Mr. Manly Male Nurse

  1. I was told that a great percentage of male nurses were homosexuals, (gay) what ever. Am I going to be percieved as a homosexual because of my choice to become a nurse? And if so why? Are people really that stupid or shallow to ass-u-me that a lifestyle chooses a profession, or that a profession chooses a lifestyle. I am married with a child. I think that more married men should persue nursing to reverse this stigma.
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  3. by   Teshiee
    Wow! I never heard of that. I know the men I do work with they are heterosexuals... That is quite ignorant of some people.
  4. by   Furball
    In my humble experience, the guys are quite masculine...especially the ER-ICU-tele nurses. There are a few who's bread is buttered on the other side but that's the case in any job. I had an uncle who was a construction worker in NYC (skyscrapers!)who was gay. Imagine THAT one.

    serenity now......
  5. by   2ndCareerRN
    I thought about this post for a few minutes, and then realized that I really don't care if people think I am gay, or not. I am there to provide compassionate, caring, quality nursing care. Are there gays in the nursing profession? Sure there are, and as long as the care they give is caring and compassionate, who cares what they do in their personal life? Of course, there are gay men and women in every walk of life, not just nursing. So, just put it out of your mind and do not obsess over the way some ignorant people may look at you. If you want to become a nurse, do it.
    BTW, being married does not mean the person is exclusively heterosexual.

  6. by   Furball
    Very true Bob

    My uncle hid out in a dysfunctional marriage before "coming out"
  7. by   micro

    and i am not male, but maybe in a past life.......
    but i really don't care if people think i am gay, happy, dopey or doc.........

    why are we still in the dark ages..............

    that is all.........
  8. by   Zee_RN
    I know more gay men in business/administration than I do in nursing. (Actually, I only know one gay male nurse and I work with and/or went to school with a lot of men.) Truly, I don't hear the male nurse = gay male at all.
  9. by   Furball
    Originally posted by micro

    and i am not male, but maybe in a past life.......
    but i really don't care if people think i am gay, happy, dopey or doc.........

    why are we still in the dark ages..............

    that is all.........
    ditto micro
  10. by   MPHkatie
    Currently I work in the ED where we are about 50% male RN/LPN staff. All the male RN's I work with are married or have a girlfriend. We have a few gay male secretaries. Most of the guys are not perceived as gay, except by a few very homophobic patients- who act like jerks to the rest of us as well. BUT, I think it is hysterical to suggest that more married guys persue a profession, ANY PROFESSION to reverse a stereo type? Don't you think thats sort of not why someone should go into nursing? Did you realise what you were saying? Most of the guys I work with are big strong and compassionate and have no concerns about being labeled-they know who they are and could care less what others say
  11. by   ERNurse752
    I don't know anyone who perceives a male nurse as gay anymore. My dad is a nurse.
    Nurses with XY chromosomes are pretty common in the ER/ICU...
  12. by   nurs4kids
    Sadly, I think the public does still perceive nursing as a feminine job, therefore males sexuality is questioned if he chooses nursing. However, I work with four males..two are manly and married (if I weren't married, I'd have to see just how "manly" one of them can be..but that's another and the other two are young and heterosexual. I agree with a previous poster that one should not choose nursing based on how his/her sexuality will be perceived. There's a whole list of reasons to be or not to be a nurse, sexuality has nothing to do with either. As a male nurse, you probably WILL at some point be accused of being gay...if that's gonna torment you, then you're in for a dreadful career...BECAUSE there's alot worse things you will run into in nursing..worrying about what other's think of your sexuality won't be the cream of the crop!

    I love male nurses and could care less who they're sleeping with..or without as long as it doesn't interfere with work
  13. by   mario_ragucci
    WE make nursing what it is. When people see and hear me, they know who I am, and what I can do. Some of the women try to jeer me about being single, and I don't mind. I've come to accept there is no such thing as an independant and single nurses :-( Iit's married peoples world :-(
    Working in a hospital requires a higher set of ethics and morals from the git-go.
  14. by   hapeewendy
    I dont know where ppl get their statistical data on this subject.....
    there is no way to tell with the naked eye who is gay who is straight or otherwise.
    these people are judging and stereotyping pure and simple.
    people put the label of "gay" on any man who acts even a little feminine, or any woman who seems "butch"
    which is of course incorrect and shows great lack of intelligence , but these ppl are also going with the stereotype that nursing is a female job and therefore any man wanting to go into that profession must be gay ....... fuzzy logic at best
    fuzzy dumb logic I'd say.
    plus I've been told by some of the male nurses I work with that they went to nursing school initially to meet chicks....they were only joking
    but still they are as hetero as anyone can be.