I am going to throw this out to ALL nurses. I have alot of issues with family members - yes most of them are a god send taking care of their loved ones - cleaning them up and feeding them - those patients that have loved ones that do for them are soooo lucky. I recently got attacked because I voiced my opinion about this type of situation. Family is so important to patients - I understand this and I encourage their participation in their loved one's care - and me, as a nurse try to keep them in the loop as much as possible.
Here is my problem - which to me is a real problem - family that stand around staring at their loved one - for example - when their meal tray comes up - they call for the nurse to feed them. I would not even complain if it was a patient that had no family there - but when I tell you that I could not even walk into that particular room because there were so many family members present - I tell you no lie - it was ridiculous. Could no one help him to eat???? They all stood around staring and complaining at the nursing station - time that would have could have been well spent, in my opinion, feeding their loved one. My nurses aide was busy helping a patient that was incontinent and I was busy handing out medications (to my other six patients)- I am not trying to avoid my responsibilities, but it seems ridculous to me that if you are standing around why would you not help your mom, dad, aunt, uncle etc eat???
I have gotten attacked by so many other boards telling me telling me that if I feel this way I need to not be a nurse - that I need to give up the profession. I have been a nurse for only six months and the pressure that is put on me is ridculous. In my opinion - my presense is better spent with my patient can't breathe, and have no family members present to call me, rather than the room that is full with family members - yet they refuse to lift a finger to feed their "LOVED ONE" and want to wait for the nurse to do it. I am only one person with 6-7 patients to care for - and management breathing down my through about customer service. I will say this - if I don't get that lopressor or vasotec to someone whose pressure is through the roof - or suction someone that is aspirating (which by the way all happenened to me while taking care of this particular patient as well) that is more of a proprity to me than feeding someone who has ten or more family members in the room. Think about it it - it could be your're loved one choking or stroking out and where was your nurse?? Feeding a patient that had ten family members watching her do it.
Do not send me back negative feed back telling me I should not be a nurse - as I have heard that before and trust me - I am really reconsidering my profession. I am only one person with only two hands and can only be in one place at one time. I think my time is better spent with the patient that cannot breathe (that has no family members present)- calling a code rescue- than feeding someone or cleaning sheets of an incontient patient - that have ten or more family members present (I really, truly am not lying about this particular situation- in fact other nurses refused to care for this patient because the family complained so much). Remember what we learned in nursing school? The ABC's take priority.