Mother & Baby Dies

  1. Hi all opened the newspaper today and saw a girl that i went to school with had died.Both she and her newborn daughter.She was 22.Was wondering what the possible causes of this could be.Was thinking pre-eclamsia but not sure so any ideas you could share would be nice as it would be rude of me to call up the family and ask.My heart goes out to them.
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  3. by   MuddaMia
    Could be many reasons..one scenario is a ruptured uterus where the mother bleeds out (this was a potentail threat in my pregnancy due to scars from previous placenta accreta) .

    I am sorry to hear about your friend. Very sad
  4. by   Jolie
    Quote from tigress_8207
    Hi all opened the newspaper today and saw a girl that i went to school with had died.Both she and her newborn daughter.She was 22.Was wondering what the possible causes of this could be.Was thinking pre-eclamsia but not sure so any ideas you could share would be nice as it would be rude of me to call up the family and ask.My heart goes out to them.

    Please contact the family and offer your condolences, either by phone or card, if you prefer. They have suffered an unimaginable loss, and need every ounce of support they can get. Don't ask any questions, if they feel up to discussing the events of their daughter's and granddaughter's death, they will.
  5. by   epiphany
    Quote from Jolie
    Please contact the family and offer your condolences, either by phone or card, if you prefer. They have suffered an unimaginable loss, and need every ounce of support they can get. Don't ask any questions, if they feel up to discussing the events of their daughter's and granddaughter's death, they will.
    I couldn't give better advice than that.
  6. by   TazziRN
    I understand curiosity, but I hope that not knowing the cause is not keeping you from contacting them with your condolences. I know it's uncomfortable, but just say "I'm so sorry" and those three words will mean so much.
  7. by   RNSUEIA
    TIGRESS;
    I lost my 12 year old daughter 3 months ago and I can tell you with great conviction that the family has suffered a terrible tragedy and can use all of the kind words and deeds you can give them. Having people whisper and speculate is not what is needed here. Also their need for kindness will be there long after the funerals are over.
  8. by   mrscurtwkids4
    15 years ago I lost my son when I was 32 weeks pregnant with him due to a placental abruption. I nearly died as well. Even after 6 pints of blood, my hemoglobin was only 6 and they were telling my husband (we had only been married for 9 months on that day) that they were only giving me a 50/50 chance of surviving and was leaning toward the worse. "I'm sooo sorry" and "I'm hear to listen if you need to talk" are about the only things that can be say to those who have had a loss such as this. You wouldn't believe some of the comments people say when they don't think first, because they can be taken so poorly by the person suffering the loss. Just let them know that you are there if they need anything. That's about all you can do. And if they are willing to discuss things further, they will. All the best to everyone.

    Tammy
  9. by   t2000JC
    Just want to add that i agree with what others are saying...but also to offer RNSUEIA my condolences...my thoughts are with you..t.
  10. by   Midwest4me
    I'm sorry for the death of your friend and her baby. Just let the family know you are there for them. Losing a child(or children) is the hardest type of death to experience; I know as I've been there! My deepest condolences to you, too, RNSUEIA for such a recent loss---I am keeping you in my prayers.
  11. by   MIKelly
    If you go to the viewing or the funeral I'm sure you will find the answer to your questions.
  12. by   Jokerhill
    My condolences on the loss of your classmate. To answer your question however, there can be many reasons such as eclampsia, Fatty liver disease, HELLP syndrome, overwhelming sepsis, placenta abruption or even a pre-existing maternal problem such as a aortic anurism. The list can go on and on and include even a motor vehicle accident, but it is always a sad and heartbreaking time for all involved.
  13. by   psalm
    Amniotic Fluid Embolism claimed a friend and her baby. Very rare, about 47 worldwide per year...keep her family in your prayers, even years later.

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