relief. Also, have your Hubby go by Walgreens or Walmart and pick up a thing called "The Grabber". It costs about $12, and is a Godsend! It will help you reach things without bending. One other helpful hint is to use the motorized chairs at the grocery and Walmart when you venture out the first few times, (and after that if you still hurt). Dont be proud! Who do you think they are for???!!! Even if you dont think you need it when you get there, believe me, you will need it by the time you leave!! So trust me, use it and hold your head high!! YOu just had surgery!!! Be kind to yourself!

    Also, accept ALL offers of help graciously. The old ladies from church want to bring you dinner for a few days? Practice saying, "That would be lovely, thank you so much!!" Bite your tongue before you say you dont need anything!! The offers will be gone in a few weeks, trust me! Take full advantage while you can!! Along this same line, when friends and family come to visit and ask if there is anything you need, ask them if they would mind throwing a load in the washer before they go, or loading the dishwasher before they leave, since you cant. TRUE friends honestly do not mind!! PEople really DO want to help! It makes them feel good to do something for someone else! Dont take that from them!!!! Your ONLY jobs are to rest, heal, watch tv, read, take your meds, try to have a GOOD bm, and write thank you notes for every kindness extended to you!!! And believe me, after major surgery, those are hard enough!!!

    I am sending you healing thoughts and will say a prayer for you to feel better soon. Hugs, Amy
    Aww Ms Gooch, I love where your coming from but your gonna smack me upside my head when I say I have already done laundry, loaded the dishwasher and walked my dog every day. I am surely paying the price for it all today with awful crampy pain but I want to thank you for your no nonsense advice. It's pretty much me and the dog during the day and you all are the light at the end of this tunnel.
  10. by   Haunted
    Intersesting follow up, now this MD is leaving messages on my phone which sound a lot like CYA, "Gee you know I am always here for you, almost 24 hours a day, it was Judy's fault that she didn't follow up with you A FEW DAYS AFTER SUGERY (Judy is a secretary) and you can always call me, I am here to fix whatever is wrong ....beep" . Well, this MD billed my insurance for an ablation when all she did was a D&C ( I found out about 18 months ago because she was evaporated after the procedure, ) she discovered a cardiac insufficiancy during an echo back in 2005 and informed me the day before surgery. Finally, here NP did a procedure which required here to do a dilation of my cervix and remove endouterine tissue for biopsy, which was performed without anesthesia OUCH and I just discovered that they were unable to use the tissue obtained due to CONTAMINATION of the sample!!!!!!!

    I think, hands down, I will look for another PMD for follow up but I am in a terrible position, I do need to be seen ASAP for my elevated temp, which was high when I was discharged, my cramping pain, extreme fatigue, my H was I am now told at 9, dropped from 13 the day of surgery so this blood loss is going SOMEWHERe, sheesh, where do I start? I never need a GYNO, how do I begin to find one and what, if anything do I tell him or her regarding my reasons for not continuing care with this current MD. You guys are wonderful and I can't wait to get back on my feet and figure all this out, today was a very bad day with pain and fatigue. Did I tell you that the secretary from this office told me yesterday that I would be off work for at least 6 weeks? I need to file for disability and they only charge 25 bucks to fill out the forms. Should I have been told this BEFORE THIS SURGERY????? OK deep breath.....
  11. by   emllpn2006
    I would definatly find a new ob. This doctor sounds horrible. I would also request a complete copy of your medical chart just in case there is anything else this doctor has "forgot" to tell you. Good Luck and Get Well Soon!!!!!!!!
  12. by   Genista
    Haunted-
    What a nightmare! My heart goes out to you. Please do contact someone at the hospital who handles patient complaints, and please write and call and notify them in detail what you told us here, but also be sure to name all docs and nurses involved. How you were treated was unbelievable. I pray that those docs & nurses get some counseling and are held accountable for their insensitive and frankly crappy care. Whatever happened to compassion and assessment of patient and bedside teaching, etc? We all know nursing is highly specialized, and RNs can't be expected to know everything about everything.Even if you were placed on your home unit with a dx you were familiar with, that behavior was absolutely sub standard and shoddy. They failed you on so many levels.

    I have to say that the one time I had a procedure as a patient last year at my own hospital where I work, they all knew I was an RN, but were kind enough to explain everything to me and treat me with the same dignity as any other patient who is scared, in pain, etc. My d/c instructions were clear, written and reinforced verbally. I felt cared for and safe. That's how you should have been treated too!!!

    I still can't get over the "cardiac insuffiency" not being told to you until several years later. I would be pissed! That's grounds for firing your doc I say.I hope you can find a better OB, but in the meanwhile please let all those involved how unhappy you were with their service and care (or lack of care I should say). Getting a copy of your medical records is a good idea, as the previous poster mentioned.

    Take care Haunted!!!:icon_hug: Hope you feel better soon!
  13. by   ckben
    Haunted, I would write a letter to the people in charge of patient complaints, definitely. But, I'm not sure how much good that would do, personally. If I were you, I would call and ask to speak to the nurse manager of the units (the floor you were on, the OR, and any other place you had problems) and let THEM know what you experienced, even the problem with the anesthesiologist.

    I've only been a nurse for 2 years, but I can't remember seeing anyone get reprimanded personally because of a patient survey. But I HAVE seen the nurse manager personally get involved and pull people aside and speak to them due to patient complaints. It won't help the situation at large, but at least those people you were personally inolved with might be a little more aware of their actions. If you write them a letter explaining your situation, they may post it for the staff to read.

    Why is it that people, even other nurses, think that just because you're a nurse you know everything there is to know about every type of procedure?

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