Please Help Me - page 2
It such a long story but I need help in finding the correct way or the right lawyer to help me. A teacher who has expressed on more than one occasion I will never be a good nurse has failed me for... Read More
Apr 26, '07Konahi7
I feel so badly for you. Do you have someone who can mentor you; perhaps a meeting with administration in the company of your mentor... someone who knows how you work and study? The next step after that would be a meeting with administration in the company of your mentor and the professor with whom you are having a problem.
Don't give up - if you want something badly enough, you can get it but you may have to fight uphill for it. I will pray for strength for you.
Apr 26, '07Quote from konahi7I dont feel there is anything called a right lawyer. But good luckIt such a long story but I need help in finding the correct way or the right lawyer to help me. A teacher who has expressed on more than one occasion I will never be a good nurse has failed me for the second time. My fellow classmates what to all come with me to a meeting with the head of nursing and state the cruel things she does not only to me but others as well and who they feel I was targeted. I don't think this will be enough. She has been on probation twice for similar student complaints but yet has been dismissed. Maybe because she and her well know surgeon husband had a lot to do with our new nursing building, I'm not sure.. Please Help me I don't know what to do.. I'm not unintelligent I have a 3.8.. its a long story if anyone can help me please.. I'm falling apart.. Nursing is all I every wanted to do... but I'm not a fighter and am tiring easily.
Apr 26, '07thank you... I dont have a mentor.. I dont know who to ask.. I've tryed contacting my Clinical instructor who had me get that meeting together but she is very busy and I can never get a hold of her
Apr 26, '07how do I find a representative? I dont have much money.. A friend has giving me a lawyer to talk to but I want to make sure I do this right..Last edit by konahi7 on Apr 26, '07
Apr 26, '07If you are looking for legal assistance and representation, try asking around people you know for a reputable representative. But please, if you are really considering legal action, say nothing more online. You only bring potential problems on yourself and your situation by doing this. And allnurses.com cannot be liable nor will give legal advice to anyone.
As far as money, there are lawyers/firms that accept clients on a sliding scale basis; you could try calling around to find out.
I wish you good luck resolving this situation to your satisfaction.Last edit by SmilingBluEyes on Apr 26, '07
Apr 26, '07Quote from konahi7OP = original posterwhat the OP?
Apr 26, '07I had an instructor who did the exact same thing to me. She invented new ways to torment me daily. I would cry, she would embarrass me in front of the nurses on the clinical floor. She destroyed my self esteem and confidence in myself as a nurse. She didnt have the nerve to tamper with my grades though, because that would have been proof if I ever presented it to someone over her head. I did manage to pass though, but still see her on the floor when she is there with her new victim students...and she STILL tries her antics with me and I am no longer a student. If I were you, I would definitely go to the dean, then go up the chain of command. If you do have any fellow students who will verify and back you up, then take them with you. But this will ultimately be their doom, because they will then be on this instructors "crap list" if having her again for another class. I am so sorry you are going through this, it is certainly devistating. Is it an option to transfer all your credits to another college? Or take a different instructor for the class the next time? It seems there is always a tyrant instructor in every nursing program. Mine was the OB instructor. Please let us know how this turns out.
Apr 27, '07I feel for you, I know how it is to have a dream, and have someone else try to crush your spirit and destroy your plans.
I also had an instructor like yours. She did not feel I had what it takes to be a nurse. and she made sure I knew it. I lost my self-confidence, and things went from bad to worse. Like you, I swallowed my pride and I tried again. This time however, I went to this instructor and asked her to help me. I would go to her for advise and with questions about nursing. I was able to get her on my side. My self confidence came back and I started to ace clinicals as well as tests. After the first semester, I came to show her my grades. She sat down with me and with tears in her eyes she noted an improvement in me overall. She said before my foundation was built on sand, and now my foundation was on concrete. I never had a problem with her again.
It may be too late for you to get this instructor to help you and be on your side.
As I see it, you have 2 options. Yiou can fight this however you can, and she will always be there as an adversary, destroying your confidence and fighting your progress, unless you are able to turn her around and make her see that you are going to be a great nurse.
Or you can move on. Find another school and start over. If this is your dream, do not let it die. If you go to another school, you will start with a clean slate. Then when you graduate and get your license, you can go back to her and show her you made your dreams come true despite her best efforts. let her know she failed, you didn't.
Best of luck to you whatever course you decide to take. If your dream is to be a nurse, you will find a way to do it.
Apr 29, '07ok... had a bit of a breakdown this weekend and took one too many Xanax. I am going to fight this anyway I can because I feel that god left me here for a reason i guess. All your support has meant so much to me. Thank you. I'm not sure how much I will be able to get accomplished since we only have two weeks left this semester but I am going to try.. not just for me, but for those who will follow me.
Apr 29, '07Believe me, if you can work through this thing you'll be made strong! At times it'll take all the strength you have to be your patients' best advocate. Nursing isn't for the faint-of-heart.
I had an instructor much like you describe. She was an evil old bitty. Eventually, the school did ask her to leave....a yr. or so after I graduated.
Now that it's all behind me I see that her wickedness well prepared me for working with the good, the bad, and the ugly. And they come from all directions; patients, families, and co-workers.
My heart goes out to you and I wish you a positive out-come, an opportunity to sit for the NCLEX, and a rewarding career as a Nurse.